One of my good guy friends is dating my one of my best friends. They have been together for about 7 months now. However, she started cheating on him about 3 months into the relationship and has continued to cheat on him ever since. He is so in love with her and she says she loves him too but I dont believe she does otherwise she wouldnt constantly cheat on him. Her close friends (including me) know about this, and no one has the guts to tell him. He has told me that sometimes he gets suspicious but he would never think she would cheat on him. I have come SO CLOSE so many times to telling him, but I haven't. She has threatened to make my life "a living hell" if I tell him. It would also break his heart but he constantly tells me to tell him anything he should "know of" meaning if she's cheating or not. They live an hour away so he gets suspiciouis. He said if I was a true friend I would not keep something like that from him. Idk what to do. Do I tell him? Do I keep lying to him?
2007-07-18 10:59:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is tricky because it could blow up in your face either way.
You could tell him and she may deny it and he could still believe her and they'd both be upset with you. He could find out and be pissed at you because you didn't tell him. You could tell him and he'd believe you and she's be upset with you.
The issue here is that this chic is lying and putting his health at risk (since it seem that she is sleeping with more than one person).
You have to decide which is more important: Losing a friend or friends because you told the truth or losing one friend because you helped to keep a potentially dangerous lie a secret.
2007-07-18 11:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were a true friend you would tell him. Wouldn't you want to know if it was the other way around? For whatever reason she is just using him and playing games with him. She doesn't care one bit about him and the cheating proves it. Your friend thinks he has found love and is happy. You need to open his eyes and let him know what has been going on. It's really a shame that you let it go on this long and still remained silent.
2007-07-18 11:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Froggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To what end? So she knows you know? How 'bout dumping her and moving on. Don't get caught up with a long debate about it. If she doesn't have the respect for you to be faithful, you really shouldn't engage in a debate about why she's a b**ch and your right and all that crap - she doesn't deserve to get all your emotional stuff so she can drag you through the mud with it. Just say you don't want to date anyone that would lie to or cheat on you. There really isn't anything more to it than that.
2016-05-17 04:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a tough one. If she is threatening you because you are trying to do the right thing, she cant be a very good friend. Let her know that she is putting you in a very awquard situation and that it really isnt fair to you. tell her if she really cares about you that she would not do this. Let your guy friend know that you really care for him and that you do not want to see him hurt. But tell him that you really feel uncomfortable getting in the middle of their relationship. Watch to see what they both do. If the situation does not get any better ask for more advice.
2007-07-18 11:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by cha-cha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would tell him and not care if she would make my life a living hell or not. She does not love him if she is cheating on him. If you really care about this guy let him know before he goes further into the relationship and does something like marry her.
2007-07-18 11:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him because he obviously has alot of trust in you. also you being both of their friends shouldn't keep things like that from either of them. and if the girl was really your friend she wouldn't keep doing things like that to people who trust or love her. TELL HIM!!! because if he finds out some other way and he knows that you knew all along then he might want to end your friendship. so then in the end you lose two friends- a great one and a lying,cheating, untrustworthy one. do the right thing and tell your friend the truth about his girlfriend. also tell her you don't "take to kindly to idle threats."
2007-07-18 11:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by lil bad azz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.
I would normally say stay out of it but what kind of a friend is she being to you by making you keep this secret from your other close friend. Especially one like this.
If you and I were good friends and you knew my bf was cheating on me and didn't tell me, I would be even more devistated knowing that I was played a fool not only by my bf but also by you.
Put yourself in his shoes....
2007-07-18 11:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dam that is tricky situation. Honestly if i were in that situation i would just mind my own business and stay out of it. It will come out that your friend is cheating on him...he will find out eventually. But you should keep out of it and if he ever asks you why you didn't tell him then just tell him you didn't know. If he knows that you did then i would just tell him that you felt like it wasn't your business to butt in and would prefer to not be involved. I would also ask your friend to not tell you anything about her cheating because you would rather not know.
2007-07-18 11:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him can damage your friendship if he doesn't believe it.
Is there a way that you can arrange for him to find out - Can a group of you go a place you know that he will see her with the cheat? Then run interference so that he doesn't do the heavy confrontation scene in public.
2007-07-18 11:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW ok...
i think you shud explain that if he found out he would be heart brocken n then try to get her to notice how bad it is to be doing that...try to get her not to cheat on him...if that doesnt work you may want to tell him...if she threatens to do somthing like that shes not a true freind anyways...
2007-07-18 11:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by SEBchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋