Why do i do this?

Question

Everytime a guy likes me, I usually like them back, but then a day later I feel really weird about it..almost guility. I stop talking to them, ignore them and end up not liking them anymore. I feel like I'm afraid of relationships or something, but I wouldn't mind being in one so i don't know whats wrong with me..Why do i do this?

Answer 1

This is something that only you can best answer.
But in an effort to get you started on your way, I think there may be something significant in the way you phrased your question.
I picked up on the part where you said "everytime a guy likes me...." It sounds to me like you feel the need to return the favour when a guy shows you that he likes you. Maybe you feel that reaction (you instantly liking him back)has a degree of safety for you. By reacting this way without any thought or hesitation, the guilt may be setting in afterwards because you have now had time to think about it. So then you shift to your other safe zone which is where you were before you even met this guy (not knowing or even liking the guy).
There may be a heightened level of anxiety for you in meeting new people, so you relay solely on your instinctive reactions because they have gotten you through these moments before. But now you are dissatisfied with the long-term outcomes, so it sounds like you are ready for a change in yourself.

Changes of this nature can be difficult to do on your own. You need to find a way to feel safer when meeting, or encountering new people (especially guys).

You touched on a potentially deep subject. I hope that what I offered you here helps you to get started on finding the answer(s) you are looking for.
God Bless.:-)

Answer 2

It sounds like you are a little shy of a relationship.
Stop thinking about your having to "like" the guy and think about developing friendships rather than relationships.
Then when the time is right things will fall into place and you will be ready because you'll understand guys better because you have had many guy friends.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. Your maybe just shy that's all. I'm like that too. I can stare at a guy for a long time and never say a word or just ignore him.

Answer 4

hey i do that too!!! lolz..its coz i dunno..i always felt like i end up doing it because i'm too scared to go further on ...and i end up thinking more than what i do...like i think about it for a long time...n trust me it does no good....now i do whatever i feel like...maybe you think about it a lot too n then u feel bad from the inside or maybe you end distrusting your instincts n bleh...coz thats what i end up doing everytime i think too much...so yeah...next time you like someone...just dun be scared....coz what is the worse that cud happen? rejection? like come on....we can deal with it eh? coz u never know unless u dun try ....its not like we're dying nyways..lolz...goodluck though....i'm still in the same situation...n i hope we both get out of it soon :D

Answer 5

maybe ur scared of what will happen if it doesnt work out

if so, focus on now, & dont worry too far ahead in life

Answer 6

Let nature run it's course. you can't constantly let your life live for you. you have to live your life.