My boyfriend and I live together and have been dating for 4 years now. I have never been with a girl, but the curiosity is overwhelming for me. I'm extremely attracted to girls (just as much as guys) and I feel like I need to experiance that side of my life to be complete.
My boyfriend understands this and told me that if I find a girl, I can date her to see what it's like. He won't leave me for it, and he doesn't have to join with me or anything like that. He just understand my needs.
What my question is, are there girls out there that are okay with just having a girl sex buddy without the commitment? And if so, would they be ok with sharing me with my boyfriend?
2007-07-18 10:34:19 · 27 answers · asked by krimsonrayne133 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend sounds like a very understanding and reasonable person, most guys would never let you do something like that. Good job on finding a guy like that.
That said, I'm sure there are girls out there willing to give this a try, the question is finding them. I suspect they're rather rare; most females, whether lesbian or straight, are looking for a relationship and not just sex. I'm also thinking that perhaps a bisexual girl would be a better bet than a strictly lesbian girl, because she might feel less like a competitor. Ideally, it would be nice to find someone in the same position as you...you could try checking out some personals websites and see if you can find someone who fits the bill.
2007-07-18 10:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try posting an ad on w4w on Craigslist for the city you live in.
Tell the women who respond what your looking for upfront before you even go out on a date. You can avoid 80% of the women with issues if you clearly state what your looking to have in a relationship with them. But remember you are bringing a whole new psycho-sexual dynamic into your life.
You could end up being very unhappy with things if you hook up with the incompatible people.
Try googling polyamory to learn more about having intimate relationships with multiple partners. It takes A LOT of maturity to make it all work out.
2007-07-18 18:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of Sex buddies out there just gottta find them... go to a club or something maybe even take boyfriend and get a girl to dance with the two of you and go from there
2007-07-18 18:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ziff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are sexually adventurous and arent looking for commitement, I dont think it would be a problem to find a girl like that.
But, be careful, Your boyfriend says okay now,- but eventually you will have to ditch her.........Thats what happened to a friend of mine.
2007-07-18 17:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by SolarSoul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that there are girls out there that wouldn't mind. A bisexual girl might be more understanding than a lesbian -- but it depends on the person more so. If you explain your situation to the girl, and she does not have a problem with it, then you are gold.
2007-07-18 17:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by January 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The feelings you're having are in your nature, but only through the desire to experience intimacy. Sex was not designed to be between females. Exploring that arena breaks the boundries of the purpose of sex and leads to an impure nature. I would focus that energy on your boyfriend.
2007-07-18 17:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if there's total honesty, you'll probably find someone who's ok with it - - but there's always the possibility that either the guy or girl decides later that they can't share you anymore - - just be careful
2007-07-18 17:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by akathepurplecow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could be that opened with my boyfriend. And I completely understand what you're saying. I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as you wouldn't have a problem with me having a bf. *wink wink* Good luck!!
2007-07-18 17:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Yummy♥ ✰ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ugh. That's no better than getting another boyfriend.
You break up if you want to cheat. Just because your boyfriend says he's OK with it, doesn't make it right.
If you really can't live without experimenting with somebody else (male or female), then break up. You owe it to your boyfriend to be with him or break up...cheating is NOT OK.
You're that curious, you break up and date whomever you want...but one at a time, OK?
2007-07-18 17:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First of all, I don't know why you would think its ok for you to go out there and find a sexbuddy, when you are currently with someone. Your bf must be very hurt inside( if he truely loves you) when you asked him if it was ok? why would you even ask if it was ok ? when you deal with questions like this. Always ask yourself. what would i think if my bf came up to me one day, and asks. "hey, do you think i can go out there and find another sexbuddy? like would you be ok with that ?" and no, just because it is the homosexual, does not make it ok, relationship wise.
2007-07-18 17:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by EW4221 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋