Should I resort to eHarmony?

Question

OK, I'm the typical "nice guy", which means that I don't get many dates. Women go for the flashier, "hotter", "bad boy" types. They're more likely to tell me they're busy.
I live in a rural area, and the pickin's are getting very slim as the ladies are getting married, engaged, etc. I don't know anyone available to date (my age, anyway), and my friends claim they don't either.
Is it time to break down and try eHarmony? Has anyone had an experience with them and can give me an idea of how good they are to work with, results, etc.? Anyone have any other recommendations for me?

Ohio farm country. The cows are no longer laughing at my jokes.

Answer 1

If you're ready to try it, give it a go. I had a friend that went through a site like that and she's been married for 3 years now. It can't hurt to try right? I've thought about taking that route myself so if I come up with any recommendations I'll let you know. ☺

P.S. The cows are just prudes! ☺

Answer 2

If you feel that you are getting old enough to really settle down and have a family, but no one is coming to you, then I think eHarmony is a good idea. I heard a lot of good things about it and the founder is a genius. You can make a free profile.

That's actually my back-up plan LoL. If by 30, I'm not married yet.... I'm going straight to eHarmony. =}


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Answer 3

Go for it regarding breaking down and resorting to eHarmony...Men get 3x's the matches as women do- you'll have fun if anything when getting all kinds of attention : )

I met/got to know two of the greatest guys through my experience with eHarmony (I know both will be lifetime friendships). Currently I am in a relationship with someone I met outside of eHarmony (but was also, like myself, an eHarmony subscriber at one time) . I believe my experience and what I learned about myself & about relationships through those two awesome men has helped lay a good foundation for my current relationship. It's the greatest feeling when you came across someone who you are compatible with on so many different levels...its like the meeting of yourself! It's a great validation that there are others out there who think like you do.

As far as how good it works...it depends on what you are hoping to get out it. I went into it thinking "yeah it would be cool to find my soulmate, but above anything I want to learn more about myself..." And that is exactly what happend...major growth for me as a person.

Good Luck. Give eHarmony a try...I'd recommend it to anyone. Who knows maybe your soulmate is just a waiting to meet you!!

Oh and if I had to pick out a few major drawbacks...One would be the time you'll spend filling out the questionare, also its more costly than other online dating services, AND it might take some time finding a match that you are truly interested in getting to know.

Answer 4

You have to be more than nice. Girls are attracted to men they find interesting. A guy who just acts nice around them gets boring to them real quick.

A girl who is attracted only to bad boys is not for you anyway. Steer clear of them; they are immature and lack the confidence and self-respect to get with a Real Man.

eHarmony is an expensive joke. They don't let you choose who you want; they choose for you. You only get hooked up with women of the same age, religion, and race as you, no exceptions. You have to answer hundreds of questions before you get any referrals, and that takes a lot of time.

Work on your self-confidence skills. Think about fun things you like to do and then start doing them as a hobby away from work. The women will be there.

Actually, women are everywhere: stores, libraries, concerts, the lake, downtown, all over. It's a lot cheaper to develop your self-confidence ( to a woman, nothing is a bigger turn on than a man who is confident) than it is to join eHarmony or any other dating website.

Answer 5

I had some memorable dates and even one relationship that lasted about six months when I was on eharmony, but in the end I met my wife through a friend.

I think its good for casual dating and if that is what you are looking for then its worth th price... but if you are looking for someone special you might have better luck getting struck by lightning.

Dan

Answer 6

Ok, it is for the most part true... girls always fall for the bad boy image...however, we want best of both worlds. Be able to stick up for yourself is the big thing. However, be sensitive to our needs, but make us work for it too. Otherwise, we may walk all over you. Be honest, trustworthy and give us some attitude sometimes...it kind of turns us on.
Don't necessarily go get yourself a bar fly, but go out and have a little liquid courage. Do you have game? Try it out on a girl and if it doesn't work big deal...practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the more you find out what you like and don't in a girl. You don't have to give it up, but make her feel sexy...Don't give in too soon. Play cool.
Try Eharmony... it can at least give you some practice. Good Luck

Answer 7

I am not familiar with EHarmony. Do you have to pay to join it? I am not a fan of paying for memberships online. There are plenty of free dating sites. And if it is free, then it is worth the shot.

I have heard about people having good and bad experiences with online dating sites. So, you'd have to give it a chance!

Answer 8

There has to be a town with a book store or a museum somewhere past the cow fields!
Go OUT young man, in the real world were you make EYE contact with REAL girls who aren't hiding behind the thin screen!
If you went out every day, hunting for the vibe, watching eyes, you'd be 10 levels above the web dating engineering, waisting away the good techniques of dating girls and guys EVERYWHERE!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

My Farmers Insurance agent is now married to his eHarmony date. She worked 11 miles away and they are both in their 40's. I can't remember when she wasn't with him :) They are going on their 3rd year of marriage and buying a home.