I love my fiancee very much!!! He is my everything. But sometimes the things he does or says just makes me think less of him. We are getting married in 5 months is there something wrong with me or am i just over thinking things.
2007-07-18 09:52:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Postpone the wedding 6mths and see how you feel. I f he leaves you then you have your answer
2007-07-18 09:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by scotto destructo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should seriously think about putting the wedding on hold until you get this stuff figured out. You shouldn't keep pushing forward just because you don't want to let everyone down, etc. You can let him know that it doesn't mean you don't love him, it just means that there are behaviors he needs to reform before you can get married. Every time I start thinking like that I know I'm going to wind up ending the relationship. It's called falling out of love and it happens gradually. It doesn't mean you can't stop it, it just means you guys need to do some serious communicating and he's going to have to help you through this. If he really is the one for you, he'll probably freak out at first, but then he'll come around and realize that you're talking about it because you DO still love him. Also, I would talk to him BEFORE doing anything drastic (like what I suggested above) sometimes these feelings will get worse because you let them brew. If he is to be your future husband, you need to be open and honest. He should be in on this hard time WITH you.
2007-07-18 10:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should bring on some big red flags.. If you are having that serious of doubts about whether or not you love him, call the wedding off, if even just temporarily, and maybe break it off w him. Especially if the issues are over little things, like things he says. You need sit down and do a little analyzing it sounds like.. Make a list of the reasons why you love him, then maybe a list of reason why you are having doubts. Ask yourself about these doubts, can you live w these little quirks that he has for the rest of your life? If not, save yourself from divorce now and don't get married. Go to marriage counseling maybe even, or give yourself a vacation away from him so you can get your thoughts together
2007-07-18 09:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh do I know how you feel! I'm getting married in October and I've been going through a lot of the same feelings. Remember, right now you are looking at everything that happens and thinking "OMG I'm going to spend the rest of my life putting up with this...?!?!" It can be really over whelming and cloud your judgement. Your fiance is going to spend the rest of his life annoying you, but that's part of the reason you love him. Don't worry, things will settle down. =)
2007-07-18 10:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mala M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he says or does these things try to talk with him about it. Ask him why he does or says them-what is his thought process. He might have something going on in his head that would make these things make perfect sense. I have been irate with my husband before but when I talked with him about the issue he had a perfectly good reason for doing or saying what he did. Communication is key in any relationship so with any problem or difference try to talk it out as best you can. If his answers don't ease your mind, perhaps you don't love him and are not ready for marriage. Only you know.
2007-07-18 09:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by sadgirlinms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think that you are just Over thinking things a little to much. Marriage is a wonderful thing, Most people do get scared or freaked out by it. Just take it one day at a time and let him know that you love him.
2007-07-18 09:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by chris m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friends mother always used to tell us
"If you say 'I love him, but...' that is not the boy for you"
You seem to be saying this to yourself, you can get annoyed with him, but if his actions cause you to think "less of him" I dont think this is the best idea for marriage. Have you spoken to your mother or your best friend, alot of times they have insight into our mates that we dont see because we are kind of blinded by love, I would ask their honest opinions on what they think and if they think you are missing seeing something in him that others do. But be prepared for any answer, good or bad that they give you.
2007-07-18 09:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are naive, and have story-book expectations of love and marriage... No one's perfect, and you too probably do or say things your fiancé isn't very fond of. When you marry someone, you have to be able to accept and tolerate the other person 24/7.
That said, you have to be aware of your boundaries between what is and isn't acceptable to you. Make sure the important stuff is squared away, and don't sweat the small issues.
2007-07-18 10:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are probably getting sick off each other. if you leave to go somewhere for a while without him then you would love him more than eva so just take a break when you feel like you don't love him and talk to him and see if he feels the same way!!
If you come home and you still feel you don't love him then you don't
2007-07-18 10:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kaley B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to worry. Try to imagine spending the rest of your life with him. If you cant imagine yourself being happy then maybe you should think this through. And talk to him, keeping this to yourself is not a good way to start a marriage!
2007-07-18 09:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Story 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's how I felt about my ex-boyfriend (we were planning on getting married). I never felt that way about my husband when we were dating and we have been married 10 yrs now.
I don't know if that is the norm, but that's how I felt.
2007-07-18 09:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋