Low self-esteem/confidence?

Question

I have low self-esteem or self-confidence. I'm a shy guy who's never had a girlfriend. How do I overcome this? I want to be comfortable talking to anyone. & I want to be happy.

Answer 1

write down the good things about yourself and you them to your advantage. Talk to yourself (not in public) i know it sounds crazy but if you get your word jucies flowing then you can talk to anyone

Answer 2

I am going to put this on my Blog.

But here you go...

You need to stop telling yourself that you are shy and have low self esteem. That is a negative message that you will believe more deeply everytime you say it to yourself.

So this is how you change it.

Look in the Mirror, look yourself straight in the eye and say:
"I am a confident man. I can talk to anybody" Say it 100 times a day until you believe it.
Now, after a month change your mantra to:
"I am a great guy, women love me."
From then on pick a thougt that you think can help you and say it to yourself over and over until you believe it.

That's what you got to do.

Answer 3

Try getting into a hobby/sport that you are interested in. Or take a college course in something you'd like to learn. Doing what you enjoy will make you more comfortable and it will make it that much easier to talk to people who share the same interests.

Answer 4

Dude you need to start thinking more positively about yourself just try to be more friendly, smile more, stand tall because if you don't see yourself as a worthwhile kind of guy that's how the girls are gonna see you as the key is having confidence

hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 5

Make the final decision in your mind to be active in your social life instead of hoping and dreaming for something to magically happen. You must be willing to take the initiative and, immeadiately thereafter, take the initiative itself! Your own worst enemy at this point is you!

Answer 6

One reason that you have low self-confidence, I suspect, is that you think that you have to make everyone like you in order for you to be considered a good person. This is an impossible goal, because some people will never like you for absolutely no good reason what-so-ever. You must realize that the negative opinion of just one insecure person does not determine who you are. Get your affirmation from your close friends and family, not from strangers. If someone does not like you, then assume that their negative reaction says NOTHING about you as a person; it probably says more about THEM, or the kind of rotten day that they are having, than it does about you. In other words, quit taking it personally whenever someone doesn't want to talk to you, or they otherwise react in a negative way to you. There are hundreds of reasons why they don't want to talk to someone right now that have nothing at all to do with you, or what you just did/said. Quit taking rejection from strangers personally. If they don't like you, then tell yourself that it is their loss, not yours, since they missed out on getting to know someone as nice as you.

It also helps your self confidence if you assume that most people are nice, and that they have no (good) reason not to like you. If you come across as confident, positive, funny, and happy, then of course most people will want to talk to you. If you come across as needy, desperate, shy, and/or no self-confidence, people will assume that something is wrong with you, and they will run away. To some extent, you do make your own reality when it comes to making friends. If you assume the worst, then you will get bad results because you make it happen. If you assume the best, you will usually get good results, because you will make it happen. Your attitude will be contagious.

Also make sure that you maintain good eye contact whenever you talk to someone. This is a BIG one, especially when talking to girls. If you are talking to a girl, and you are a shy guy who tends to look down at the ground when you are talking to someone, then most girls will assume that either: (i) you are a pervert who is trying to look down her shirt at her boobs; (ii) you aren't paying attention; (iii) you are a loser who lacks self confidence; or, (iv) all of the above. If you must, stare at the bridge of her nose when talking (or try looking at just one (1) eye at a time) -- if this makes you less nervous than full eye contact. If you MUST break eye contact with her because you are getting too nervous, then do it by looking away horizontally, as if you were looking for someone else; NEVER look down! And another thing, if you are looking at someone across a crowded room and you accidentally make eye contact, do NOT do what most shy guys do -- do NOT immediately look away as if you have been caught doing something wrong (makes her think that you are a psycho stalker if you are afraid to look her in the eye). If you accidentally make eye contact with a stranger across the room, then keep looking at her eyes for as long as you can stand it, or until SHE looks away first. Then ignore her until you feel like you are ready to go over and talk to her. Do not keep stealing glances at her when you think that she isn't looking (she sees you -- believe me). You don't want to come across as a needy, desperate person who might be a stalker. Trust me, eye contact and self-confidence (one implies the other) really is a big deal to many women.

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Answer 8

Remember, if you act cool, you are cool. No one's gona make fun of you for acting like everyone else. Jeesh!

Answer 9

Just do it