To date or not to date Single Parents?

Question

Women, do you automatically get turned off to a man because has kids at home all the time? Does age the children matter?

Men, do you automatically get dismiss a woman because she a single parent?

Answer 1

I'm a single parent and I think a lot depends on how the kids behave, how your relationship with your ex is, and how old the children are (the younger - the more demanding usually)... I haven't had much of a problem. I am very upfront about the fact that I have a child and if they don't like it - they can leave me then....before I get feelings for that person. My child will always be there... like it or leave it.

Answer 2

That is a tough question to answer. It sometimes sucks for the single parent, but the truth is that a person should NOT date a single parent if they are not prepared for the serious possibility of being a parent themselves. If things get serious, you can essentially expect to become a father or mother figure in the children's life. If you are not prepared for that responsibility, then getting involved with a single parent is not a good idea. It may make it difficult for single parents to date, well-deserving individuals to be sure, but it is in everyone's best interest that the interested parties both have the children in mind. You are not being mean to not date a single parent if you are not ready. You are doing that parent and their children a big favor. If you are prepared to be a parental figure, however, then all the power to you! Single parents are wonderful.

Answer 3

As a single parent I never wasted my time on anyone who wasn't cool with the idea of me having a kid at home. With the exception of a rare booty call, why bother. Why would you ever want to expose your kid or compromise yourself for a person who was against one of your most defining qualities.

I am not offended by people who say they would never date a single parent because it can be complicated... because it can and usually is... however many of these complications also can turn out to be blessing if you are serious about a long-term relationships... most of the time single parents are more responsible, more caring and more experienced in dealing with stress then non-parents.

All that said, being a parent is just another label (race, religion, job type) that only puts us in a box it does not mean that we are all the same.

Dan

Answer 4

I think its a turn on for a man to have kids who are at home all the time. Even part of the time. Every other weekend and cant wait to see them next week.

It makes date planning a bit hard but oh well.

I am a single parent and i am really not in the mood to deal with anyone who doesnt have kids.

Answer 5

I am a single parent to 2 young children and dating a guy whom is single and childless. He is 6 years older than me. It doesnt seem to bother him but he hasnt met them yet cause I am so scared that if things dont work out that I will mess their minds up. i know it will have to happen if we become more serious but one day at a time!

Answer 6

I would say not to be afraid of single parents, after all, single mothers especially get a lot of jibes about it or no one will give them a chance.
Just think about what you would do if you were a single parent, what kind of girls would you date and how would you want people to treat you.

Answer 7

It's not an ideal set up for romance because more than likely you will be playing second fiddle to the kids and if you're not prepared for that going into the relationship;date someone childless.

Answer 8

I won't date a guy with kids at home. (The younger the kids are, the less likely I would be to make an exception.)

Answer 9

I would NEVER date a single parent, with kids of any age.

I don't like kids to begin with, but even if that weren't the case, it's just so much baggage to deal with. I don't need that.

Answer 10

i wouldnt. i want to get to know the person if the relationship is strong and goes longterm....u take all of it...a child is part of that person you fall in love with..why wouldnt ya.