There was a debate a few days ago on the radio about wether or not females should pay for their meal etc on a date. Some said yes because of the world of equality we now live in. Others said no. Wot do you think?
2007-07-18 08:44:26 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on the female, if she wants equal rights then she better pay for her food. I personally would prefer to let the guy pay but then again I am cheap. LOL
2007-07-18 08:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Linz ♥ VT 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I think it depends on whether the girl asked you out in the date or whether the male asked her out, but that's just for starters.
I personally am old fashioned and like to pay for the date, and if I don't have the money I don't go on a date, but that's just my opinion.
I have always paid for all of my dates.
It is also down to the girl, if she wants to pay for something, then I wont say no, but I will let her pay for the cheapest thing
:-) because I also believe in equal rights.
2007-07-18 08:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by knights_in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good rule of thumb...
If you ask her on a date, you pay
If she asks you she pays
At least for the first 2-3 dates
If you want her to pay her share of the meal, just make sure you tell her before hand...there's nothing worse than thinking that you're being treated to a nice dinner only to have your date ask you for a $20 when the bill comes.
2007-07-18 08:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ask a girl to pay on the first date. Always offer to pay for all dates after. If the girl is decent, she'll offer to pay for some of the meals. A gentleman will object, but give in sometimes.
2007-07-21 16:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does depend on the two individuals.
I am old fashioned and feel that the guy should always pay for the date, but I have been in situations where we shared by doing things like.....
If we ate dinner at a restaurant, he paid... but then later if we stopped at a place for icecream, I paid.
or
If neither of us had money... we would cook dinner at one of our houses and he might cook, but I'd do dishes afterwards.
There are ways to balance it out so that one person doesn't feel taken advantage of. Because while I agree that men should pay, I will say that there are some chicks out there who love to take advantage of the situation, and that's not right.
2007-07-18 09:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by daizies24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u know it all depends of the guy. because when i personally go out in a group including guys and i try to pay for my own meal or movie ticket the guys step in and pay. but that's when u go out as friends, in a date the guy should do the paying the first few times, i dunno about other girls, but after the first 2 or 3 dates i wouldn't mind paying every once in a while.
but like i said it depends of the guy some don't allow girls to pay, others do.
2007-07-18 10:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair, yes. If you want another date though, I wouldn't suggest it. :)
My rule (as a woman) was always that, if I asked the guy out, I'd pay. Hey, it was my idea, I'd feel rude asking them to split the bill. Sometimes he accepted, sometimes he insisted on a split.
If I was asked, I'd always offer to split the bill when it arrived. Same rules apply - sometimes he'd refuse and I'd give in gracefully, other times I'd insist and we'd split the bill. It didn't make any difference to me.
I don't there's any right answer to this, it just depends on the kind of person you are, and the kind of person you're dating.
2007-07-18 08:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Xanthy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its fair but I personally don't think you should ask. You should expect to pay for the meal because its the gentlemanly thing to do. If she offers and it is an expensive meal or your a little short on cash and in a tight you might let her pay for half. But you should pay for the meal in my opinion.
2007-07-18 08:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some women rely on the men to do this as a gentlemen. Okay today is different, but I believe that if "whoever" asks the other on a date should pay, most women do pitch in or offer. But if you ask to met him/her somewhere or spend some time together.. then it is "DUTCH".. each pays they're own.
2007-07-18 08:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Charley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The check should go to whoever initiated the date, regardless of boy/girl issues. I however, never expect someone to pay for me (although it's a nice gesture and scores whoever brownie points!). I always offer. :)
The equality thing is a seperate issue entirely....men still make more than women in most cases...at least in the US.
2007-07-18 08:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by belle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well their are quick enough to quate equal rights where males get paid more than females in some jobs. So why not pay for a meal when out on a date. That is Equality.
2007-07-18 08:48:29 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋