first i told my boyfriend to bring me the picture that we took together when he comes off work so he said maybe only so i wasn't sure if he was going to come. then later my friends call me to go to their place so i said yeah and i went to spend time with my friends seen it's been like months that i have been with them. so before i left i call my boyfriend about it then he got mad and won't talk to me. He said i shouldn't of left and just stay home. So what do you think should i get mad becuz he won't let me spend time with my friends.
2007-07-18 08:35:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many reasons why he did so. First, someone Else's anger taken out on you, Second, he really needed u at that point but u left. He is so hurt that he can't speak abt it now.
I suggest take out some time for him. Go for a lovely dinner. Be really cool and act as if u r VERY happy to be there with him. AFTER dinner is done, ask him why he got mad. I bet he will surely burp out the truth
2007-07-18 08:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by goddess_of_fame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not mad because you are spending time with your friends, he is mad because you backed out on plans with him and ditched him. He was supposed to come over right? Yes-he said "maybe" but did he mean maybe on bringing that picture or maybe on coming over? and was he just joking around? You ditched him-apologize and dont be mad at him.
Also-as for your time with the girls-you haven't seen them in months? You need more time apart from the boyfriend. It isn't healthy to have all of your free time spent with him. Have a mandatory once a month girls night. That is what i do. It allows me to talk about makeup, guys, and tampons...and catch up with my girls. It is healthy to also maintain other relationships in your life besides the one with your boyfriend. Remember-your friends were there a lot longer than him-dont ditch them just because you have him.
2007-07-18 15:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his behavior is a bit extreme, I mean I would have called him and told him I was going to step out for a few just out of common courtesy in case he was thinking of stopping by he wouldn't waste a trip, . . but since he hadn't really given you a definite yes, or no about coming over, it wasn't really breaking any plans. I have learned that in life, when people try to stifle your relationships with others, it's a red flag pay attention. There are always going to be other people, hobbies . . outside interests that we have and that's what makes us individuals. Friends, loved ones, significant others should enhance your life, not become it. That's how folks get caught up and can't deal with their emotions in relationships, there's not the proper balance, because only God should be your focal point.
2007-07-18 15:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a wee bit controlling. You have a perfect right to spent time with your friends if you havne't seen them in a long time. A lot of women get to see their friends every weekend and their husband/boyfriends don't mind at bit. You should explain to your boyfriend that it was very selfish of him to get mad at you, and if he doesn't understand, quit talkin' to him for a while.
2007-07-18 15:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad. There is no reason for him to expect you to just sit at home waitin on him, you have a life to. You really do have every right to be mad at him b/c he's taking things a little to far.
2007-07-18 15:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by In love with life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooooooooo dont be mad at him for sure.... he is just trying to be protective and maybe not in the best way. you need to just tell him that u needed some friend time and that you are sorry that you didnt get to spend the time with him
2007-07-18 15:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.... he should be mad... because he probably had been planning a romantic evening with you but he wanted it to be a surprise... and you just screwed it all by ditching him...
and now he can't tell you about how much time and effort he put into it and why he's mad.... because he might try it again and would still want it to be a surprise...
way to go...
2007-07-18 15:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by ShinerKazzmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been mad, you called asked him to come over and you then changed your mind and wanted to do something else.
2007-07-18 15:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you are already on lock down. You need to talk this over with your bf, cause some of the details are missing from your story. Why would he get upset about you hanging out with your friends?
2007-07-18 15:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont b mad u need to let your man know that youhave friends Im sure he does. He need to know that its only natural for you to want to hang with them sometimes.
2007-07-18 15:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋