I am afraid she will freak out and not walk down the isle I am in the wedding and so is my husband.so is my 5 yr. old she is a flower girl and the 2 yr. old was supposed to be one as well. She is very shy and immature for her age.
2007-07-18 08:17:36 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
2 years old really is not old enough. she will probably get scared and cry. :( i would tell your sister you are happy you asked her, but don't think it's a good idea and should just stick to the 5 year old.
2007-07-18 08:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dont do it, she is WAY too young. My daughter has been asked a few times, but this saturday at the age of 5 is the first time I have ever agreed because she is old enough and even still, I have reservations about this.
You are right, mothers always are, dont let anyone undermine what you think, you are wary for specific and completely founded reasons. There will be other weddings.
BTW, I also have a 2 year old, she's not even attending the wedding, it wont be any fun for her to have to sit still and not run around and yell and cavort like 2 year olds like to, I am leaving her with grandma and grandpa, if you have this option I would recommend it. Your attention will need to be focused elsewhere than chasing a 2 year old and she will have a much better time being spoiled by the grands.
Good luck!
PS Some of these answers really cracked me up, you can tell who isnt a parent and has no expericence with children! I especially enjoyed the one about telling her she's going to get into trouble if she misbehaves, yeah, you should try that, I bet it would work!
2007-07-18 08:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this instead , Buy a little bit larger basket for the flower petals,, have the 5 year old and the two year old hold the basket together with one hand and with the other , use for the flowers..That way they are walking side by side and the younger one might not freak out..Also be prepared to have maybe a grand parent be willing to get her if she starts freaking out..at the rehearsal have some of the guest sitting in the seats staring at them so she will know what is going to happen..If she doesn't do well at the rehearsal..just forget it .
2007-07-18 08:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old flower girl...but my ring bearers (my fiance's nephews) are ages 3 and 1. Their parents are also in the wedding... could be interesting, but I think it will be fine... If they don't do it just perfect ( and they won't!) it's okay! If your sister wants her to be in it then do it! She might do okay if she holds her big sis's hand and it also would be a good idea to have someone who is not in the wedding to stand at the back with her to make her feel more at ease so she doesn't get upset when it is her turn to walk down the aisle.
2007-07-18 08:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the issue that she is immature or not she is 2. The weddings we do it just an added expense to dress a 2 or 3 year up for this and they won't do anything you want them to do walk the aisle, pictures, sit still, crying, wanting someone to hold them all the time because of being shy it's really not a good place to have children that young. They wont' know whats going on anyways. It's better to leave the little one home actually because I love kids, but someone is going to have to watch her so she doesn't get tramped on when your guest get to drinking and having fun. If your going to have her there for the wedding pictures and eating have someone ready to take her home when she gets tired or fussy.
2007-07-18 08:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if the two year old has been asked, I would let her. But I would make sure your sister understands that she may not actually do it. I'll be using my three-year-old niece as a flower girl, but I completely expect her to freak out and not do it. It's more about getting to dress her up, make her feel special and have her in the pictures.
Also, if you have the two girls walk down the aisle together, it's much less intimidating and easier on both of them. Practicing it at home will also help them not be nervous about what they're supposed to be doing.
2007-07-18 09:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby's niece was the flower girl in our friend's wedding a few years ago. She was 4, and she FREAKED out, and refused to walk down the isle!!!! I would say no, but maybe if you had the 5 year old pull her down the isle in a wagon or something, that might be better. Kids that young are so unpredictable, you never know what's going to happen. She might make it down, or she might freak out. Good luck!!!
2007-07-18 08:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people get a kick out of a 2 year old running down the isle...
If you think your 2 year old shouldnt be in the wedding, then dont do it...
If you want to give it a try, then go for it! Everyone loves babies!!
2007-07-18 09:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by ツ Connors Mommy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly think that 2 is awfully young for a baby to be in a wedding for all the reasons you gave there.
However, babies do belong in weddings - tears and screaming and all. They are, after all, a part of building a family.
So carry your littlest in your arms and let her toddle about and play with the flower petals. Hold her - or give her to Grandmother during the saying of the vows.
2007-07-18 08:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just married in May and my niece was my flower girl and she'll be TURNING 2 in September. She did amazing. And who cares if she freaks out, cries, stops dead in her tracks??? That's the cutest and funnest part about the whole thing! Everyone got the biggest kick out of my niece walking down the aisle in her adorable little dress. What we ended up doing is we stationed my sister's mother-in-law (niece's grandmother) in the front side pew. As soon as my niece walked down the aisle and stood for the few minutes it took for me to get down the aisle, my niece was then scooted over to her grandmother so she wasn't standing in the front for 20 minutes. It worked out perfectly. We also gave her a piece of her favorite candy to hold as she walked down the aisle and she was allowed to have another piece once she got to her grandmother. Give your daughter some credit and a little bit of faith. If your sister wants her niece to be her flower girl and doesn't mind the little mishap that may result from her just being her cute little self, let it happen and have fun with it!
2007-07-18 08:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can a 2 year be immature, she is only a baby. Perhaps you should hire a baby sitter for her instead of having her in the wedding, could be a very long day for you and the child. I think that is way to young to be in a wedding, she doesn't really understand the concept. Good Luck and Congrats to your sis.
2007-07-18 08:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by bluebird 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋