I met this boy 5 months ago at a party and I was pretty wasted and we hooked up. My friends and I became good friends with his friends after that night, & pretty much Ive been in his circle ever since. Every time I hang out with his friends, he is there. Me and him have hooked up one other time after that first night. I've liked him from the first time I've seen him. He says he is not looking for a relationship, and I don't think we could have a relationship because he is a typical bad boy- cold, dont give a care attitude, likes sleeping with girls, etc.
However, every time I see him I get reminded of what I want more than anything and what I will never have - HIM. Idk what it is about him, but its unlike anything ive felt for anyone before. All my friends know how much I liked him, and although I've tried to "move on" and tell ppl Im over him, in my heart I know I will never be "over him." I cant look at him without my heart skipping a beat. Please give me advice.
2007-07-18 08:13:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same feeling before... the trick is if you try to forget about it then you're going to want them more. So stop trying to control your feelings. If you like him, you like him, but you're going to have to tell yourself that and eventually it'll go away. Just be cool and everything should be fine. And stop trying to sike yourself out into thinking that you don't like him. Give him sometime maybe he'll come around and maybe he won't, but you will always know that you're better than any man that ever comes your way. AND PLEASE don't hook up with him anymore.
2007-07-18 08:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never get him by pining. If you stop caring the tables might turn. Also, you sound pretty young, so TRUST ME, you WILL get over him. Find some other activities to keep you busy. Join a karate class or habitat for humanity or be a counselor for a boys and girls club or something like that. That kind of thing will help you out on three sides:
1) it will keep you busy so you don't think about the creep
2) it will create a feeling of fulfillment and enrich your life a little more, making you a cooler, happier person all around
3) people who go out and do things like that on their own are HOT. It makes for interesting conversation and when el creepo (or god forbid some really nice guy that comes along who will treat you right) sees this instead of you pining for him, he'll wish he hadn't played it so cool.
Trust me, when you find something better to focus your attention on (and stick with it), the pain will be replaced with this nice little feeling of self-fulfillment. I know from experience.
2007-07-18 08:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That very thing happened to me 8 months ago, he told me that I was a really pretty girl and nice but he did not know if I am looking for a relationship and me being a girl liking him, i did what you did. So this is what i did about it. Don't tell anyone that you still like him not even your best friend, it will get back to him don't even act like it. Don't call him and when he calls you don't pick it up. I know it will be hard, I've been there trust me it works. I also flirted with other guy when he was not around and when he was around, most of them are his friend but i new it would get back to him. If he thinks you are really over him, that's when thing change he will be after you. It worked for me and now i have been with this guy for 6 months and he is crazy about me.
2007-07-18 08:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him. There will be someone that will pay attention to you in a way that you find appealing. When he does, you will forget all about those feelings have right now.
Be patient and stop thinking about what could have been. Go out and make your destiny
2007-07-18 08:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Go Dogs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question! He isn't looking for a relationship, he's a bad boy, cold, dgas attitude, likes sleeping with girls. I know you can't be desperate. What you are feeling is lust, and you'll only feel it when you see him. Think this through, you know you're smarter than that.
2007-07-18 08:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your in love with the wrong person. Dont waste your life with that bad boy. Theres a lot of guys out there for you. Good luck
2007-07-18 08:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to move on cuz you'll just be hurting yourself to keep hoping for something that you'll never have.
2007-07-18 08:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have hooked up twice with a guy who doesn't care about you?????? Are you stupid?????? You can get over him if you try. It takes will power. Something you seem to be lacking. Respect yourself from now on. Don't just hook up with any guy. For all you know, he just gave you a death sentence(AIDS). Get smart, get tested. and leave him alone.
2007-07-18 08:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you are feeling is LUST it is not love. you just need to face the facts that when you hooked up the first night as a result of being drunk that there will never be anything more. Face the facts and get over it!
2007-07-18 08:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Big Mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so i was in your position 7 yeasrs ago, that bad boy was my husband. i met him when i was 17 and he was 23 he was your typical bad boy. we hooked up and i had a huge crush on him but he only wanted to be friends with me. i worked with him and had to painfully watch him go out with other girls until one day he decided he wanted to be with me. when we got together he was still sort of hard to tame but he has done a complete 180 and now we are married. so i say go for it bc you never know what could happen. he may chnage when he grows up a bit so go fo rit
2007-07-18 08:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋