what to do when you are in love with 2 different people?

Question

I am in love with 2 men,well i love one and care alot bout the other man.I have lived with the one man that i care bout for 7 years and things just keep getting worser,and now he is trying to tell be all this and I think it is to late for that.I just dont want to hurt his feeling.someone help me

Answer 1

Hope they don't find out about each other

Answer 2

I don't believe you can be romantically in love with 2 people at once. You have already made the choice (deep down you already know) and are selfish for letting it go on for much longer. No matter what happens there is someone that is going to really get hurt from all this and you are just delaying the inevitable.

Answer 3

There's no way a person can be in love with 2 different people. You obviously have deeper feelings for one of them. Check & see where your heart is the most and go with that option. Don't be a fool & get your feelings hurt in the long run. Make a wise choice.

Answer 4

Just pick one and live with the consequences. If you don't, you'll lose them both. If you love them equally, then treat it practically. Which one is the best bet for a long-term, committed relationship? Take that one and don't look back. If you REALLY love them both, you'll do it now and save them the pain and suffering of figuring it out. Even the one you dump will be better off, knowing it is over and they can move on and find someone else. Just do it.

Answer 5

I have been in your situation before. You can love two people at the same time but for different reasons. You have to sit down and really think about the person that you think you would be the happiest with and go with that person. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You rethink your question because you can't be truly in love with 2 different people. You can be in lust and possibly very infatuated but that is all. You need to really look at the situation. It is hard to answer without having much information.

Answer 7

If your heart cannot decide, you need a more scientific approach. Obviously, you can't keep both. Write down all the things you like and dislike about them, all the good and bad things, weigh them against each other, and make your pick.

Answer 8

I hope that u know first that u love them for different reasons and in different ways. Try to figure what u love them for and then figure out which love is most important to u. That should boil u to just one - that is, if that's what u want. If u can have both - then so be it! If it works for them - then helz it will definitely work for you! Good Luck

Answer 9

sounds like your "love" has an expiration date. but, to seriously think one person will fulfill all your wants is an exercise in self deception or surrender. as with much in life, if total security is what you seek, some freedom must be lost. if the "seven year itch" has surfaced and you intend to act on it, be prepared for consequences. some of which may not be to your liking.

Answer 10

You may love BOTH of them, but possibly in two different ways.

You may love one of them sexually and so even get married to that one, and the other one you may love platonically, and thus not get married to that other one. If you have difficulties in deciding, you may toss a coin, or use some other smarter trick of your own knowledge.

Formally (legally) in our part of the World you may not be allowed to marry both of them contemporarily. This means that if you absolutely want to marry both of them you may have to do it sequentially, that is, you marry the one, then you divorce that one, and so you marry the other one.

Informally in our part of the World you all can mostly do whatever you like to do together. You might choose to live together all the three of you. You might have to choose or to invent a good strategy for you all that would ensure that you three can live together happily, healthily, and in most other ways safely.

Then if you are a moslem you may have the possibility of more lawful wives, and if you are a nayar you may have the possibility of more husbands. But if we live in a more primitive world, and you have two wives while I have no wife, I will seek to kill you so that I may get your wives for my own genes to triumph.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Think about what each one means to you. Answer these questions and you should have your answer: when you feel alone and want to spend time with someone, who comes to your mind first? when something really great happens, who do you want to share it with? Think about who makes you feel the best when you are with them. There's your answer...