If fathers are so overprotective with their teenage daughters, why do many fathers be extra extra overprotective with their first daughter and the first daughter have no friends and is so anti-social that people talk about her introvertness all the time and on the other hand, fathers are so so so lenient with their second daughter and the second daughter wind up getting pregnant at age 15 and dropping out of school at age 17? Why can't fathers protect their daughters equally? Why don't fathers do their job right?
2007-07-18 08:00:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I take it you're a first daughter too???
Dads don't have it easy...with the first child they often aren't sure of the whole parenting thing so they kind of "go overboard" and want to protect & coddle the kid to the point of suffocation. But by the second or third child, they take a "devil-may-care" attitude and the kid can sometimes turn out pretty wild.
It's not easy for either of the kids but it's something that can be forgiven in most cases...give your daddy a break!
2007-07-18 08:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mlle A 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Go ask your father and let him tell you,psychotic is right.Your father has obviously done something to upset you,or you threw a tantrum because you didnt or dont always get your way.If children would do what they are asked to do the "JOB" as you call it,would be much easier for both parents.You might want to see a counselor about this,the more times I read your question,the more I see just how angry you are,you do need some professional help.I fathered 2 daughters,love and protect them both equally,as do most parents,so next time before you go throwing people into one big cauldron to boil them,think first.All situations at home arent like yours.
2007-07-18 15:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My father had 5 daughters. None were so overprotected that they became introverts and none were so under protected that they got pregnant at 15. I would say that my father protected all of us equally and we all turned out great.
2007-07-18 15:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers love their daughters equally, and with the first daughter, they have no experience, so they have to try their hardest to do what's best. By the time the 2nd daughter rolls around, they already have an idea of what to do. I know, sucks to be us. Good luck!
2007-07-18 15:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm...because they are men?
Seriously, they try to do their very best to raise their children, and they wind up over-doing it with the first child, so much that they can see their "fathering" has caused harm. In order to not cause harm to the next, they under-do the teaching, only to find that it also causes harm. By the third daughter, they give up.
That's okay though, because generally the third daughter has witnessed all of this and learned by proxy and turns out to be the very successful one!
2007-07-18 15:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are the first daughter. Fathers use the first daughter as a guinea pig. Once they learn the ropes of being a daddy, they start slacking up. What they don't understand is, the first daughter was so good because of the way he was strict. He lightened up, thinking the next one would be good too, but lightened up too much and ended up with a bad seed. It's ok. Don't worry, your probably a good kid, and you'll have daddy to thank later on.
2007-07-18 15:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by cotoncandy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not your father's fault that you are anti-social. He may keep you from going to a movie with friends, but he can't keep you from having friends. He may be more protective, but that's because he is still learning with you. Every age is different and he doesn't know how to deal with it. Maybe he just loves you more too.
2007-07-18 15:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kerrigan Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just a case of dad's being scared the first time...They understand how the world is... He may have been lulled into a false sense of security since you turned out fine..He dropped his guard with your sister and look what happened...
Dad's are only human and can make mistakes...Be thankful that you have some one that cares that much.....Bob
2007-07-18 15:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Robert L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge a dad unless you've walked in his shoes. Sure, your dad has made mistakes, maybe big ones, but I guarantee he did the best that his intelligence, energy and personality could possibly put forth.
BTW, dad did not get 2nd daughter preg. That was her choice. You grew up in the same house, got the same lectures, and still she did the stupid thing. That's not dad's fault. Aren't you glad he overprotected you so you didn't end up in her shoes?
Cut him some slack. It's not easy to be a dad.
2007-07-18 15:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think every father with two daughters does that. Only yours.
2007-07-18 15:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by laurita 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋