I have been thru alot of things latly. I was in therepy, but I quit because she wasnt very helpful. My anxiety

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has gotten so out of control, I have no health insurance and I dont really want to be put on meds, it might be a last resort. But I have been thru so much hurt and I have so much pain. I cry almost everyday not just for no reason, I have reasons. But I am not strong either and I have no self confidence. I know it would help if I had money to go spend and look how I want to, but I need to be a strong person and I want to be ok. Does anyone have any advice???

Answer 1

You must try to convince yourself that you are strong. If you picture yourself as being strong, and start to believe that you are strong, you will be strong. Think of all the things that life has dealt you....... you have been dealt them for a reason, if you weren't strong enough to handle these situations, you wouldn't be where you are today. You CAN handle them, you ARE stronger than what you think. Believe you are strong, and you will pull through this, just try to look through this dark tunnel and see that there is light at the end, and you will make it!

Answer 2

Yes, you have been through a lot. I just checked your profile and it reads like a soap opera. Didn't like your job because the teacher was getting paid more than the teachers aide, went into business for yourself cleaning houses, got pregnant by a guy you didn't trust enough to let him have an evening to himself and nagged the relationship to death, then had an abortion at the last minute of the first trimester and now you quit going going to the therapist because you know how to run your life better.
Every thing you have been through has been a result of your own actions and failure to consider the consequences, and you want somebody to fix it for you, then when you get a therapist, you don't want to do the work necessary to get out of your depression and ask a bunch of cartoon characters on Y! Answers for advice. You have 12 questions in your profile since December that you didn't bother to respond to so I doubt you'll bother reading this response. Life is a potluck and you need to concentrate on what you can contribute rather than what someone else is bringing. A 22 y/o, it's past time to grow up and take charge of your life.

Answer 3

You are under the assumption that the therapist is supposed to fix everything. She cannot do anything without your willingness to help yourself. Having money to go spend and look how you want to is not going to solve your problems. You do not mention how old you are, but if you want things badly enough, you will get a job even if it is babysitting if you are a teen. You can do affirmations in front of a mirror. Tell yourself you are pretty. That you are smart and can do anything you set your mind to do. If you choose to be sad all the time, then you will be sad. If you choose to find happiness even in the smallest things, you can be happy. You and you alone can turn this around if you want to badly enough. Most of us have been through hurtful ordeals. It is how you choose to deal with them that can make you or break you. If you choose to do nothing but think about what happened in the past, you will stay stuck in the past. It is up to you. Go back to the therapist with a positive outlook and let her try to help you.

Answer 4

Do you have a faithful female friend? Maybe one a number of years older who has lived a bit more of life and would have the perspective of years?... A mentor.
I entered a "discipling program" at my church. They paired me with a wonderful woman 10yrs older than I. We met together weekly and she helped me sort out what I do and why I do it, and taught me some more effective ways to live. She was also there, encouraging me in my faith with God - and through my faith it really helped me to destress and to have the sense that I could act wisely in my decisions. I felt much less alone, and it really helped to gain another person's point of view and experience.

Now, nearly 30 years later, she and I are still friends.

Or, you can call your county Mental Health clinic. Ask what programs they have for low income people with mental health needs.

Consider a trial (2 or 3 visits) time of therapy. Not all people are a good match to work together. And, every therapist has their own areas of expertise / and areas where they are not so effective.

Answer 5

Self cures are ultimately what therapy (good therapy) attempts.
Then again, like me, like you, doing it without the help of the medical world can take its time!
I went from world traveler to pretty much a shut in, in the last five years due to physical and mental hardships!
I invested in my own studio and I make a sound living, working here 16 hours a day, which doesn't help much with my confusion about the outside world!
One bit of advice... for BOTH of us. Connections! Kinship!
If we had solid friendships, everything gets better!
Mick Dundee said "we just tell Freddy, and Freddy tells everybody and the problem gets out in the open, no more problem!"
You write me, anytime!

Answer 6

Go to a GOOD mental health provider (one that works with 'indigent' patients) and ask for a 'mental health evaluation' and then TELL THEM that you need 'help' in PAYING for your treatment. DO NOT GO to the place you were receiving therapy ... they may be 'good' but your 'confidence' is at a 'low point' so you won't 'trust them' to do you any good.
Since you don't have any insurance, and you DO have mental health issues, you should qualify for 'state aid' so you can get the treatment you NEED ... and you should get this without having to 'run around the city' and 'jump through hoops' ... they'll actually HELP you fill out the paperwork, provide 'proof' of your illness, and even give you 'time' and help in getting all of the 'necessary paperwork' you'll need to get help.
Also, because you said 'pain' I must ask ... is this a PHYSICAL problem with pain, or are you talking about a 'medical problem' ... if it is a 'medical problem' then ASK the mental health provider to 'refer you' to a good doctor to get put on a GOOD 'pain medication' ... DO THIS ASAP. YOU NEED HELP, and all you 'can' do right now is 'go out the door' and get it.

Answer 7

If you don't want to be put on meds then try seeing a counselor. They do not have a medical license so they can't prescribe medication to you. Also, the other key to getting the help you need is finding someone that you really like. Unfortunately it is a trial and error process. It might take a while to find that person who you feel understands you and you feel like you can open up to. I know in my area they have places where you can speak with people that could help for free. See if they offer anything like that in your area as well.

Answer 8

What youre going through sounds exactly like what im going through. I cry almost everyday, i have anxiety attacks from time to time, and my mom wants to put me on medication, because therapy doesnt seem to be helping. I dont want to go on medication though. What helps me is to get at least 15 minutes of exercise everyday. Also, i think a book called The Secret would help you a lot, it helped me. And i dont think it would matter if you had money to look how you want, you'd still be unhappy with yourself, so you should work on how you feel inside.

Answer 9

I truly believe that you have more confidence than your aware of. I am sorry that you don't have the insurance to go and talk to someone. There are more than one therapist. Would you feel okay to go and talk to a preacher? If all this anxiety gets out of control and you start feeling even worse, I hate to say it but you might find yourself in the hospital. I believe that you even look better than you give yourself credit for. If you do want to clarify what happened on answers, you can always e-mail me and I can share my experience with you that might make you feel better. Give it some thought. No pressure.

Answer 10

Find someone you Can confide in. That's what a therapist is for a person. Someone they can talk to so they can get some relief. Find someone, whether it be someone you can email and just vent or a friend. Sometimes, someone without a "face" can be of some help. By without a face I mean, email can be something secure and all.
You can email me via answers if you like.