My boyfriend is only 17 and i am 15 but next year after he graduates he is going to join the Military. I dont want him to go at all because I really care about him. We have been dating for about a year now and I know we are very young, but I can truthfully say that I love him. When he goes to the Military will i be able to talk to him at all?? And when will I get to see him??
2007-07-18 07:48:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The military does allow exchanging of emails, letters and phone calls from time to time. This is a decision that he's made, and you can't prevent him from continuing on. If you even attempt to do so, it may ruin your relationship. Keep in contact with him, but don't just focus on him. You're still young, go out and have fun. If you're meant to be then he'll come back and you'll continue your relationship, but don't bring him down. He's doing something noble, and his life is at risk.
2007-07-18 07:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is in training for a few months, the most he will be able to do is "maybe" call you on Sundays (thier one day off, but not ALL sundays). He can also write letters to you (snail mail). He WILL get much harrassment from the other troops and loads of peer pressure for dating so young a gal.
Sadly, you are 15 and he WILL mature more when he is in the military. This will mean that he will also have many opportunities to have a social life outside of what he has with you. I am so sorry to say this but in all my years of military life, (30+), I have NEVER seen a situation like yours work out. The military is a VERY hard life for families and as the old saying goes "if the military wanted you to have a wife, they would have issued you one".
2007-07-18 07:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once he's in boot camp you'll get about 15 minutes once a week tops... and that will only be to request dirty photos of you that will keep him warm at night.
Then once he's deployed you may get a letter or email now and then that you'll cry over and wonder how good that little thing in Japan was while his ship was refueling....
I'd say within a 7 year service you'll hear from him 3 hours tops accumulated.
no lie.
Just try not to feed the pain... if he comes back and you're fat... he'll take his lettermans jacket back and date your best friend.
2007-07-18 07:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow.....im15 and my man is 17 too. we are having a kid.... I think if it IS real love between you 2 then u should trust him, yea it WILL be hard with out him there , and you WILL see him when he gets visits, if i were u i would be concerned about Iraq. if he really loves you he wouldn't put himself in that much danger. BUT if it is something he REALLY wants to do in his life and for this country then let him go. HE CAN'T cheat on you there !! at least not with a girl. so ur safe there!! and you CAN NOT hold him from what he feels is right. just like you can't make someone love you . HOPE THIS HELPS YOU .
2007-07-18 07:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he really want to be a part of the CURRENT TYPE of military we see on TV being referenced ~ I mean the agenda of teh current US MILITARY seems UNCLEAR to say the least ...
(I assume you are speaking of the US military)
I know(like to believe) that there are situations where the US military has done good but there are also incidents(as I am led to believe) where they do bad, does he realize the GAMBLE he is making?
Are you really in love with him?
Do you think he is your number one?
Does he think you are his NUMBER ONE sould mate of all time forever and ever? Did you ever discuss such with him?
2007-07-18 07:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him go. If you hear from him, great! Most likely, it will be a while before he gets to write home. Don't expect phone calls. Those are for family only. Ask him his feelings for you. If he loves you, then support his decision and be there for him-no fooling around! If there is any doubt, then say goodbye BEFORE he leaves. Those "Dear John" letters are hard on a soldier.
2007-07-18 07:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by magix151 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll be able to talk to him after he gets out of boot camp. He can see you if he wants to when he gets time off, just like any other job.
But in any case, don't worry about it. A year from now you won't care.
2007-07-18 07:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 19:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by dagnone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i had the same problem... it all depends what branch of the military he is going to... I know that if he goes to the marines they can still talk to you almost everyday... But if you really love him then youll wait till he comes back... this can only make your relationship grow stronger... then youll really know you are in love and ready to get married...
2007-07-18 07:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by La Muñeca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daddy had to go to the millitary (the marines) (sorry if i spelled it wrong)when i was only very little and my parents got married when he was in the millitary. You can write letters to your boyfriend and he can write back. There are visting days so you can go see him. You won't even no that he left.
2007-07-18 07:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by MichMack K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋