How do I get them to be quiet or leave?

Question

My two little sisters have their friends (that live down the street) over EVERY DAY from sun up to sun down. I mean, literally. They run around our house screaming and talking loudly. They also make huge messes around the house and don't clean them up. I want to get rid of them, but my parents won't help.

My mom works night shift, so she sleeps all day and is a pretty hardy sleeper. They don't wake her up usually. My dad is at work from 8am to 5pm, and will send them home when we eat dinner, but they'll come back when we're done.

How do I get rid of them? My mom HAS tried making rules, but my sisters don't listen. At least they don't eat all of our food anymore...

Thanks for all the ideas! Keep them coming!

I'm sixteen and I have an older sister (19) but she keeps to herself in her bedroom and ignores them. I try to keep the house clean and am therefore irritated by them.

My sisters are 10 and 13, and their friends are sisters about the same age. They also have another friend, age 11.

Answer 1

Your parents are not doing their job. You didn't say how old you are, but I presume you are a teenager. It is NOT for you to be running the house while your mother is understandably getting her sleep.

Your parents need to lay down the law, otherwise your two younger sisters are not learning discipline. Your folks need to talk to them and tell them that you are in charge during the day. Admittedly, this will be a bit confusing for the sisters, because it somewhat skews their view of you by fusing their perceptions of "sister" with "authority figure". But they'll adapt.

At first they'll probably resist to try to test you. So, when that happens, you need to have the option of getting your mother out of bed to reinforce the law that you're to be obeyed. At the very least, if the neighbor children refuse to mind, send them home. Children must learn that actions have consequences. It's not ideal that you are being forced to be a parental figure, but if that's been thrust on you you therefore have the right -- and the obligation -- to stand your ground.

While it is normal for young children to run around and make noise, they must not be indulged at all times. To do so will not instill in them a sense of self-control, which is vital when they reach adulthood. Just look at all the adults nowadays who behave like children.

Oh, and if you're somewhere that has yard, why are they indoors all the time? They should be outside.

Anyway, feel free to show my answer to your parents. My parents didn't allow me to run around like a crazed banshee all the time, and I likewise have instilled my children with some self-restraint. Letting children just run around wildly will NOT serve them well in their later years.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

On a positive note, at least you know where your sisters are. You know that they will not be getting into trouble or something bad will not happen to them. I would rather have my girls friends over here instead of sending them off somewhere else. The last time I let my daughter go to a certain friends house, the mom let them roam all over the neighbor hood. She is only 8! I would rather have the noise of a hundred kids, then never hear my daughters voice again!

Answer 3

How old are they? Hell, I'd take the honest route. I'd call their mom and let her know her kids have NO parental supervision while they are at your house, and you are left in charge. I would tell her how they act and that you can't handle them and need to not have them around so much.

All day, every day is TOO MUCH. Limit it to a few hours 2 or 3 times a week.

Answer 4

Have house rules. Only have friends over once a fortnight or once a month for about 2-3 hours only!! Yes, seems harsh, but that's the way. A family needs privacy too.

Answer 5

I had a similar problem with my nephews, who live next door. I finally had to call their Mom and tell her that we need family time and that they need to ask if it's okay to come over, rather than just "dropping in".

Your Mom or Dad should have a talk with their parents. It sounds like you are being used as a free babysitter.

Answer 6

Stand up as the oldest sister and the one who has to take care of the two little ones and tell them flat out they obey the rules or they leave. If they scream and make messes, tell them they have to leave and MAKE them leave if necessary. If your younger sisters gripe about it, just tell them their friends can't come over unless they obey the rules. Period. If your parents won't take charge, YOU take charge.

Answer 7

They are old enough to pic up after themselves but you need to bring your concerns to your parents let them know how much it bothers you and how your wishes shoudl be respected becaue you live there too... YOUR MOM NEEDS TO ENFORCE THE RULES SHE MAKES OR GIVE YOU AND YOUR OLDER SIS THE POWER TO WHEN SHE IS SLEEPING. your parents need to be parents and set and stick to some rules... i would never let my daughter get away with that at anyone elses house either... these girls sound spoiled

Answer 8

You know what, they're just being kids! I highly doubt they know they are being rude, and they are definitely not doing this to annoy you. They are seriously just being kids, and I think you should go easy on them because we all were young once, and it was so much fun running around with your friends all day. I put up with my little sister and her friends COMBINED with my little brother and his friends on a daily basis. I didn't mind at all, and to be honest I was rather jealous of them playing all afternoon with no worries when I was swamped with assignments!

You watch, next year they will act, dress and look like they're 18!

Answer 9

tell ur parents ur sick of watching ur sister and them. if they want u to watch them then they better start paying u to babysit otherwise ur sister needs to go han out over at tyheir house and have them take care of her and them.

Answer 10

if you don`t stop talking you will half to give me 20 bucks