Would you say my parents are child abusers?

Question

I don't. Growing up I got spanked when needed. I could have used more. My parents also showered me with praise when I deserved it. Would anyone say their grandparents were child abusers? That's what they did in the old days. Gave a kid a swat on the hind end when needed.

And I have a wonderful relationship with my parents. I never grew up in fear of them. I had a great upbringing.

And I was never a violent person as a result of getting a smack on the butt every now and then.

lilou, when I said I could have probably used more, that means there were probably some times my parents let things slip by. My dad was sick for some time, so mom wasn't up to a lot of things in that time. So if your kids need more than one time out, I guess it's safe to say that method doesn't work?

Answer 1

My parents would always get the "dreaded belt" out and act like they were gonna spank me, but they never did. It was more of a threat. Instead I was put on the corner.
Or my mom would spread little pebbles on the tile floor and make me kneel on them with my arms spread open. This was back in the early 80's. I think kids these days have it easy. If someone sees you yell at your kids, you might get reported by some dummy. People cry child abuse so easily nowadays

Answer 2

No definitely not. I had the occasional pop on the bottom when needed when I was little. They never even hurt, but I would still cry more because I knew I was in trouble and had done something wrong.

What I do think is abuse is when parents don't give ANY discipline, I've done a lot of babysitting and hardly any kids have any respect anymore. Also when parents just scream and yell all the time that does nothing, except cause less respect and more tension in a household. I used to love kids, and I wanted to become an elementary teacher once. But after babysitting so many BRATS, I lost my love for working with children. I would go home in tears after the struggles I had with this one five year old throwing shoes at me along with other things.

Answer 3

My brother and I were raised the same way. The last spanking I got, I was probably 6 or 7. I didn't need one after that. I threw a tantrum in public- once. I said "NO!" to my mom- once. After I got what I deserved I never did it again. You can't logically reason with a small child. A firm voice and on a few occassions a spanking worked for us. Today, I have a great relationship with my parents and I am far from a violent person. I 'argue' with calm words and logic. THAT is what I learned from watching my parents.

Answer 4

Not at all. Parents are lazy now and way too afraid of what people think about them. Spanking is a personal choice. I don't care whether or not someone else does it but you better believe that if my child shows disrespect towards myself, her father, or anyone for that matter, a good swat is in order if she doesn't get it through her head otherwise. It's like everyone is afraid to do the right thing now. It's nice to hear someone say please and thank you and to have a man hold open a door for you. I have to say, I came from a spanking family as did my husband and it seems as though we are the type of people who show much more respect, especially in public, and teach our children how to do the same as opposed to those who say it's "abuse"...

Answer 5

child abusers- definitely not. Using good parenting skills- probably not. The problem with spanking is it is usually done out of parents' frustration and anger and isn't used to discipline the child as much as scare him/her. This teaches the child that the proper way to deal with their anger is to lash out- the immediate lesson is completely forgotten. Hitting or spanking a child will not help them understand why it was wrong to do so and so or behave like that. Rather, it just reinforces ideas of a more violent expression of emotions.

BUT if spanking is used sparingly and only when the parent is completely calm and the child understands why it's necessary it is OK. My parents used spanking once or twice, but it was never administered immediately - they told me I had earned a spanking and where in the house and when in the next hour I would receive it.

Answer 6

Back then kids had more respect for there elders and were well behaved in public. The did as told and so on. Now the kids misbehave act out and cause trouble anytime any where. I think we should go back to punishing the kids now the way they did then. I got spanked when i was a kid and i think i am a better person now for it, There are people my age that did not have that discipline and they have some serious problems in there lives. So i see nothing wrong with it. I will spank my kids. They will have respect and treat there elders with respect. Also they will behave in public.

Answer 7

I don't think that is child abuse at all. As times grow old, kids become worse cause parents can't punish their kids cause the government wants to get involved then DHR feels then need to label you as a bad parent. Eventually they will say that grounding a could causes mental abuse and can really affect how a kid grows into an adult or some crap. Oh well build bigger Prisons.

Answer 8

Thats just a simple beating and is perfectly acceptable. Lazy *** parents need to start doing that again. Im tired of seeing all these temper-tantrum throwing, swearing at top of their lungs, 6 year old brats. Their always white kids too, because immigrants understand that beating is the best method.

Talk is cheap. They feel bad for 5 minutes, then their back at it. If you give them a spanking, or use the wooden spoon or a belt, the next time they think about smoking weed, or drinking underage, they'll be like oh man I dont wanna get my *** kicked again.

Your parents are NOT child abusers, they're great parents.

Too many dumbass kids now-a-days, threating to call child abuse, over slippers being thrown at them, a slight spanking. Its bullshit. Its part of growing up, deal with it.

Answer 9

Nope. If you got spanked, it was for good reason.
It's a fantastic way of discipline. It hurts just enough in that one moment for the kid not to do it again. But, if you think about it, it doesn't hurt for that long. Ahh, and thats what makes a spanking great. It sounds like your parents did a good job raising you. Cheers to them!

Answer 10

That is not child abuse! I think children/ teens nowadays could have used a little more spanking/ discipline then they got. Look at our society now, compaired to when nobody made a big deal over a little spank. I say its the parents choice how they discipline THEIR OWN children... nobody has a right to get involved unless the circumstance is extreme!