We started to get intimate 8 days ago and now it seems that is all he wants to do.And I am feeling like that is all he thinks of me as...What do I do from here ?And is this normal?
Thanks:Sahara
2007-07-18 07:15:07 · 41 answers · asked by ™ ♥♥♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is a guy it is normal.
2007-07-18 07:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jason J 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
From a man point of view i would say it's very normal a man knows in about three seconds of meeting a female if he would like to be intimate with her. If you think about this your boyfriend has wanted to be intimate with you for the past two months. So I am sure he wants to catch up. what do you do from here, well that is up to you if you think this is a good relationship and there is more to it than lust. Then you sit him down and talk to him let him know how you feel. Let him know that there will be plenty of time for this in your future if you are to stay together. and if you mean something to him he will understand that. If he does not understand well maybe he only wants one thing. Just talk to him more than anything don't hide your feelings or thoughts from him communication or the lack their off will end a relationship faster than anything else i can think off
2007-07-18 07:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by furor4202000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal, but it also sounds like you are young or immature. Sorry, I'm not being mean just honest about the way young girls can be.
I mean, what do you want the guy to do? Say "No, no, no... I know we've had sex, but you're about so much more than that. Let's just talk to each other and hang out.".
You sleep with someone and then you want to turn it around and act like you are being used. I'm a woman, not a guy but I've seen this out of younger friends many times. You decide to sleep with him, but then you want to make him pay by acting like that is the only thing he wants you for. In your heart, you know whether that's true or not. If you know that to be the case, use him a few times and move on. If it isn't the case (and you know that), then enjoy your boyfriend and your rockin' sex life.
2007-07-18 07:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Last question first: this is normal. For us, sex is a multipurpose activity. Not only does it feel good, but if we're in a relationship, it helps us connect to our girlfriends & establish the same type of intimacy you girls try to establish by talking to us.
As for what you do from here, I wouldn't take it as if it were an insult to you, as if you're a cheap piece of meat. Quite the opposite, most likely. He can't get enough of you. If the sex is good, enjoy it & go with the flow. If it isn't, or it's so often you start to get sore, just tell him something along the lines of "you wore me out, & I need to rest" or "you tore me up, & it'll just hurt me too bad right now to have you inside me". This not only gives you breathing room, but it boosts his ego & keeps him from getting resentful. It's a lot easier to put a guy off from sex if he thinks he's so good he's wearing you out than if you tell him you feel like he's using you for sex.
2007-07-18 07:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make a comment the next time he is groping you. Say something like: "Wow! 8 days ago, we could have a conversation. Now, I feel like all we do is have sex!" At least that would let him know how you feel. It is normal though - men are sex fiends. They think about it all the time. So, if they have an opportunity to have some, they will definitely get it as much as they can.
2007-07-18 07:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how old you and he are. If you are both young then it is normal. If you are over 50 then every day is not normal. It is usually 3 to 4 times a week.
2007-07-18 07:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for guys to be excited about sex in the beginning of a relationship. But if you get a feeling that this guy only wants sex from you, you should try and do other stuff with him, like go out to dinner or the park or something. If he says he doesn't want to and suggests sex instead, then it is most definitely just a physical relationship. It's your call, but it doesn't sound like it's worth it if that's all he wants.
2007-07-18 07:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by spunkanator3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From my point of view.. for what it's worth.. it's normal. You waited 2 months now the flood gates are open! LOL! Give it time, things will cool off. Take it as a compliment, you must be a turn on for him or he wouldn't be so eager to have sex all the time. As for just wanting you for sex.. nah, maybe, but probably not; it's a new fun realtionship enjoy it.
2007-07-18 07:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal.. of course. It all new and exciting to him. Let him enjoy the "honeymoon period." For god's sake, it has only been 8 days and you are already want to cut him off?
With that said, if his behavior persists for a long period of time, you may have a problem, but for now, seems fairly normal to me.
2007-07-18 07:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miss Sahara, I am an older guy and yes for some guys it is normal but now you need to talk to him honestly and be firm on your beliefs. Your reputation is not the only thing at risk. Sex can kill or you may get a disease that can haunt you for the rest of your life,and then there is pregnency ! Save it for marrige ! If one guy won"t respect that find another one who will !
2007-07-18 07:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal. Talk to him, tell him you want a relationship not a fu-- buddy. (But be a bit nicer about it.) Explain to him your ok with that being a part of your relationship but not the entirity of it. If he reacts in a bad way (laughs, walks away, etc) dump that ahole you deserve better. If he respects the way you feel, you got a good catch! Communication is key!
2007-07-18 07:26:49 · answer #11 · answered by Coadster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋