okay so i have been dating this new guy for a while and things have been goin great. he treats me perfect! but for some reason i cant stop thinking of my ex. My ex was the best! we did everything together...and he was my 1st love.:] so im asking..should i leave a great guy for some one that i love?
2007-07-18 07:05:30 · 23 answers · asked by latina beana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The center of your relationship is LOVE,I'll tel you to go back with your ex B-cause U know him and that"great guy" U (JUST) know him.Your ex did share many deep things with you and U know his personnality but that "great guy" U don't know him deeply like your ex and he doesn't knows U very best either.
2007-07-18 07:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by diana s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you and your ex split? You have to remember-it didn't work out for one reason or another the first time around and you have to think-can it really work this time? I have gotten back together with an ex before with the promises of "it will be different this time" or "I wont do that again" and trust me-it doesnt ever change. It may be different for a month or even two, but it always goes back to what it was. And this new guy-can you see yourself falling for him? Being with him? IF you can't see a future with him-dont lead him on period-whether you are getting back with an ex or not. And actually-I dont think you are ready to be with someone else yet if you are obviously not over your ex at this point. I think you and Mr. Great need to have a talk anyways.....
2007-07-18 14:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. Theres a reason why you and your Ex broke up. Think about why it happened. Also if this new guy is really great then you could grow to love him as well. Whatever you do just think about which one of these men will suit you best. If you're aiming for a long term relationship then go with the most stable and one you'd love to be around most. Good Luck
2007-07-18 14:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you && your EX must have split
for some reason...you may regret
leaving the guy you have now...I mean
he sounds like a great catch...&& what if
your EX changed && is different...how do
you know?! I wouldn't go chasing an EX
especially if he's not trying to make contact
with you && you already have a great guy
that would be awful to do to the guy you got now...how would you feel?! being left by him
for one of his Ex's [[kinda shitty]] huh? I think
you should stay with the guy you got now..
you never know you may fall in love with him
too in due time don't rush things take it slow && good luck girl keep your chin up =]
2007-07-18 14:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by manda102285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your ex even want you back? And if so... at what level?
And why did you break up if it was so good?
Don't throw away a good thing, for an old memory... unless you know for certain that you are going to get something better - for ever. 1st Loves will ALWAYS have a special place in our hearts.... always. But it doesn't mean that they were 'The One' for us.
My recommendation- Stick with the Great New Guy.
2007-07-18 14:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rif Tahoe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in your exact same situation. So you have to think logically if it was so perfect why did you and the ex split up? if he did something bad do you really feel he will change? Sometimes it's not good to get back with an ex no matter what.
2007-07-18 14:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say your ex 'was the best' because he had the chance to show you he was..(at the time.) If you give this guy that same chance.. then you'll know for sure who is better for you. How can you know, if he hasn't been able to prove it to you yet..
I can relate, because of a similar position i was in, but think about it.. is it because you just have more memories with him? good ones, yeh.. but try making new ones - you don't want to regret losing the opportunity of a stronger love, or stick to thinking your ex was as good as you could get..
good luck hun =)
2007-07-18 14:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was perfect , then "ex" just doesn''t fit in! Don't break new guy's heart.... Psychologically 1st love isn't the last one. We remmber first love, because our subcounsciousness experienced warm and positive emotions - that's why sometimes we wan't to go back. Maybe for him it was the second love and that was the reason you split up before.
2007-07-18 14:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by House M.D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first love will have that effect on you. Since it was your first, it is extra special and unforgetable. You only live once, so follow your heart and take chances, because thats what life is about! Would you rather live the rest of your life asking yourself "WHY" or WHY NOT"?
You may be able to get a better opinion from your peers. You can send an anonymous message on http://hikkup.com
2007-07-18 14:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Marc G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened that you and your first love arent together??? Obviously something went wrong.. I loved my first love for 31 years.... finally got a divorce, best thing I ever did.... I stayed for my sons, which was a mistake, but now with the love of a good man again, I am making up for lost time. and how old are you anyway???
2007-07-18 15:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋