there is this guy i have been knowing for quite a ehile and he invited me to his houise but he wants to have sex but all i want to do is cuddle with him
2007-07-18 06:56:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop teasing him!!! if he wants sex and you dont, then dont go over his house because he will expect to get somewhere eventually.
if you just want to cuddle find someone who wants the same. otherwise you will get annoyed with each other overtime.
2007-07-18 06:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by chuckey is ill 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Chances are you've said something for him to believe you may be open to the idea of sex. Dating usually means you're having sex eventually. So date a christian who is saving himself for marriage or just don't go over his house. He'll keep asking so get used to it. Guys aren't women we will only cuddle after we've made a commitment and we are in love. We don't want to do it but that's what you do in a relationship not a booty call which this guy obviously thinks you are.
2007-07-18 14:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shinigami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, seriously, I know some ladies will probably get offended by this, but I'm going to be perfectly honest in answering this, & maybe educate a few of you who may deal with this situation. If a man wants you, & all you want to do is cuddle, he will look at this as you wasting his time & being a tease, even if that isn't how you wish to come off. When a man wants sex, he looks at cuddling as a pointless waste of energy to get you in the sack, & if he can't get anywhere with you, he'll resent the hell out of you. You would be much better off to tell him you aren't going to come over because he's a horndog then to go over there & try to cuddle. He'll see what you view as an attempt at affection as a means of getting everything you want from the relationship while depriving him of everything he wants. When a girl just wants to cuddle with a guy who's horny, that guy sees her as selfish as women see men who just want to get laid. To him, you're using him to get what you want, pure & simple. I know some women are going to think this is a crock, but if you're open-minded, take every feeling you have about men who only want you for sex, & that's how they feel when you only want them for cuddling. Cuddlers who refuse sex breed resentment, & is the reason men have invented the phrase "put out or get out". So, that's my advice to you where this guy is concerned: if you don't want to put out, then get out of his life, because he sees you as wasting his time & will ultimately hate your guts if you don't fulfill his needs.
2007-07-18 14:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you can have what you want. Start cuddling nakid (called spooning), and let one thing lead to another, and then have some mind blowing sex, and go back to cuddling and spooning.
jk
2007-07-18 16:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont want to have sex, dont. Trust me I slipped into that trick and did it just to shut him up and stop asking, and I never heard from him since. Dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with. If you just want to cuddle, find someone with the same mind frame! Good Luck!
2007-07-18 14:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky Colette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Struugle away from him & say, Take a Cold Shower, &Your getting To steamed up. Ha, ( joke )
Really, Im sure you know how to say NO?
Say, Its not right time for sex, & Thats It,
If he comes over for just that?
he has no respect for you.
Ask him to play cards?
Maybe Not cuddle as much? till he learns what cuddling is?
He needs to learn more,
You need to put your foot down more, Hugs.
2007-07-18 14:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dollbaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cuddling is for males what foreplay is for females. So, unless you are looking for sex, don't cuddle; it's a typical f u c k or flee situation.
2007-07-18 14:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Emil Alexandrescu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him cuddle with you and then tell him you arent ready to have sex with him just yet.
Edit: thats so not true. You can cuddle without having sex. I cuddled on Friday night even after i pushed his hands away from my bra clasp.
2007-07-18 14:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about cuddling after sex?
2007-07-18 13:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Tell him your not quite ready for the next step. Sex should not be all that is in a relationship. If he understands you should keep dating him. If he doesn't I'd advise you to dump him FAST! Before he dumps you for a women who just wants sex. Even though it's not a relationship.
2007-07-18 14:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by wolfie_lover11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋