Yet Another Question for Christians...?

Question

If you were born, but instead of raising you, your parents left you a note saying they love you very very much and they want the best for you, but they never came to see you, never called you, never spoke to you or contacted you in any way. What's more, they never told you WHY they couldn't be with you. Just left you a note reassuring you they "really do love you." How would you feel about that??? Would that make any sense to you? Would you believe they loved you? And would you love them back?

I think you all get the analogy I'm trying to make here.

(P.S. - I'm a Christian. But one who's been getting more frustrated w/ God by the day.)

Answer 1

I think that analogy is whack.

Answer 2

I sure hear you when you say you're getting frustrated with the Lord...I too find myself in that place right now.

Great analogy, I've never thought of it that way before. The only answer I can think of is that the Lord didn't abandon us. We abandonned him by sinning. To answer an analogy with an analogy I guess you could also look at it like the financially successful father who sort have had a problem child of a son, that got into trouble in high school, never tried really hard at anything and just assumed he could be a bit of a slacker 'cause "daddy" would always bail him out of any jam he gets himself into. So then one day the father says, "Son, this is gonna hurt me more than it is you, but you're cut off. Go into the world and take some reasponsibility for yourself," in hopes that the son will learn to appreciate what he is given more. The father hopes that some day the son will come home having worked hard for himself, learned from his mistakes, and they can celebrate being together not out of dependency but genuine love.

The Lord never said he would solve all our problems for us. He actually even wrote in his "note," "You will face great tribulation in this world..." But hopefully we learn something from it.

Being a guy who too has his doubts about the Lord from time to time, especially in the face of sadness or difficulty, that's how I reason it.

Answer 3

I see the analogy however, God left a REALLY long note for us. And He does speak to us and provide for us so really the analogy isnt accurate. I do know what it's like to feel like God isn't there and its terribly frustrating. I wont give you the token Christian "bumper sticker" slogan that these are the times He is closest but, IN those times that He feels far away, there is not much that can be said to change how it feels. I can only say that I know it does pass. Faster sometimes, slower sometimes but, it does pass and His presence returns.

Answer 4

You can only draw the "child/parent" relationship analogy so far. There's a big difference. Our parents aren't "all powerful". If they were, their very physical presence might prevent you from ever becoming your own person or being autonomous. God's intention was not to create a race of robots.

If we all "knew" for sure God existed, there wouldn't be atheists, but oddly enough, there wouldn't be believers either. If you "know", there's noting to "believe". We'd just a bunch of wide-eyed androids sitting around and staring at God. So, in a sense, robbing us of faith, robs us of life and meaning. That kind of defeats the whole purpose doesn't it?

Answer 5

I understand what you are saying. I have been there. To be honest I think all have. The trials of a Christian are not just external ones but also valid questions such as yours. using your analogy, your parents did not drop you off, your great, great, great, great, grandparents ran away from home and have warped the memory of their heritage so that you have nothing to tell you about it accept love letters from an ancestor that is pieced together and mistranslated. But there is hope. Your dna is encoded with the truth. Listen to what it says. God is there. and He speaks to you. The world is just so loud you can not hear Him. That is why you can not be part of the world and be close to the father. And by that I mean the ways of the World.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are getting close to the realization that God does not exist. All of this frustration and confusion will go away and everything will make sense once you realize that Christianity is false. As to your analogy, I think it is very good. If the type of God that the Bible describes did exist, it is very much as though he turned his back on everyone.

Answer 7

Hi Bob....It's hard to answer your question when I'm not familiar with your parents personally so I'm going to answer the best way I know how. I was adopted, I wasn't left a note from neither my mother or father so you have something I never had. I know it's ironic that your parents left you and then left a note stating "they loved you". I don't know the reason on why your parents left you but to their reasoning they had a good reason to do this. You may not agree with their reasoning but sometimes things happen for no good reason for us to understand. I always wondered why my parents placed me up for adoption...so many things were going through my mind as a pre-teen and a teenager to adulthood. When I finally found my biological siblings they had informed me that the reasoning behind the adoption was because my mother felt that since she was 44 yrs old at the time of my birth with no husband that she couldn't give me the life that she wanted so go figure. My mother could never tell me personally on her reasoning since she had died 12 yrs prior to me finding my biological family. So this will be a question that will never be answered since I couldn't hear it directly from her. I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old to a wonderful couple that I have always called "Mom & Dad". They are the ones that I should "Thank" with all my heart. They taught me morals and ethics and the things I needed to know as I reached adulthood. Being a Christian for one. They were the best parents that I could have ever had and God Blessed me with these loving arms to raise me as their own. It doesn't bother me now for whatever reason my mother had to place me up for adoption, I know in my heart that she loved me and she wanted me to have the best, something she couldn't give me, I guess. She had raised four other children and when she divorced she probably thought with no steady income or husband she wouldn't be able to give me what she wanted. As to your parents, maybe instead of dwelling on the "ifs" maybe you need to think at the possibility that they didn't have much of a choice in leaving you but they wanted you to know, despite on what they had to do, that they loved you so very much. At least you have something that I didn't have...a note in their own handwriting that stated "I love you". Be thankful of that and don't be angered with God, He places all of us on the road of life, with obstacles and winding roads to choose where we want to go in life. Choose the right road. Don't dwell on the past or the "What if's". My heart is with you. I hope you can find your answer. Ask God. Have a blessed day!

Answer 8

If course I would alwys wonder why they left me but I would assume it's b/c they didn't have the means to take care of me. As a christian you are to love everyone but just b/c I love them as a person doesn't mean I would love them as parents.

There is no reason to be frustrated with God. The challenges he gives you in your day to day life are for a reason and while you may not know the reason now, you will one day.

Answer 9

Not saying God is cruel b/c all His ways are just but my relationship with my mom is like oil and water and still I'd fight to the death on her behalf. I also feel like I can never satisfy her but I love her like crazy. And both she and my father abandoned me when I was little. I know now as a Christian and with my eyes being opened by God, that God was ALWAYS with me, even when I thought no one could help me. He has shown me that He is trustworthy and I take Him at His word that He will never leave nor forsake me. I'm glad He's not at all like my earthly parents. But through my parents weaknesses, God has shown me His strength. Thank you Father, thank you Jesus.

Answer 10

do you not believe that God loves you?!
is there really more bad things than good in your life!? God is with you whether you feel Him or not. We all go through bad times...some more horrible than others. As a fellow christian, i urge you to keep the faith. God has an amazing plan for your life and the pain and frustration you feel now can only be building your character in order to prepare you for the plans He has for you.

blessings.

Answer 11

But you can't argue that you have them. I mean you were born, so you know that you had them. You can surmise the do love you, because they left the note... If they didn't, why leave the note??? It might not make sense, but that is irrelavent. You exist, so you had parents, the left a note, so they thought about you and it IS, so whether it makes sense or not is unimportant because it IS, you are living it.