Ok, first things first...I'm not a shy/quiet person AT ALL!!! But when I first meet a guy that I kinda like, I just close up and become soooo quiet! Isn't that odd? I've always been this way and I don't know why.
I think it's because I get nervous and am scared of making a bad first impression. It just takes me a while to open up and be myself, ya know?! But by that point, it could be too late!
All my friends know that I'm veryyy loud and love to talk and meet new people. But I just get soooo shy when I'm around a guy I like!
What should I do? How can I get more relaxed? I want the guy to know the real me and not think that I'm alwaysss shy and quiet! But its just soo hard, cause I dont wanna say the wrong thing and have him think that I'm wierd or something.
Any suggestions? thoughts? advice?
2007-07-18 06:19:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the same issue.... i am sooooo crazzzzzzzyyyy believe me and soooo many people think that i am a quiet reservbed pperson, that is untill they get to see the real me and then they are like omg i thought you were gonna be a boring person... im like no i just need time to open up... i just think i have to be myself because that way they are going to like me for me...
and if they dont like my personality then it wasnt meant to be (friendwise/or relationship wise)
beleive me i kno its hard but its better results i the end when you can just totally be yourself...
tell the person a little about yourself and try to find things in common so that you can get a good conversation started ...
i am sure it will all work out in the end.. it just takes practice to overcome being shy
good luck :)
2007-07-18 06:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will change as you get older (hopefully). We all are more insecure around someone who's opinion we feel matters, plain & simple. My trick is to get back to the basics of conversation: meaning try to think of it as very general,polite conversation that you would force with anybody=whether it's Grandma, the President or a doctor-anyone-and that genral speech will take you throught the beginning moments of the conversation with him and as that time passes you will sub-consciously feel more at ease and you will find yourself talking as like a friend! Remember, just focus on the fundamentals, which more simply means discussing simple, current & relavent topics on the surface-don't go to deep.
2007-07-18 06:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps a lot to have your good friends around. It's a lot easier to be yourself when you're with close friends.
Other than that, this is just something that takes time to get used to. I think you're right that you're afraid you might say or do the wrong, it happens to a lot of us when we're put in new or stressful situation.
Just work really hard to be yourself and tell yourself all the time that you're not going to be shy around guys.
I will not be shy around guys! Stand in front of the mirror and say it to yourself if you have to. Your brain will begin to believe you :)
Good luck!
2007-07-18 06:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by T the D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not most guys are shy also. Be yourself and that helps them to be more themselves. Many of the men that I have met, whether I've dated them or not have told me that it was so easy to talk and be themselves around me because I was. Just do it and quit thinking about it. Now if you are usually really goofy then you might want to tone down just a bit. Use your best judgement and follow their lead to a certain degree.
2007-07-18 06:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to glam yourself up to feel confident looking pretty makes you feel pretty and boosts your confidence and its not always the inside that counts your 18 just get over it its hard, oh i know, just value yourself more, think about al the great things you do, have/ etc like i think its a confidence, self esteem issue plus dont get so shy if theyre not even attractive lol and its normal to freeze up around a cutey lol hear this song Amnesia by my girl Britney Spears love iiit heheh gooood luck
2016-04-01 00:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When See a guy you Look him in eye and tell this is first time I lay my eye on you and I have to ask are you single?
Now that work for me =)
2007-07-18 06:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Afro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest making small talk. Ask him how his day was, what he did, etc. It's amazing how even the little conversations can make a person loosen up!And remember, it's all about having fun!
2007-07-18 06:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by nutz2203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl I know what you are talkin about. I am just like that around guys I really like. But If you feel comfortable around that person.And start warmin up to him you don't have to worried about a thing. You feel like you can said anything around him.
2007-07-18 06:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jeana W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend you are a news reporter.
Ask the men about their day,
their job, or about some sport they watch.
That will get them talking.
2007-07-18 06:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Cal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could first try talkign to youself in the mirror and think of things to say then move on to online dating or something
2007-07-18 06:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by kjgyi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋