Hi All :) .. In YOUR opinion, WHAT is more IMPORTANT : to LOVE or to be LOVED? :D?

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#1 DRAGON J, thanks :)
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Bob S, thank you for your concern...But, this is a general question :)
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Roberth M, thanks :)
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Personally I believe both are equally important... To have reciprocating love is... amazing... But if you love someone, or someone loves you without it being returned, it really, really hurts.... I think that the most important thing is that you "can love".. and acknowledge love....
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Thanks, to all who answered!
Very good viewpoints, in here...
My regards!..thanks, for your input and time, all of you!! xxx
But, I can only choose : "one best" :s

Vonhiggins, I can relate with you!
Beautiful answer!

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Answer 1

Once trust is established, let the Spirit of Reciprocity rule both parties; until that trust is established, or when it is broken, affairs will be limited to a Dialectic of Giving and Taking.

Consider international diplomacy "writ large" to be analagous to personal interaction. In both cases, the "proof is in the pudding" when things get tough. Ally "A" may be a different sort of ally than ally "B". Here's a familiar scenario.

One country, "X", is attacked. A and B empathize, but only A decides to go to war with X, submitting itself to those perils associated with war. B decides to give support by "word" only.

Regardless of the practicality of its participation in the war, A has gone "above and beyond" the aforementioned dialectic while B has not. The state of affairs between A and X are henceforth elevated to the aforementioned reciprocity. This state of affairs now established depends on what X will do for A.

Our amorous adventures are on a smaller scale, to be sure, but for the participants, elevation to that continual "winning the trust" rule will obviate the importance of preferential positioning in the giving/receiving game.

This takes us back to the individual who MUST be educated on the civilized matter of love, and to the answer I have already given, referred now to the Right Honorable Kimberly: "...Are the people who need love most, usually the most difficult to love?"

Our society will pay a very high price for neglecting love education in favor of the easier sex education, which can be sufficiently mastered by observing farm animals. And those who throw out rational inquiry (EJ) unwittingly embolden those eugenicists who see the ratio in the absence of love, rather than its presence.

Answer 2

What a great question; it made me aware of something I'd never thought about before. I have a "big" sister who lives across the country, & years, for reasons I never understood, she wouldn't respond to my letters--but I kept sending them. She never answered the phone. Then one day I just "felt" she would. She was like a stranger. All I could remember was how I'd adored her when we were children. Over time, I see how she's isolated herself, hates people, quick to be critical. She's not in good health & blames everyone.
IN SPITE of that, if I don't hear from her for six months, I keep writing, sending her books & things,& I'm deeply concerned about her. I LOVE her, she's my sister, & I've ACCEPTED who she is--even though she clearly hasn't accepted, nor loves me. I'm not trying to earn her love, or anything in return. I also now realize this is the way it was with my mother, even when she was dying & needed so much of me.
So! To love is just something one feels, & I think it has value. There's a phrase of a song in my head, & all I can remember is: "...but to love, & be loved in return." That's ideal, & I am loved, but it's good JUST to love, too. Didn't mean to ramble so long, yet I've just gotten some insight from your question!

Answer 3

Top four: 1. Owner lives on site. 2. Access to trails. 3. Indoor ring. 4. Wash bay. Aspects: 1. Daily turn out. 2. Individualized feeding. 3. Herd health program. 4. Emphasis on dust control. 5. Rotational grazing. 6. Medication administration. (Only because if my horse is getting meds, I like to be the one to give them to her.) Qualifications would make me feel comfortable :) Only reason not confident is that you have not run a boarding stable before, but your qualifications are awesome :) The only other thing I would suggest is maybe have a system where boarders could maybe "sign up" for individual or private arena time slots. I know I personally like to work with my horse with out an audience. Depending on how many boarders and clients you get, this may be difficult, but may be worth thinking about :) I wish you the best!!

Answer 4

It depends if there is reciprocity or not. Nobody really understands "love". Most of us seem only capable of expressing how it makes us feel, which doesn't say much least that we "feel". Meanwhile, "love" in and of itself, does not--demonstrably, care anything about the way we feel about it. For reality sets it, and we discovered that comparing it to a bunch of stars on a summer evening full of the smell of lilac and gardenia and the warmth and fuzzy feeling in ones stomach arousing out of hold the others heart in ones hands among other intanglements of extremities leaking sweat and harmones, garbed in the trappings of the integumentary system of our skin are all laid waste by simple hunger and thirst. Think about it. But therein lay the rub. For "love" is not an intellectual activity. That's the one thing about it that is off-limits: thinking, rational thought, logic and the rest.

Answer 5

This seemed a relatively easy question to answer, although I would have said, don't they mostly go together? I've never loved anyone who didn't love me. Then as I was thinking--how there have been those who loved me, but I didn't love them in return. It was sort of sad, for them. Love has to be mutual. To love isn't enough, & clearly, can be painful. I can't answer any other way than, most important is to be loved by the person you love.

Answer 6

To Love.... because if you think about it if you could only choose one you'd be better off loving than being love.

With loving your at least doing just that, loving even if no one else in the entire world loves you back.

With just being loved and not getting to love... you are being loved with no love in your own heart so therefore you are not truly living a life of happiness you will live miserably even if the whole world loves you because you don't love any of them herefore you are not makingthe world a better place to be.

Answer 7

To love. Love can do great things, and who says that if u love u wont be loved in return. When u love u do things that u wouldn't normally do...most of them good. Therefore u bring something good to people and this world.

Answer 8

Love someone is a feeling you have for a person.
You cannot go against that feeling , you can only try to control it or reason yourself ( if for a reason or another this love cannot be shared or made public), but the feeling is still there.
As for " to be loved " it is the basic need of all human beings.
Not being loved/appreciated/ cared for ,must be the worst feeling someone can experience.
It's a denial of his/her own existence.
To love a person is fantastic.
Not to be loved is dramatic.

Answer 9

Both, if you dont love them then you would not ever do the same for them as theyed do for you, but on the other hand if you arent loved by them, you would be doing things that aren't really appritiated by them. Sticky situation there, I hope it works out for you, and that you make decisions to help make yourself happy.

Answer 10

to love! to love is more important than to be loved, to the point that it becomes a greater feeling of love, an unconditional love, without asking in return, that you experience this unselfish love...

sometimes people love because they want to be loved back, i dont think that is true love. if you really love someone, it wouldnt matter if they loved you back, but if they do, its just a plus, an added bonus. if you loved unconditionally, then its enough, sometimes more than enough.