Any advice for things to do to help the day run smoothly, little things I may have forgotten, and how to relax in the big run up (i have slept properly for a week!
Please don't bother with the (hilarious!) "Don't do it!'
2007-07-18 06:09:45 · 26 answers · asked by HappyDays 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Make sure that in the room where you and your wedding party are getting ready, you have snacks, bottled water, and an "emergency kit" (lotion, static guard spray, a sewing kit, safety pins, a lint roller, clear nail polish, hair spray, deodorant, a brush, etc...) Also, something is going to go wrong. Accept right now that at least one thing will go wrong, so rather than stressing about it, you can just get past the fact that nothing is perfect. (At our wedding, the aisle runners took about 5 minutes to unroll. They kept getting stuck - I don't recommend using them.)
2007-07-18 06:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm and be ready to "go with the flow" Everything might not go EXACTLY as you had planned, but it will all happen the way it is meant to be.
Try to be present in the moment and not worrying about what comes next and stuff like that. There will be people who make all the details happen. Stop and remind yourself to take in the moment. You will have to remind yourself of this because we can't help that our heads are spinning with all the details and excitement.
If you don't have a wedding coordinator, ask someone to help you with things. Maybe an aunt or relative that isn't in the wedding. She can be your "go to" person. This is a good idea even if you do have a wedding coordinator since a wedding coordinator has the entire wedding to oversee. Make sure it is someone with their head on straight and someone who stays very calm. My aunt did that for me and it was a blessing! She was right there to help with every little thing and non of the wedding party or my mom had to worry about stuff. She was waiting right where we walked down the aisle to time everyone right and to tell me to breathe and smile.
Good luck- everything will go just fine!
2007-07-18 06:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember to breathe and know that something will go wrong. Chances are it will be something small. DON'T let it bother you. It can bother you all you want after the big day, but remember that you need to enjoy your day and not worry.
I found it was helpful to have one of my bridesmaids with me at all times that morning. Anytime I started to obsess or freak out, she was there to reassure me that everything was fine.
Make sure to have a GREAT time! The day will go by really fast, so enjoy it! Laugh often!
As for helping everything run smoothly... if you don't have a wedding coordinator, then either ask someone to be a 'go between' person if something goes wrong or be that person yourself. My husband & I just sucked it up, let things go, and the couple of tiny things that happened we quickly made a decision and just let it go from there.
Good luck and congratulations! You will have a BLAST!!!
2007-07-18 06:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by tokengrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, for your wedding day, if you don't have a wedding planner, ask someone if they would be willing to deal with any problems with vendors, so you can enjoy your day. Make sure it's a reliable person. If someone accepts, contact your vendors and let them know who to talk to on that day. Do this as soon as possible, today if you can. Or you and this person could alternate that day so you'll both enjoy the day.If you are having your reception at a rented RECEPTION hall, they usually have planners on hand to deal with things that may pop up during the reception. If they do, talk to them today to see just how much they will do.
As far as sleep and staying relaxed this week, let tohers help you with the last minute things. Some of my brides have asked their doctors for ONE Valium to take not the night before the wedding, but the night before that, to take at bedtime so you can sleep. I know that sounds drastic, but it has worked. DO NOT use booze, pot, etc. to get a good night's sleep!!!!!! If Valium is NOT an acceptable or possible thing to try, have a friend or your fiancee to give you the best massage they possibly can when you're actually ready to get into bed. Do this for the 2 nights before the wedding. Make sure they can let themselves out and lock-up in case it works and you do fall asleep.
2007-07-18 06:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by elewishs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assign one of your brothers or sisters or your mom or even your best friend to keep watch of the little details... pick someone who knows you best. ( I'd suggest that not be your mother-in-law, since she is probably elderly, and most likely has a much different taste than you.)
Then just go pamper yourself!! Go get a facial, and a massage...
(don't forget waxing!)
chill and watch some romantic, classical movie, or just daydream about your wedding day...
maybe spend some time thinking about what clothes you'll take for your honeymoon or something...
and get a manicure! and throw a pedicure, in too! Maybe go shopping and buy stuff from Victoria Secrets and maybe buy yourself some perfume...
and don't forget to buy a really nice, and expensive perfume scent for your big day!
You should try getting ur MIL something nice as well... all MILs are nice BEFORE the wedding...
Good luck and congratulations!!!!
2007-07-18 07:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations. Just dont panic. Wake up on the morning of your wedding and just enjoy every moment of your day. Take in as much as you can because before you know it, it is all over. I go married last september and I always think back to my wedding day and just wish i could relive it again. We had a great time and it was an amazing day so like I said just relax and enjoy every minute of it.
2007-07-18 15:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two cents worth.....congratulations! Now, don`t worry about the day, or the ceremony. 95% of stuff you worry about never happens. Also, I won`t say "don`t do it", but I will say make sure you marry for love and not lust. If you really want to spend the rest of your life with your spouse, then do it.Pay attention to your vows and what you are agreeing to.....you are making a committment here, and a verbal contract. I f you both mean it, you`ll be alright. Just remember one thing.....I`ve heard people say marriage is a 50-50 propisition. I disagree. Marriage is a 100-100 propisition! Give it all, and give it time........God bless.
2007-07-18 06:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by srmm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, just relax and enjoy yourself, dont sweat the small stuff that is sure to screw up, just remember the final result is you becoming a wife and future mother. Don't let little stuff ruin your wedding like other people do. This is not about the ice sculpture melting or the linens on the table ending up the wrong shade of blue...this is about the end result!
Good luck and Grats
2007-07-18 06:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get alot of sleep the night before tyour wedding.Anything that could go wrong will go wrong theres nothing you can do but enjoy your wedding day, relax let flow. Remember it's not about having a perfect wedding, it's about having a great marriage that will last forever till death separete the two of you.
2007-07-18 06:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already done everything that matters. Something will go wrong, but it will be small. Relax, and get some beauty sleep!! Oh and try to eat a proper breakfast the morning of. Have a wonderful day!
2007-07-18 06:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋