Fell in love with a guy, but life can't allow us to be together. 2 days ago we decided to call it quits but he wants us to remain 'friends'. I love him more than anything and I'm heartbroken, as is he. I can't quite see how we can go back to being 'just friends'.
2007-07-18 06:08:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Moving on is hard. I think that if you two want to be just friends that you and he have to spend a lot of time apart finding yourselves again. You can't just keep things the way they are and not expect to be both hurt and jealous. Distance yourself from him, but don't completely lose contact. After you are okay with him being with another girl then you can remain friends, but until then focus on you.
2007-07-18 06:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very hard at this point whilst you are both hurting. I suggest a break for a while before considering this. Of course you would like to be friends but not whilst you are still in love. That would be too hard right now. Isnt there any chance you can save your relationship? So sad to hear that you love each other yet it cant be so... If not.. time will help you both.. Right now it doesnt feel that way.. but it will.. And after a while you may find that you can be friends.. Best of luck to you both and I hope that theres more options for you in the future.
2007-07-18 13:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things might be a little weird for a while, but then it should all fall back into place. In ur heart u will prolly always wanna B more than that. It's cool just being friends as long as you can take the fact of him possibly dating other grls. I know it hurts like hell, but it's better than never speaking to him or seeing him again. your friendship will always be a treasure between the two of you. Who knows, maybe it might be more than that again someday.
2007-07-18 13:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Strider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie but if you love him as much as you say ... then it's really hard to have him as a friend!! Sometimes you wish it would work but you'll only end up hurting yourself! You have all those feelings and when you see him with someone else you'll only get hurt. I went though it and it hurt so much more than letting go ! I couldn't stand seeing him and not being able to hold him the way i use to! plus a heartache only last as long as you let it sweetie!
2007-07-18 13:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by mimi1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but it's also very very hard. Things are very rarely the same after a break up like yours. The thing you've got going for you is that you didn't break up over a fight or him cheating on you or something like that. Just keep in touch with him. Call him or text him every now and then and just go from there. Like I said, it probably won't be much fun to deal with, but it's possible! Good Luck!
2007-07-18 13:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by nutz2203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying - Lovers cannot be friends.
It's for times just like these.
I suggest you both either call it quits with each other completely or leave those people you're attached to right now - and then get back together.
2007-07-18 13:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to go back to being friends. Some people can't do it, but I'm still great friends with one of my ex's. We went through a lot together, but in time we were able to go back to the way we were before.
Like I said before, it is possible. It just takes some time.
2007-07-18 13:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW no there called an ex for a reason that would be like a
couple getting married having it not work out then saying lets be friends id say move on tell them to lose your number.
2007-07-18 13:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by kevin f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Now that you are exes, things will always be akward, and the fact that you still love each other makes it even worse....no, you can't go back to being friends (unless you really really try at it)
2007-07-18 13:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by lil_munchie_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes some time. me and my ex, just would start small conversation here and there, and its progressed to being really great friends.we talk everyday and are better than we were before we dated. you just need not to rush it and have any expectations about it. if you both want to remain friends and put in the effort then it can happen.
2007-07-18 13:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋