I HAVE BEEN BROKEN UP WITH HIM FOR 3YRS WE TALK OFF AND ON. HE CHEATED ON ME AND GOT HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND PREGNANT AND MARRIED HER LESS THEN 9MONS LATER THEY JUST HAD THERE SECOND CHILD. HIS WIFE HATES ME DONT KNOW WHY I DIDNT STILL HER HUSBAND BUT ANYWAYS WERID THING IS I BECOME FRIENDS WITH HIS WIFES BEST FIREND SHE GOT A JOB AT MY WORK WE BECOME LIKE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS BEFORE I NEW THAT SHE WAS FRIENDS WITH HER. HIS WIFE KNOWS SHE IS FRIENDS WITH ME AND SHE HATES IT I REALLY CANT UNDERSTAND WHY I HAVE NEVER MET HER I WAS NEVER MEAN TO HER. BUT SHOULD I JUST LEAVE IT ALONE AND NOT CALL
2007-07-18 05:44:19 · 10 answers · asked by KRYSTLE M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IM OVER MY EX I HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG WHILE I AM ENGAGED TO A WONDERFUL MAN. I THOUGHT THE POLITE THING TO DO WOULD BE TO CONGRADULATE THEM
2007-07-18 05:46:07 · update #1
I don't think that it would be wrong to congratulate your ex boyfriend on his new baby, but my concern would be in causing a rift between him and his partner. Since she's just had a baby, she's probably feeling pretty emotional right now, and possibly also has issues about not feeling very attractive. Even though you're totally over this guy and it's not your intention to get back together with him, it may seem to her that every girl is a potential rival, especially those with whom he's had previous and possibly unresolved emotional and romantic connections.
So, I'd suggest that if you offer your congratulations to your ex, you keep it very light and verbal. No card that could possibly be misconstrued by the girlfriend if she found it, please! If possible, offer congratulations to both him and his girlfriend. I know this could be uncomfortable and weird, but seriously, if you try to get her to realize that you're not out to "get her man" then things would be easier for everyone all around.
I know it might be hard, but even trying to step back away from the whole situation would be great for awhile. That means the ex and her friend as well. This is probably a very emotional and vulnerable time for her, and while I understand that you want to share in the joy with your friends, it may not be appropriate right now. It's really easy for misunderstandings to happen, and hurt feelings can spin way out of control when emotions are so close to the surface like they are now.
It's a time when you sort of have to think about her feelings, and the needs of the new family unit (your ex, his girlfriend, and the new baby) over your own. If anyone needs to have a chance in this, it's the new baby, right?
Good question, though. Rather than just wading in without thinking about it, you consider the feelings of the people around you. That really shows a sensitive and caring nature towards other peoples' emotions and needs. A lot of people would just do whatever they felt like, so good for you! :)
2007-07-18 12:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you sound like an extremely mature and to blame man or woman and you will be happy with your self for a fashion you're coping with issues. the main suitable concern to do may be to tell the father and your mum and dad asap - that way you will supply up stressing and can commence making plans for the babies arrival! (The time will fly - have confidence me!) the good concern is you have a nicely paid activity and look to nonetheless get alongside which comprise your ex. Many toddlers are extra into this international decrease than lots worse situations - there's no longer something incorrect with being a single mom. i understand those that grew up with in simple terms one determine and function had a important adolescents. maximum suitable of success hun, enable me understand if u want any suggestion or in simple terms want to speak xx
2016-10-09 00:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hates you b/c of the fact that you were with her man before he cheated on you & if she knows that you two still speak occasionally, probably isn't too happy about that..Insecurity...But no need to call & say anything. If you want to send congrats, send it through your mutual friend.
2007-07-18 05:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mind your ex-bf wife. If you know in your heart that your intention to congratulate your ex for his new born baby is pure then go for it. Screw the B***H!
2007-07-18 05:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by I_Rockzzz!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd suggest that you refrain from sending a card. If you see him in person, pass on your congratulations then.
2007-07-18 05:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since his wife hates you I would stay away from him.
2007-07-18 05:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
congradulate him if u want, she doesnt own u. and u can have any friends u want to so i say she can piss-off do what u want 2 it is your decision?
2007-07-18 05:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it was not wrong not matter what anyone says you are just being nice and putting the past behind you and moving on thats good..
2007-07-18 05:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jacklyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was polite.u did nothing wrong.being frien with ur ex's wife's best frd is alright.
2007-07-18 05:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by goldie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep yo pimp hand stroung
2007-07-18 05:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by hot gensler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋