This girl I went out with led me to believe that she was interested in me -- she went out with me once, and agreed to go out with me again. But since then, she has ignored every attempt at communication. I realize now that she is not interested -- she was just stringing me along, and it makes me mad. Should I tell her how I feel or just try to forget about it?
2007-07-18 05:41:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a witheld communication can fester for ages and ruin your life. better to communicate it (in a dignified manner) and then move on.
2007-07-18 05:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by kaiwan58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she's probably hoping is that you'll forget it. It doesn't sound like she was too interested in you after you went out together and probably didn't or doesn't know what to do or say to you and this is the way she's handling it....I'd just leave it and not bring it up. But what you might want to do is say hi to her when you see her and not act like your upset or mad at her, that might break the ice (sort a speak) and at least you two can still be friendly.
Remember something too. Just because you think a person might "be it" isn't always the case. And guess what, it's really nobodies fault when it doesn't work out.
2007-07-18 12:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she wasn't stringing you along at all. Maybe after getting to know you a bit, she realized that the two of you weren't a good match after all.
Let it go...she's obviously not interested so telling her you're upset that she's not actually interested won't gain you anything. Getting the 'brush off' is unkewl (it's been done to me plenty) but it doesn't change the ways of the other person...she should at least have told you it wasn't working for her, instead of just ignoring your communication knowing that eventually you'd "get it" that she's not interested after all.
People who don't know how to properly let others down or how to properly end a relationship, shouldn't date at all.
2007-07-18 12:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just didn't know how to tell you she wasn't feeling you. Trying to be nice and not hurt your feelings (sometimes can be hard for a girl). So, you can try to tell her that it hurt you worse not to know and then maybe you can spare someone else the pain, or just let it go. Best you can do is move on, and try to read the sign during the date. (I read these somewhere)
1. when your sitting next to each other, if her legs (knees) are pointing towards you, she unconsciously digging you!
2. when your together, lightly touch her arm/back a few times, then quite for a while. If she touches you then she likes you; if she doesn't either then don't bother.
I just read these somewhere and it worked for me a few times, so go try it!
2007-07-18 12:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by sugarcookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. You'll find that women are really confused at the start of something. It's to the point that if you're sure you want something with a new girl, keep you're feelings as much as you can to yourself. She might even try to say she "feels love for you" when it's too early to say "I love you." Lies, all Lies!! lol Girls are a fickle bunch and often use decent guys to feel better about themselves for a quick pick-me-up when they feel down abut themselves!!
2007-07-18 12:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by ruondafloyet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your relationship with her. If she is a friend, and someone you continue to socialize with then you say something to her. However, it sounds as if this was not someone in your inner circle. If that be the case let it go. She will get hers one day. Be the bigger person and realize she missed out on something good.
2007-07-18 12:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by therover4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget about it. She obviously decided that she wasn't interested, but it would have been more polite to have let you down gently.
As it is, you are no longer disappointed, but angry. So hopefully killing any leftover feelings for her.
2007-07-18 12:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.. may be she was embarrassed to tell you she is not interesting and this is her way to tell you move on with Ur life
2007-07-18 12:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to forget about it and go on. She isn't worth the effort...
2007-07-18 12:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, what would you be gaining by confronting her? By talking to her you will probably only raise your feeling of anger twards her. Just drop it.
2007-07-18 12:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by mykorkie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋