hard time trusting people?

Question

due to something that happened to me when i was young i have a hard time trusting any one especially men. i really yearn to find the right man and start a family but this fear prevents me from trusting men its gotten to the point where i dont even date!
any one have experience with over coming fear of intamacy?
thanks
kat

Answer 1

I think you've typed this before? Ether that are their is a lot of people with this issue. Let me get more frank with you I guess since I broke you in slowly the last time. And tell this a different way. I use to put myself lower then everyone in this world, always have in one form or another, possible always well, its what gives me my co-dependent like behavior and has me answering peoples emotinal distresses, I accept it. But this is all a matter of my own fear of intamacy, fear of acceptance really, fear that maybe I was wrong, that I'm not worthless, that I'm powerful. And thru time I've find out its, true. I am worth a ****, I am powerful, I can make things happen. I am Ben ( Which is my name just thats my identy I'm not a male, man, kid, person, human, animal, all those things classify me, I'm simply and specifacally Ben) But it took me a long road to get here. And it wasn't by myself, see if I'm anything, worth anything, its because all the good people along my path that help'd me see that. To feel safe being reached to in other words, frist start by reaching out to help others, learn from them, they all our your brothers and sisters, and I don't mean that religiously I mean that Factionally, genetics means nothing to the world we live in our own minds, and hunnie were never that different. Learning to trust is learning to except that. Your just as dangerous as everyone else, understand that and use it to drive you to be safer, stronger, more you. But I'm not normal, nor do I type this now and tell you that being normal is whats going to save you, to me its always be abnormal try and be as normal as everyone else, in other words see the light and find your own path to it, just don't lot religion, science, or any human distrate you. Just understanding yourself is your closes path to understanding the people around you enough to know how far to trust them. This also isn't just your problem, this is everyone about the age of 5's problem.....