Im trying to figure out my bf,, we have now been living together for 9 months in his home,,,by his want,,,,but sometimes i dont know what to think, he has yet to say those 3 words,,and i feel like we are in neutral,,,We get along pretty good, great communication ,etc....but still dont know where this relationship is going,, am i wasting my time or should i still stick around. My 11 year old son really looks up to him and they get along great, but i think deep down inside, im not happy. we have been together for 2 years, but have lived together for 9 months
2007-07-18 05:05:28 · 4 answers · asked by kimmie_o2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree... you should ask him. SOme people assume that their parthner knows how they feel by their actions. You should let him know in a unaccusing manner how you feel and ask him how he feels. It's important not to accuse him of not feeling that way so he doesn't feel like he's put between a rock and ahard place. Tell him you love him and care about him and that you uwanted some reassurance and that sometimes you just need to hear it
2007-07-18 05:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by §å§k¡ . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that he is with you, and you are in his home by his choice.
Guys are not so much about the words, but the actions. He wants you to be with him, don't get so stuck on "those 3 words"...look at his actions, what he is doing. There are plenty of guys out there who can say those 3 little words to 3 different girls, they don't mean a thing...but when your guy eventually says them, you know that he definately means it.
I think you are depriving yourself of a lot of joy because you are so focused on the fact that he can't/won't tell you "I love you"...sometimes guys perceive that saying that exposes their weakness...he may have been through some relationships where he did say those words and ended up getting hurt.
Enjoy the love he is showing you, enjoy the fact that he is stepping up and being a great father figure for your son...that should tell you most of all just how much he does care for you, he is taking care of a boy that isn't even his biological son.
You have something that a lot of women would kill for. Focus on all the positives and STOP focusing on ONE negative...you may lose a really great relationship just because of this ONE thing.
2007-07-18 12:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by hunnygril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people speak "those words" out loud.
He may say it some other way, as simple as kissing you on the back of the neck or doing the dishes even though he hates to.
It sounds like you've got a good relationship , if you can learn to read his language it will be even better.
2007-07-18 12:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask him?
2007-07-18 12:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋