Ok every one this is the deal when i started dateing this guy for about 2 weekis i was calling him to say hi and just to talk he was fine with it, then like 3 weeks ago he asked me not to call him alot due to the fact that i was always calling, and im not going to say no because i was calling him, so he says "Hey call me but dont call me alot, i want to get to know u better but on my pase" and i siad ok that's fine with me, so i stoped calling him, then i went in vacation for a week and he called me rarely that week. So i stoped calling him i waited tell he called me and stuff witch he did but just for alittle bit. Know we haven't seen each other for 2 weeks due to our work and he's school and last night he called me asking me why i haven't been calling him, and that he think's that i dont care for him, i leave him for last and all these things, so i dont know what he want's 1 he tells me not to call him and know he want sme to be there and call him. what's up with him?
2007-07-18 05:01:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ugh. What's up with You??
Tell the truth... you're being a smart azz by never calling him, yes? You're reading between the lines too much, or at least the wrong ones. He doesn't want to be suffocated. He likes the attention, but isn't sure he's ready to be in a real tie-me-down relationship. Listen to what he said, "see your quote."
It means, 'it seems You are more sure of wanting something here that I'm not so sure of wanting, at least at this time.' He's not as into you as you are into him because of how fast things have progressed. Be consistent in pursuing him, just take it down two notches.
His peach... Sounds like you're trying too hard to please him. Worry about you more please for both of your sakes.
2007-07-18 05:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is going though,some person issues. Talk to them about the mix messages that he is giving you and try to come to an understanding with each other about whats considered not calling a lot, but still calling. Cause you both have a different understanding of calling.
2007-07-18 05:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Peglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to call a reasonable amount. This doesn't sound like rocket science. 2 weeks too little, every day too much. Men and women always disagree about this. And it surprises me every time I hear it because it's so typical and obvious.
I'm betting like most guys;
1. He just generally hates to talk on the phone. It has nothing to do with you it's just boring no matter who it is.
2. When someone calls he wants to get to the point. Guys don't chit chat.
3. None of this means he doesn't want you to call when there is really something to say. Emphasis on "something to say".
4. Regardless of what your friends and other women are going to say this doesn't mean he doesn't want to talk to you. So put down the kleenex.
It's the phone not you. Talking on the phone is mind numbingly boring no matter how much we like you. Come over and we'll talk all night but the phone will put us to sleep in 30 seconds.
Most guys get that women love to talk on the phone. They like to talk about what we would call nothing but yet we know it means something to you so we endure it. Trust me any guy who says he enjoys it is saying that so you won't get angry. This guy is just being honest with you.
2007-07-18 05:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by elurle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 00:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well I dont call my bf... but thats different... how many times a day did you call him if only once... he's trippin boo.. get off his dick. If you calling him 3 and 4 times a da..chill that out and maybe just call him every once in a while... not everytime you get bored
2007-07-18 05:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you thought over what he told you. And, after giving it some serious thought you decided that he wast right. He had very good advice and you followed his suggestion by not calling him too much in order to give him his space. Tell him you agree, he needs his space as much as you need yours. So, now you call only when you are thinking of him. And if he is thinking of you it is his turn to call you.
2007-07-18 05:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he wants to get to know you "at his pace" then he needs to be the one setting the pace by initiating your phone conversations himself, instead of expecting you to know when is and isn't a good time to call him.
my first impression was that he doesn't really want to get to know you at all, and is just trying to make an excuse and hoping that your contact will eventually fizzle down to nothing. but then its strange that you say he has gotten upset that you don't call him. that too, could just be a mind game he's playing to feign that he is still interested.
my advice, wait for him to show some interest. typically if a guy is truly interested in getting to know you, he will call you. no matter how busy he is.
2007-07-18 05:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he took the calls u gave him for granted at first and when u listened and did as he asked then now he began to miss it. funny way guys are one minute they want something and the next its something else. itd be nice if ud explain to him that was what he was asking for and u gave it to him. he just has a wrong way to put words i guess
2007-07-18 05:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear...he is a man. I have nothing against them and I love mine but its like they are always wanting something different than what they just asked.
I always feel like Im never doing anything right. You get that too?
2007-07-18 05:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by hispeach128 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He thought it was bothersome for u to call him so much, but when u stopped, he realized how good it made him feel. So call him, but every 2/3 days or so, no more, kinda like playing hard to get since u know wut ticks him off!
2007-07-18 05:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋