No mannered kid and well-mannered kid ?

Question

I met a no manner's kid at supermarket last Sunday.

It's really crowded, the boy's father push the shopping cart and stop behind me as there's too many people and I can't move forward anymore, when I am waiting others to move forward, I heard the boy yelled:"Why she stop there?Knock her down if she won't move forward!" I was shocked to hear that as he's only about six-year-old! And his father, shocked me again as he didn't scold his kid for being no manners.

I also met a well-mannered kid that day in front of a food stall, the boy accidentally hits my arm and he said sorry immediately after that.He's also about six-year-old.

Both of them are kids, but they are very different.

What's your opinion? Do you think it's parents responsibilities if kids have bad manners?

Answer 1

It's the parent's responsibility to teach their child social skills. However, if the parent doesn't use manners, it's very difficult to teach the child to do it. Children don't miss a thing, and they imitate what they see & hear. In the situation you described with the ill-mannered child, I probably would've turned around and addressed the father by saying something along the lines of "Excuse me, but would you please control your child?" Age is NO excuse for rude behavior / disrespect. I had two very well mannered little girls, and my 2 year old granddaughter is very well mannered. She says "Please", "thank you", "excuse me" and she apologizes if an apology is due. Children DO learn what they live. As long as the parent is legally responsible for the child, it is the PARENT'S responsibility to set boundaries and properly discipline the child. Once the child is out on their own, parents cannot be held responsible for the decisions that child makes - and many will rebel for a time when they reach puberty through their young adult years! Already been through that with my oldest, and going through it now with my youngest.

justmy2cents - I mean no disrespect, but if you have a 6 year old that is already walking all over you, that IS your doing and I pray you get help to turn that around now, or you will be in for one bad ride by the time he reaches junior high - and high school will be even worse!

Answer 2

Personally it is the parents responsibility up to a certain point. Of course when the child is 5 or 6 then defiantly. Even when the child is 17. When the child turns 18 then the parents are no longer lawfully responsible but they are ethically. I feel the same way you do in the sense that parents don't discipline their children they used to. I can remember being a child and not being able to even yell in the store even if i was just playing. But in society today, parents i guess just don't have the time, don't care, too tired or busy for their children. But the sad part is that these same children like the rude one you saw in the store saying to push the lady out of the way, there going to be the ones ruling this world when we are old. That's the part that makes me feel worse.

Answer 3

Children can and will get away with anything their parents don't scold them about. They turn into little versions of the parents sometimes but also schooling/friends influence children A LOT. I think some parents just get tired of having to be on their children's cases all the time about using manners and yeah, it gets tiring, but if you don't...they'll turn into spoiled kids.

Answer 4

If any of my kids acted like that I don't know what I would do, especially an older child that should know better! All my kids are polite and have manners, even my 2 1/2 year old says please, thank you and excuse me. I would defiantly think a child that acts like that has parents with poor manners. Since kids learn from example.

Answer 5

It's up to the parents.
I was at the cinema a few days ago with my 9 year old niece. Sat across the aisle were a couple with their elderly Mum.They were abused, threatened and sworn at by a Dad who there with his wife and little kids - right next to him. The people sat in front had obviously asked these scum bags sat behind to stop talking or stop kicking their seats or suchlike and with things being said like "I'll smack your ******* face in you *****" to the old lady - how can you expect children to grow up decent when that is their role model?

Answer 6

To be honest, I have a six yr old and have no idea what will come out of his mouth. Now if it were me, I would have scolded him for saying that, however I don't think it's the parent's fault how the child acts. I try to make my child behave and he walks all over me. So next time, maybe you should turn around and say hey I stopped because.....

Answer 7

No well I guess it's some what your parents fault if they spoiled you as a kid, but when I was a kid my parents told me they were going to spank me till my butt was blisterd. And I still was a bad mannerd kid. I said I was going to chop peoples heads off and wanted to kill people. Butt now that I'm older I act perfectly normal. So you see you some times you can teach a kid right from rong and make them a well mannerd person but some times there is no hope. But they almost always grow out of it

Answer 8

It's definitely the parents who are responsible for teaching their children about manners. That is part of being a parent is to show your child right from wrong.

Answer 9

At that age, there are no bad kids just bad parents.

As parents we have a responsibility to lead out kids in the right direction.

My 5 year old little girl sang "big man in a little coat" because she saw a fat guy. I immediately corrected her behavior and she hasn't done it since. (that was a year ago)

Answer 10

There are some kids who are naturally more rambunctious, but it usually is a matter of how one is brought up. If a child is never scolded for their wrongs, then how can they grow as a person?