I think it reflects on the parents. They are obvisouly too old for it and the parents just don't want to deal with trying to take it. What do you think?
2007-07-18 04:55:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think it looks ridiculous!! No kid ever gives up a pacifier on their own, they become dependent on it. It is up to the parents to break them of the habit. The longer you wait the harder it will be. Some people cut the end off it so the kid doesn't like it anymore and stops using it. Others just go cold turkey and just put up with the screaming for a couple of days. I run a daycare and had one of those kids who was three and would show up with his sucky everday. Mom said he needed it but I disagreed so put it away after mom left and guess what? He forgot all about it, didn't ask for it once. I think mom was more dependent on it to keep the kid quiet!! Soothers are for babies not toddlers. I just want to grab those things and chuck them when I see them on anyone over the age of 1 1/2. By the way I have 2 kids and neither one of them ever had one and I didn't have the problem of breaking the habit later. Don't start if you don't have to!
2007-07-18 05:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Actually, it is NOT a sign of lazy parenting, nor is it necessarily bad for the child's teeth. Just like with potty training a child, weaning a child from a pacifier can be just as much of a struggle.
A child must be emotionally ready to get rid of a pacifier and/or be emotionally ready to cope with the loss of something that they see as a security item. If the child is not emotionally ready, then the child will not be able to handle it, and it will cause other issues (such as anxiety, stress, unreasonable fears, etc.).
What you are speaking of is the fact that it is seen as socially unacceptable, but that does not take into account the psychological and or emotional aspects of a child's developing mind.
One person mentioned that it is bad for the child's teeth- this is a myth, and not accurate. In recent years, they have actually been selling bigger pacifiers for older children in the stores, just as they now sell GoodNites that are for children into their teens and/or young adulthood. There was a need so they made it. They are made orthodontically safe for children so it does not mess up their teeth.
Needless to say, it may be socially unacceptable, but it is not lazy parenting nor is it unsafe or unhealthy for the child.
2007-07-18 13:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by AnAvidViewer 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a littlet RASH to assume that just b/c a 3-4 y/o has a pacifier that they parents need PARENTING CLASSES? Come on, now, really? I don't understand why people make issues of such minor things in the whole scheme of life. What about the people who are TRULY harming their child's self-esteem, well-being, etc? That reflects on the parents. Those of us with children all fight our own battles. Each parent learns what they themself can/can't live with. If the child is healthy and cared-for, what is it hurting? Judging others is easy but none of us are raising perfect children. Often those without children are the quickest to judge....what in the world does that say?
2007-07-18 12:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anna R 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's up to the parents, but I would be afraid that the kid would be delayed in speech w/ having a pacifier in his/her mouth all the time. It also looks ridiculous seeing a 4 yr. old walking around w/ one.
2007-07-18 12:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~lattemom~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the pacifier is a security issue. Yes ,
I agree with you. Pacifiers are full of germs
and some parents would rather not go Thur the few days of breaking the child's habit. Peace at any price- right?
2007-07-18 12:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by bernice l 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
IT BOTHERS ME. KINDA LIKE WHEN YOU SEE A CHILD THAT IS ABOUT 2 OR 3 WITH A BOTTLE. IT IS JUST CRAZY NOT TO MENTION WHAT IT IS DOING TO THE CHILDS TEETH. I HAVE TWO CHILDREN AND ONE DIDNT LIKE HIS BOTTLE BUT HUNG ON TO THE PACIFIER UNTIL HE WAS A YEAR OLD AND I JUST HAD TO TAKE THEM COLD TURKEY, AND OTHER SON HATED A PAICIFIER BUT LOVED HIS BOTTLE AND I TOOK IT AT A YEAR BUT STILL TO THIS DAY AND HE IS ALMOST TWO IF HE SEE'S A BOTTLE HE WILL TRY TO GET IT. I JUST THINK MAYBE SOME PARENTS FIGURE WHAT CAN IT HURT AND THE KID WILL KNOW WHEN IT IS READY BUT I DISAGREE CAUSE I THINK THEY WILL KEEP WANTING IT AS LONG AS YOU LET THEM HAVE IT.
2007-07-18 12:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by capricornmommy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they're too old for it but I have more important things to worry about. My own kids never had a pacifier but I really don't care what decisions parents make for their kids as long as they're not being abused. I'm one of those "minding my own business" kind of people that you rarely see nowadays.
2007-07-18 23:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I totally agree. It does reflect on the parents. The same way when you see a 5 yo or a 6 yo in stroller. Time to give that up.
2007-07-18 12:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
My twin boys will turn 3 in September and we are just now starting to wean them off.
Sorry if this offends all you guys, but we are good parents.
It's simply something you can see, that's why you judge. Most bad parenting comes in the way of intangibles..observing the parents do, work ethic etc.
2007-07-18 12:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by Le BigMac 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think OMG! There's no reason for it. However, I've gone at my own pace with certain things in raising my daughter, so to each his own I guess. I try to think about it from both sides, cuz I know I'm not by any means perfect.
2007-07-18 12:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋