I have a friend that has been talking about how he can't get me off his mind. When he first met me I was dressed up with a little cleavage showing and I have given him a kiss about 3 times in the past month he has known me. He says he goes to sleep thinking about kissing all over me and wakes up thinking about me. He calls me three times a day morning, noon, and night. hes a older man & i love older men but he is scaring me. I want to give him some but i am scared it will be some fatal attraction stuff going on. I had this to happen to me twice by older men too. and they started off just like he did, with strong feelings before i even got in the bed with them. even though i can do for myself, this man can do even more but i hate to be smothered & i really don't like talking on the phone everyday about nothing. I tried to back up once & he said he would not give up that easily so i just talk 2 him on the phone. should i let him go or what do you think?
2007-07-18 04:47:57 · 30 answers · asked by My two cents 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should follow your instincts...However, if you 're that prone to older men, you should wait until you discover what he really wants.
2007-07-18 04:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Eliza D 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cut him off. Just because he likes you or you have some sort of friendship does NOT mean you have to provide him sexual gratification. You're letting him walk all over you and talk you into things that make you uncomfortable - if you don't set your foot down soon he will eventually talk you into things you REALLY regret.
Tell him you've had it with his manipulations and obsessive behavior, and that you are ending the connection once and for all, for his sake as well as yours. Urge him to seek therapy, and tell him on no uncertain terms that if he attempts to contact you in any way again, you will catalog his every attempt and report him to the police, get a restraining order, and eventually have him jailed if he doesn't respect your wishes. Make sure you do this over the phone or in a public place in case his obsession turns to violence... but don't think you can escape him by just burying your head in the sand.
2007-07-18 11:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should understand about older men is that they try to use mental control over you because you're young. They tell you what they think you want to hear like, you're so pretty, your body is so great, you're so sexy, etc., All this, is a game to get you in the bed, and also remember that they're cheap because they have a steady woman or wife in their life. I went through the same thing with older men when I was eighteen and the compliments never stopped coming because they hadn't got me in bed yet. Play their game better than them, ask him for tuition fees, car note, insurance, mortgage and you'll see just how interested he is in you. he run away faster than a cheetah if you ask him for more than dinner and a drink because his woman is monitoring the bank account.
2007-07-18 12:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Neenah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him it will only make matters worse and him wanting more that you may not want to give. He seems a little obsessive maybe, tell him he just needs to back off a little and you see him as a friend. If he's says it that or nothing than he doesn't care for you that much.
2007-07-18 11:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by padros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calling 3 times a day is a little obsessive, don't you think? Rely on your past experiences to guide you. In this case, sounds like you should move on.
2007-07-18 11:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by abizzell4hire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were with me, I wouldn't be pressuring you, smothering you, or persuading you to do anything you were obviously uncomfortable about. Yes, I'd love to find a girl who would just like to ****, but not if it involved the drama you describe. This guy is trouble. Get out now.
2007-07-18 11:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his actions don't feel right to you, then I think you have your answer.
The worst thing you could do is give it up to some man who is obsessed with you. This is only going to make his obsession stronger.
Tell him you are willing to keep talking to him, but that things need to slow way down. If he says no, then you need to cut him loose and watch out for signs that he might be stalking you.
Good luck!
2007-07-18 11:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by T the D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm yea.....If the same thing happened twice before what do you think is going to happen this time? These guys all share the same personality traits or maybe you just like to crush peoples hearts.
2007-07-18 11:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Fissure 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's scary! I'd get outta that before you get any deeper. Just get away from him and cut your ties!!! Save yourself the trouble that could be around the corner! Good Luck!
2007-07-18 11:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by 04/12/2008 :) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you feel is right but from the sounds of things you really are not feeling good about this
2007-07-18 11:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dede 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is moving much to fast!
think about the consequenses
i made this mistake and i regret it horribly
i let things out of control
you need to backtrack and tell him
to back off
sounds like he onlii wants to bed yooh!
2007-07-18 11:51:45 · answer #11 · answered by almost17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋