but just latley he has been weing himself constatly as soon as i put pants on him he wets them, its driving insane, what do i do? do i tell him its wrong and he shoul have used the toilet? coz he knows what and when he doing it! or its a ploy for a more attention from mum, ive just started work again and he has a baby brother, or should i just clean it up and ignore the situation?
thanks
2007-07-18 03:59:22 · 17 answers · asked by nicola h 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He has to know its wrong you must tell him - my son has been dry almost a year now and we still have accidents usually caused by hanging on to the last minute or being so distracted there isn't a hope of him going to the loo. He went through a phase where I knew he was deliberately wetting and we made it clear we were very disappointed with him - he was three yesterday and he does understand. He will say if he forgot and does apologise if he does. We haven't made it such an issue that he becomes upset about it though so we seem to have found the right balance but its taken a while.
2007-07-18 06:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by StephE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he thinks he is not getting enough attention now that he has a little brother and you are back at work.
So this will be a difficult and as you say frustrating situation to resolve . Hopefully there is no other issue , is he happy at nursery , are there some new kids in his street ??
Perhaps you need to tell him quietly that it looks like he will have to go back in to nappies , I don't mean in a threatening way , just that you thought he was a big enough boy now not to wear them but maybe you were wrong?/
It seems obvious there is no physical problem as he had already been potty trained , it must be a mental thing , but perhaps if all else fails a word with GP or practise nurse may help
Good luck
2007-07-18 04:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i woulndt ignore the situation.
He might be having a hard time dealing with you going back to work, its probably a big shock to his little system not having you around.
He may need a little time to adjust to things. I think i would probably just tell him he's a big boy now and big boys dont wet thier pants. Maybe reward him when hes dry for a long period of time? But dont scold him when hes wet himself, that could work against you and he might keep on doing it.
It could be an attention thing but maybe you should consult your GP just incase as someone else mentioned there could be another underlying problem.
Good luck, i hope you get everything sorted out
2007-07-18 21:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by saera 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You CAN'T ignore it. It is wrong ~ he is mimicking his baby brother, cause he gets all the attention. And he hates the fact that you are gone back to work.
Spend some quality time with him alone - only. (and spend time in the bathroom re-potty training him) Before he wets himself. Otherwise that will be the atttention getter.
Congratulations on potty training him when he was 2 ~ too many parents wait too long ~ 2 is the milestone !!! They should be potty trained by 2. So you didn't do it too early.
2007-07-18 04:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by MELANIE 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to him about it. Kids that age are smarter than you think. I have twins that turned 3 last month. My daughter is dry all day, but wets the bed pretty often. We talk about it and how she needs to get up to go to the potty. If she does wet the bed though I don't fuss at her. I tell her it was an accident and it's no big deal. I don't want to give her a complex and I figure she will eventually stop wetting the bed. Stinks to constantly change her and her bed linens, but that is what mom's do. Hang in there!!
2007-07-18 04:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Madmas 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My granddaughter has had an ongoing problem with a bladder infection which caused her to wet her pants; it could be that your son needs to have this checked out.
Make an appointment to see his G.P.
My daughter was out of napkins at 18 months exactly - dry 3 days later because she hated the feel of urine tricklung down her legs. Never had an recurrence, and neither did my friends - it was before this modern fashion of leaving kids to find their own way into bladder control.
2007-07-18 04:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ingnore the situation because it is only going to get worse. It sounds like he in mimicking his little brother because he sees that everytime his brother wets hisself you change him and he wants that same attention that you are giving his brother. My niece went through the same thing when her little sister came along and we were paying more attention to the baby and not her. What we did was that every time she went to the pot we told her good job you are such a big girl. That worked very well and she started to go to the pot again. With my daughter she started to wet her pants again to when I went back to school. We did the same thing that we did with my neice and it didn't work so we started to treat her like a baby, She finally realized that as a baby she could not eat the foods that everyone else ate she had to eat baby food, she had to take naps like babies, she could not go outside and play with the big kids and the that snap her back into reality. You have to be patient with him and he will start to go potty again when he realized that you are not going to be changing his pants everytime he wets them. All kids do that because they get used to one thing and suddenly their whole little life change in a blink of eye, Be patient and try the tips that I gave you and see what's happens. If those don't work take him for a check-up because he could have a problem with his bladder. Hope this helps.
2007-07-18 04:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by taejah2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably having a little difficulty adjusting to all of the changes. Don't ignore it - but don't berate him either. Remind him that he is a big boy and be sure to praise him when he does make it to the potty. Be patient and let him know that you still love him just as much as you did before his little brother came along...
2007-07-18 04:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately attention seeking.
We had this with a child we cared for recently, she suddenly made no attempt to use her potty and would just wee (or sometimes poo, so be warned!). We tried everything, mum tried everything and eventually one day mum just told her that she wasn't changing her wet things and she's have to be uncomfortable. She never did it again.
2007-07-19 02:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by LilyB7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not trained and hes still 2. kids regress and back track time to start over at square one and instead of just putting the pants on sit him on the potty for a few minutes first
2007-07-18 04:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋