I have a 10 yr old daughter. what is a good age to have "the talk"?

Answer 1

She probably already knows, however, if you want to "break the ice," you could simply tell her that if she has any questions about anything it's OK to ask you.

Answer 2

this is probably a good time. kids find out a lot of info from their friends and the best thing is for her to have more info and not less. You want her to hear things from you first. you want her to know that you will tell her the truth and that if her friends tell her things (or she "hears" things that are not the same as what you have said) that are different, that she should come to you and know that you will explain things and always tell her the truth. Answer her questions honestly. Don't give her too much info unless and until she asks. Try not to avoid the conversation. Try to use the real words for body parts. There are two good books (there are many, actually) called "It's So Amazing," and "It's Perfectly Normal." They are both excellent. It's So Amazing is for younger and It's Perfectly Normal is for slightly older. You might want to look through both and decide where she's at. Be sure to tell her she should come to you with questions. Look through the book(s) together so you can explain and talk about what she doesn't understand. Let her be embarrassed if she feels that way. Let her read alone (even in the closet!) if she feels she needs to but, let her know you understand and will offer support and advice when she wants it.

Answer 3

Should be an on-going dialogue so that you are in communication about ALL the big issues in life all the time. This way there are no surprises as you will be up to date with the latest. There really should be no barriers and all topics should be OK to talk about. If you haven't started to do this yet, now is the time to begin. Don't start with the heavy issues but edge in with some of the sidelines. Dress, manners, appreciation of others, interaction with peers, etc. Get her to talk freely without butting in as a heavy adult. It is possible to be guide, parent, friend and mentor all together. This way you will grow up together as friends after the childish bit is over. Remember, in ten years, you could be wanting her guidance. I am SO grateful my eldest daughter, now 30, is my good friend, guide and loving support and gives me the best advice she can. We are all humans at different stages on the journey and we all have a lot to offer each other. Bless you!

Answer 4

We have a 10 year old son- and have "the talk" often. It started when he was little and asked where babies come from- and we told him from a mommy and a daddy. When he was 8 he wanted to know more.

Last year, we were pregnant with his sister- and he had all sorts of questions. He came to every appointment and was there when his sister was born.

So, the talk is on going- on his age level. I guess I don't feel that in our home- we should make it an event- it should be something that is continual based on the child's age. Likewise, my husband and I believe that it should incorporate values as well as facts.

So...it's always going on.

Answer 5

Hun, if your daughter is 10 then she is at that age where things are going to be talked about at school; if not by her then by other kids. She's going to be starting her period soon, if she already hasnt and coming from someone whos mother didnt tell her ANYTHING... she needs to hear the "facts" from you. Why is she going to be having a period? What exactly is it? How long does it last? then I would move into the subject of sex. The way I see it, if she doesnt hear about it from you, she will hear about it from some kid at school. Be honest and open the lines of communication at a young age... that way she will feel comfortable to come to you in the future. Best of luck.

Answer 6

This question is as popular as the "Am I pregnant" question. Maybe there is a connection there huh? I am going to tell you the same thing I've said many times before. People need to stop thinking of this as a one time only talk! When you were taught your ABC's you weren't expected to read the very same day. When you were taught numbers you weren't expected to do algebra the same day. You know why? Because it takes practice and a lot of learning to become fully knowledgable on the subject. You cannot seriously expect to talk to your child one time and think they will know all that is needed to be known. Can you? You need to talk with your daughter and keep instilling your values upon her. It's NEVER too early to speak with a child. I would NOT wait until she gets her period. That could scare her. She needs to know before hand. It's not fair to expect her to wait until she starts her period. She may not know what that's all about and she could become scared. Ignorance is not bliss it's equal to dieases and teenage pregnancy. Respect her and trust her to handle these things. Don't wait until it's too late.

Answer 7

my daughter will be 10 next month and i bought her a book telling her all about the changes her body will begin to go through. we read it together and talked about it and I answered any questions she had at that time. It didn't get into the whole sex thing but it did have a chapter on it and good touch and bad touch. the book was called A Girl Thing.
Hope this helps

Answer 8

I Was About 11, A Lady Came Into School And Did A Talk With Us

Answer 9

Wow, mom, around 6 would have been the time to start. Hopefully she knows all the proper biological terms for body parts and uses them - she has a vagina and a vulva, boys have a penis and testicles...
Just explain everything openly, according to your own family values and faith. Don't do it all in one session, that's too overwhelming. Get books from the library if you need help with showing pictures - ask the librarian for help. Make sure you stay open to her asking questions - because you want her to come to her, instead of believing myths from friends. Just add more information as you see fit. More girls than ever are getting their periods earlier than we did, so have her as prepared as you can for this as well.
And remember, there's nothing wrong with answering 'I don't know' to a question, or saying you'll find out something for her.

Answer 10

Ten is a good age to start. She especially needs to know about menstruation. My daughter was 11 when she got her first period. You don't want her to be caught off guard when it happens. Just give her the basics for now and let her know that she can ask you any questions.

Answer 11

Just keep it casual. I bought my daughter the American Girl book about changes she would go through. We talked about it and looked at it together. I just talked to her to find out what she knew. When she knew a lot but not details, I knew it was time to tell her the correct information. I didn't go into gory details, I just touched on all the high points with her. Keep the lines of communication open.....Good luck.