Well my life consists of being the quiet one...this leads for me to be not like standing out and not actually asked out. This makes me kinda depressed sometimes and makes me quiet. (So its like a circle) Then my friends takes the spotlight. I just wish I was like notice...and happy that I am. I need to break the chain of me: Sad>Quiet>Noone notice>Sad> This is a full circle. Help with my life please...?
2007-07-18 03:46:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
speak up and talk to people. you don't have to talk to people you don't know or don't want to talk to, but when your with your friends, talk so people will notice you.
2007-07-18 03:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by 14bert14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to talk to someone that's been through the same cycle, feel free to email me.
It's a hard cycle to break, but after I left HS, I broke it with a vengance.
The thing is, you need to be comfortable in your own skin. Get an understanding of those around you. Know your limits. Approach them a little at a time.
BTW...Just because you're quiet doesn't mean you'renot noticable. It may make you a little harder to approach, because people can't get a read on you.
2007-07-18 10:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is to start talking. Even mentioning something small in any conversation. So you have to start breaking that cycle with the Quiet part.
This doesn't mean be loud and talk to everyone, just feel comfortable with your ideas and beliefs, and express them to people.
So how can you start? Give compliments, whenever you are interested in a conversation get into it and give a small thought or something to that extent.
If your shy about talking to people start talking more online, with friends or even random strangers but just for one conversation, until you get accustomed to talking.
So on and so forth. Luck!
2007-07-18 10:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're sad. I'm this way about getting female friends, now. However, I used to be this way with guys,too, until I met my now husband. When you do see someone you could be interested in just force yourself to smile. Do this until it comes naturally to you. Then work in "Hello's" and "How are you today's?" Eventually you'll be confident enough to have full conversations with guys you like. Don't forget that times have changed and girls can ask guys out. The worst thing he can say is no. But if you're confident it shows through and I bet you'll be getting Yes in no time.
2007-07-18 10:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by plastic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STart doing, or chatting to someon so you can feel better within yourself, start buidling on your confidence and self estem. If you can feel good about yourself, then you will begin to act more confident, therefore taking the spot light and getting noticed. Dont go out your way to get noticed for the bad things, things will sort out, Im here if you want to chat
2007-07-18 10:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there anyone you feel spontaneous/loud around? sometimes it's hard being in a group- maybe you're more of a one-on-one person. try just hanging out with one friend (?) then after you've become comfortable with that friend, try hanging out in a group with that friend and he/she will make you feel comfortable to talk up.
2007-07-18 10:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to speak up
Make more friends, preferably with different interests, things that you like to talk about.
2007-07-18 10:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be quiet. Speak your mind.
2007-07-18 10:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by snowangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
circle.....break it's sides...u have to change ur routine
2007-07-18 10:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile, lifes good.
2007-07-18 10:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by victoriaah♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋