He's pressuring me. Should I let him go?

Question

I'm the one to usually give advice, but this time I need it.I have this boyfriend,who's 15. I'm a virgin and 13.he's not. HE'S wanting to change that. He tells me you can't get pregnant the first time.Bullhockey. But I'm going to stay a virgin until I'm married. I'm a girl who's worth waiting for. I told him If he stops pressuring me, we will stay together. But if he doesn't, then it's over. Either way I'm NOT under ANY circumstances having sex. What should I do? THank you for reading and God Bless.

He's done it with other girls about 23 times.

Answer 1

If you're not ready for sex and that determined to save yourself till marriage, you're absolutely making the right decision!

He doesn't sound like he wants much more from you than to take your virginity, since he's pressuring you so much.

Answer 2

You go girl!! You have the option of choosing a different guy with similar values as your own. 15 year guys can be very self-focused....he sounds like a 'player in the making'. Even if he verbally agrees to what you propose, he could still continue to pressure you in less obvious ways. He make wait until a week moment and attempt to manipulate you. For example, if you agree to kiss & cuddle, he'll continue to edge forward toward his goals. You need someone on the same page that will respect you, your bodies and the boundaries you've set. He's already shown that he doesn't have your best interest at heart (and he probably wouldn't have any girl's best interest at heart) by trying to persuade you to give in.....with the justification that you can't get pregnant. He not only has shown disrespect for your values, but has made the mistake of assuming you are ignorant. I recommend you put distance between you....he may make a better friend than 'boyfriend'. I applaud the stand you've taken....don't back down.

Answer 3

You don't sound like a 13 year old! You got your head screwed on straight, explain to this guy that you're not into that - he should not be pressurising you in any way shape or form. I'm glad you know he's lying about not getting pregnant the first time. He's a lot less mature than you. Give him the option - inform him that you like him, but are not prepared to sleep with him. You're just not ready and apart from that you're both underage - I know that's a stupid way of looking at it, but point that out to him anyway. Maybe he's forgotten that you're both young teenagers. If he's not willing to accept that, bin him. As you so rightly said, you're gonna be worth the wait.

Stay strong and keep ahold of that attitude - if you know what you want, you go out and get it. Equally, if you know what you don't want, stick to your guns and tell him where to get off.

Answer 4

THat's good that you realize that you are worth more than lies and tricks. You stand up for your beliefs and don't let anyone test you. Yes at 13 I thought I was older and more reponsible and could handle my own problems too, but really you shouldn't even be talking about sex. It's too much stress and burden to carry with you and it has severe consequences when you are so young. You should be focused on school, sports, hobbies,friends,family..whatever makes you happy. But to answer your Q of what to do. It's obvious, he can't respect you enough not to lie and try to trick you then he's not worth even talking to anymore! You don't need a bf anyway...you have all of hs ahead of you still. Plus if he is this desperate for sex, he could be dangerous. He may not take no for an answer in the right situation. Plus he could be preying on other girls too, just looking to score. So i'd tell him it's over and move on.

Answer 5

Oh Gosh, this is, what we call in Italian a "capriccio" a silliness....I think you should wait, you're still a baby, you have time for that, what you should do, is go to school, get an education, you will know when the right time comes for you to give yourself completely to someone....This guy don't even know how to change his underwear yet and he wants you to have $ex with him.....I'm in the age between 19-21, i'm still a virgin, and waiting until marriage, marriage is a blessing thing, and why not share with the one you're planing on spending the rest of your life with...Good Luck sweetheart!

Answer 6

Listen to me. Let. Him. Go.
NO boy/man is worth compromising your morals or decisions or anything else for. I think it's amazing and wonderful that you have decided to wait. I wish I had waited longer, and I was 16 my first time. Dump that twit and just hang out with your friends for a while. Don't worry about guys right now. You've got all the time in the world! I've said it before when I answered a question of yours, and I'll say it again. You are an extremely smart girl, especially for being (don't hate me!) so young. :)

Answer 7

You sound like a smart level headed young lady who knows exacltly what to do. You are only 13 and you know you aren't ready for such a big step. I understand completely and know what it feels like to pressured and virginity is such an important thing. He is obviously not respecting your point of view and I say enough with this guy. Walk away. There is no point in sticking around. He'll just find another girl to do the same thing to.

My advice: Dump him and remember waiting is worth it.

Answer 8

If he's pressuring you then he is not respecting the person that you are. You are young and I'm so proud of you that you are standing firm in your decision. I know that you already know the answer to your question but I will elaborate on it. It sounds to me that he's only interested in what he can get. A boy like that does not respect anyone and obviously not even himself. Real true love begins with respect. When you are in a relationship, you should not be looking for what you can get out of it, but rather what you can bring to it. Remember that and I will pray that you continue to stay strong and firm in your decisions. God Bless You.....

Answer 9

You just answered you own question stay a virgin do not let no man pressure you into having sex. You need to let him go becasue he's not going to stop pressure he's going to say to you things like if you love me you will have sex with me. He will also say that if you don't have sex with him he's going to find someone else that will.Well girl I am here to tell you, let him do just that . Everything in life happens for a reason and if he truly, truly care about you, he will not pressure you at all.

Answer 10

Stand your ground and be proud. We need alot more teens like you in this world, with value for themselves. Dont let anyone change your mind about something you believe in. He is not worth it. Even if you didnt get pregnate, you still would get a heartbreak for sure, cuz he isnt gonna stick around after the fact. He just wants it cuz he wants what he cant have. Great Job, and I hope you dont give in. Leave him if he doesnt stop asking, move on and find someone that will respect your wishes.

Answer 11

If he can't respect your decision to wait for sex until marriage, then he won't ever be able to respect YOU as a person. You really do deserve someone who will respect you, and share your beliefs in abstinence. Therefore, I think your decision to dump him if won't stop pressuring you for sex is a very, very smart choice. Way to go!

BTW, I'm 19, still a virgin, and with ya on the waiting for marriage. Luckily, so is my BF, so hang in there! There are guys out there who want to wait! :)