I love my boyfriend to bits, and until yesterday i was sure he loved me just as much. While he was on a holidya to zante with his mates (him being the only unavaible one) he said that he met a girl out there and they did sleep together.
I was distraught and broke up with him. But he constantantly calls me says he loves me (crys dwn the phone to me, thats always gets me), and tells me it was nothing and that it was just a stupid fling. I love him soooo much buti dont know if i should forgive him....... SOMEONE tell me what to do
Thanks for your help
x
2007-07-18 03:23:40 · 15 answers · asked by Danielle W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please tell me you already know the answer to this. Just because is is away on "holiday" that gives him the right to disrespect you, your relationship?
If he truly cared about you he would not have done this, holiday or not.
You deserve better, and I would drop him so fast his head would spin, and not take even one more text message or phone call. That will show him just what you think of his "holiday fling".
2007-07-18 03:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danielle, as you can see by the previous answers, that most women think you should forget him and the guys think you should forgive him. Just make up your mind on your own. If you decide to get back together with him and he does it again, how do you think that will make you feel. Believe me, second cheated on a second time after you found out about the previous one and forgave him, is so much harder to get over. Make your own decision!!
2007-07-18 03:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends, cabn you trust him not to do it again. If my bf did it to me personally it would be the end of us as i couldnt trust him again an knowin that he could do that while im not there means he could do it again an i wouldnt take the chance of him hurting me twice. At the end of the day if you think you can trust him an this fling he had wont come up in arguments an you can forget about it then yes forgive him but if not then dont forgive him
2007-07-18 04:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by lilhails 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something tells me you know in your heart what the answer to your question is. Maybe you just want to know how many people agree with what you already know you will do?
In my opinion, no one deserves to be disrespected in this way. If it was the other way around, would he forgive you? What would he be saying at this time? What if the shoe was on the other foot?
2007-07-18 03:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by BS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's suggesting that since he was on vacation and the only "unavailable" ?? one, it doesn't matter as much that he cheated on you.
HUH? Cheating is cheating. Of course he's crying now because he's back and she's gone and he wants to go on like nothing happened. "Flings" run relationships into the ditch all the time. To say it was nothing is disrespectful to you and with that attitude, he could just leave so you could move on.
2007-07-18 03:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long u guys been together? is it worth it? ummm i agree.... YOU are the only person that knows him... NOONE else! so U better make that judgement.... if he's REALLY sorry and he means it... then give him another chance... i personally believe in 2nd chances... well.. if does it again... let him go to hell! cuz he doesn't deserve a decent lady like u... goodluck
2007-07-18 03:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Gospel of John bankruptcy 20 verses 22-23 tells how Jesus gave the apostles the flexibility to forgive sins. everyone who rejects this additionally rejects the Gospel of John. Jesus became speaking to the apostles while Jesus stated to them: receive the Holy Spirit. in case you forgive everyone's sins, they are forgiven. in case you save everyone's sins, they are retained. Jesus Christ empowered the Church with the flexibility of the Holy Spirit to forgive sins. That present is somewhat recorded in the Bible. The Catholic Church is the unique Christian church and by using apostolic succession the flexibility to forgive sins is recent in the present day in all Catholic clergymen. it somewhat isn't in straightforward terms sparkling sacred custom, yet additionally very sparkling in sacred scripture. Jesus had to offer us a vogue sooner or later to have our sins forgiven. The crucifixion became all that became necessary as a sacrifice, however the grace of forgiveness of that stunning adventure is prolonged to human beings individually and individually for the duration of the sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation. while a sinner confesses his or her sins to a Catholic priest, and the priest absolves the guy of his or her sins, that individual can expectantly understand that he or she is unquestionably reconciled with God. Jesus gave us this sacrament to enable us to have fun with this forgiveness in a private and exhibit way. i'm Roman Catholic. Peace be with you.
2016-09-30 06:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by merkl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he needs to grow up.You deserve honesty.How do you know he hasn t lied about other affairs?From 38yrs on the planet,I know thw correct answer is no,but its up to you!Don t be upset,I know its hard,eddie/67
2007-07-18 03:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by EDDIE/67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an old quote and I will paraphrase: It is easy to find a man who has always been faithful to his wife and it is easy to find a man who has been unfaithful to his wife many times. It is hard to find a man who has been unfaithful just once.
2007-07-18 03:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ken D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl...if he did it one time, he will do it again. If he really loved you so much, he would just have looked and walk away...but he didn't...so show him the road...you deserve better.
2007-07-18 03:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋