My mother & I had a rocky relationship all my life. She was dying of cancer, and I visited her every other day for 2 years to help take care of her until she died in her bed Mar. 8, 2001. I was not there at the moment she died, at 2:08pm it was my "off" day...The dreams of arguing & fights are of situations that DID NOT happen when she was alive. She is very vicious in the dreams. She was vicious semi-regularly in life...
2007-07-18 03:15:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Dream Interpretation
Dreams are funny in that they are the mind's subconscious way of dealing with unresolved issues in our real life. You probably have unresolved issues with your mother. You may even unconsciously feel guilty for not being there when she passed. No one will know exactly what these dreams mean, but keep in mind that your mom is now at rest. You should put your mind at ease.
2007-07-18 03:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my dad when I was 23,-- April 18, 2001... and every dream I have of him is one where I am fighting with him, or at the least VERY angry with him. I wake up very upset. (we had a great relationship when he was alive, never fighting.)
I think part of the reason is that we are still angry that our parents "left" us... even if it wasn't their fault. I wish there was some way I could come to a "peaceful" resolution of this, as it's really getting annoying, and I just cannot seem to shake the bad dreams. I'm sorry that you're experiencing it too.
2007-07-18 03:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by oh_what_a_wabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading your info and looking at these answer, I can see there's one thing that hasn't been mentioned, and is probably the most important thing: Abandonment.
I think we can all agree you have unresolved issues with your mother. Worse now, because she's not there to answer your questions and you're obviously very angry and have questions that need to be resolved. You've even gone so far as create imaginary scenarios just so you can argue and try to find a resolution.
I think the most important question is, Why did you have to die before I could deal with you?
You're very angry, if you keep that inside it will eat you up alive. See a counsellor, they can help alot with this kind of thing.
Good luck :)
2007-07-18 04:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by lilykdesign 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that, 6 years doesnt seem that long does it?
I would assume that its unresolved conflict and things that were not said that still urk you and sadly never will. It will pass. Takes a long time, but does, find a good friend with a lot of patience and talk about it, or find a shrink that pretty much lets you do all the talking and get it all out, the sooner you bring up the issues, the sooner you can let go of them.
2007-07-18 03:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this dreams have a direct relation with what you lived with your mother. It seems to me that you were a good son who supported her through her sickness.
My sister died 10 years ago and I still dream about her. Sometimes we have fights. But this happens to me mostly when my I'm under a lot of stress or having big problems. Last time I broke up with my boyfriend I dreamed a lot about my sister. I think that what you dream is a reflection of what's going on with your life. For some reason in this "movies", characters take the form of those who are closer to us.
So, don't feel guilty about your mother. Look at your life and ask yourself is something is making you unhappy. And take this dreams as a message to take action. Be happy.
2007-07-18 04:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by mariposa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my mother is still living but i can see where if she were to die before me, having dreams of arguing or fighting. even though you loved each other throughout life circumstances occur. forgiveness doesn't. i want her to acknowledged wrong doing, to own it and to apologize. because right now, deep down inside, i have resentment towards her. i can't help it. I've tried to overcome it alone. when i think of the horrible memories growing up, i briefly live the hurt again. i have to tell myself that I'm no longer that little girl and it will not happen to me or anyone else in my family.
2007-07-18 09:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably suppressing your true feelings about your relationship with her. The best thing to do would be to write a letter, and tell her anything you want, then put it by her grave or bury it somewhere that makes sense. It would make you feel better and I promise the dreams will stop.
2007-07-18 03:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have unresolved issues with your mother. Try writing a passionate letter and then rip it up and say you forgive her otherwise you will never be able to move on and the pain will becom more intense with each passing year
2007-07-18 03:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Versatile101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you never have gotten closure on allot of issues you both had while she was alive. One of two things accept and realize what is done is done. Be true to your feelings Try not to hold guilt in anyway towards this. Guilt is a useless emotion.
2007-07-18 03:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by krennao 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the stress of it all is still in the back of your mind. There were probably some unresolved issues before she died that you wished you could get out.
2007-07-18 03:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋