I work in a building with a reception area. There's a lady in reception who is constantly looking at me, constantly glaring at me. I'm only a temporary staff, we've had no arguments or anything. What gives? She's significantly older than me, but very slim and very well dressed. Could it be a jealousy thing?
What can I do? It's starting to get to me - I get someone like this in every office I work at.
2007-07-18 02:49:23 · 14 answers · asked by tilly 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've caught her staring at me - that's how I know it's not me causing it. I get a sense when someone is, and she was. She also has this attitude towards me, like she knows I'm only a temp so I don't know the ropes, but she still gets on my case for not knowing...
She's just odd. Maybe she's just taken an instant dislike to me - she wouldn't be the first! Even though I'm a nice person =(
2007-07-18 03:20:50 · update #1
Barbara B - brilliant answer. I'd not thought of that. You're absolutely right - I do the best I can with my job, she does not hire me - I do not even work for the same company as her so she's no right. I always dress smartly, so really, there's no reason for me to worry about her is there?
2007-07-18 03:53:14 · update #2
i had the same issue when i started doing my practicum for my social work degree!! i was volunteering 2 days a week for a few months and a woman who worked there was probably 30+ years older then me and would always give me attitude and wouldnt even call me by name..she would call me "2 weeks" because i wasnt permenent. she went out of her way to prove that she refused to learn my correct name (is Jennifer THAT hard to learn? i mean seriously) and when i spoke to the boss about it he told me that she doesnt have a degree and never went to college..she was threatened by me being there because i had more knowledge than her in the field. she saw me as someone who was going to take her job because i was college educated and she wasnt. she held my education against me even though the boss wasnt gunna replace her with me at anytime. she may be worried u are being brought in to take her job...just be as nice as possible and dont give her any reason to have a problem with u..kill her with kindness!! even if she continues to be rude at least others will see that because if ur so nice then SHE must have a problem...good luck
2007-07-18 04:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by jennybean7985 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your Temp Service - and ask for advice as to whom to report this within your client company.
It may be something this woman is hired to do - keep an "eye" on temps, etc. OR it may be something she has appointed herself to do. Either way, it makes you feel uncomfortable so it needs to be reported. Ask your Temp Agency to discuss this with their client and get back to you as to what to do about it.
You may have to call the agency again and point blank ask what they have to say about it. They have a legal obligation to make sure you're comfortable at work. If not, then you can report that branch to the parent company.
Of course, at all times, dress and act as a fine representative of your Temp Agency and all will be well.
2007-07-18 03:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. She's just insecure and thinks someone younger is going to get her job. And many older women have been taught to think of all other women as a rival. My mother is this way - she dislikes almost all other women on principal.
If it really starts to bother you, start glaring back and see what she does. Five'll get you ten she stops. Older woman are also many times afraid of real confrontation.
2007-07-18 02:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she stares at you, just look at her and ask "Did you have a question?" - it might embarass her enough to make her stop or it will at least know that you are aware. You may have to do this a couple of times before she gets the message that it bothers you. If she never gets the message than just ignore her. Don't stare back - it just makes you seem as strange as her.
2007-07-18 03:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to the temp agency that sent you there. Just explain that you feel uneasy with the situation.
Your other option would be to approach her yourself. Just ask her (calmly) if you have done anything to offend her, tell her that you feel she's picking at your work and all you want to do is get on with your job.
Don't let her intimidate you, after all jealousy can rear it ugly head anywhere. Good luck :-)
2007-07-18 07:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know EXACTLY how you feel, but with me, it's my boss who sits 8 feet from me, he turns his chair and just sits in front of my desk and stares. i asked for help on this subject here on answers, everyone said the same thing...stare back, make eye contact.etc... but none of that works, plus it made me feel uncomfortable staring back. so the only thing i could think of was to buy a plant and put it on my desk and try to block his view. it sucks having someone do that for most of the day, i hate it . i wish i had some advice for you because i makes for a very long day. at least you know someone shares your problem. good luck.
2007-07-18 03:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by yesiamalesbian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the wonderful world of temping. if you plan to temp for a while, you can expect more of the same.
I would engage her, but try to do it in a non-confrontational way:
1) when you see her staring, smile and ask a question like "how's your day going?"
2) when you see her staring, smile and say, "Oh, I'm sorry. I zoned out for a minute. Did you need something?"
2007-07-18 04:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 19:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she's "glaring" at you? Maybe you remind her of someone, or has the thought crossed your mind that since you are seeing her look at you, that maybe she thinks YOU are staring at her and therefor she is staring back at you? Just a thought......
2007-07-18 03:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start staring at her, if you notice that she is looking at you then look at her, its not rude for you to look back at her but it will probably stop her from looking at you, if you really want you could even be obnoxious about it like she is, or you could just approach her and tell her that you dont like it
2007-07-18 02:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by camo4213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋