The guy I have been dateing sense Feb mentioned marriage before a year I called him on it and he said he was jokeing but why bring it up? Also when should we? Should we even move in together? We took a break for a month because he was acting insecure
2007-07-18 01:51:05 · 15 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most women work on the three year plan
Date 2years / engaged 1year
or
Date 1 year / engaged 2 years
2007-07-18 02:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I dont know if your religious or not...but im sure people wont like this answer...but...I think that you should live with the person for at least a year before even thinking about marriage! You learn all of their good an bad habits...and will be able to tell if you will be for each other in the long run. It is hard to hide secrets when you live with someone also. So, if there are any lingering you will find out what they are...and in the end be able to get to reallllly know each other. If you are both still head over heals and feel you are right for each other then go ahead....if not then obviously you are not right for each other. Getting married that quickly is ridiculous! You guys barely know each other. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?
2007-07-18 09:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by JesseNevaehsMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He brought it up becuz he is an idiot, he probably thought u wouldn't take it to heart & knew he was making a dumb joke. On the other hand, the guy must really luv u otherwise he wouldn't even mention the word marrage.
U should get married when u know it's wut u want. I think it's WAY too soon to be discussing it, wait at least a year & 1/2. And ifur relationship grows, than maybe u should move in together. I beleive it's good to move in w/him b4 u get married, u can get settled & not have to worry about wedding arrangments & everything, plus u should see wut it's like to live w/him b4 u make anything final.
If he is acting insecure i wouldn't mention marrage at all until u know u both r ready, no use in rushing things.
2007-07-18 08:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound very stable to me. Why do you want to marry someone that brought it up as a "joke"? You can't take a break from someone when you're married every time they feel insecure. Moving in together before you're married might sound like a great idea but believe me you'll find that even if living together was fine, things change when you're married and you have to share finances, bills, and every inch of personal space. Nothing is "yours" anymore. These can either be very good things in a good relationship, or they can be volitile if the relationship was on shaky ground to start with. Wait until he's serious about getting married to ask yourself these questions. It sounds like he may never be.
2007-07-18 08:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Holly :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tHERE IS NO SET TIME MY DEAR. yOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOUR READY. yOU NEED TO ANALIZE YOUR FEELINGS ON MARRIAGE AND MARRIAGE TO THIS PARTICULAR MAN.
How do you feel when you think about him and spending the rest of your life with him? Can you imagine your life being livced without this man? Or do you look into your future and it is hard to see it without him in it?
When that happens then you know he is the one. But I do believe maybe you need a little more time before you make any irrational decisions that you may regret later. So wait until you feel it is the appropriate time, but if you can invision your future nd you dont need him in it then I would suggest you not take the proposal..
But this is only my opinion as many others have. Just remember only you know what is best for you.
2007-07-18 08:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can be the judge of when the time is right. When you move in with someone, it is almost always trial and error anyway. As far as marriage goes, maybe you two should discuss that when he has matured some. Joking about taking such a step shows that he is not ready.
2007-07-18 08:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u should not move in together cause he is acting insecure.u r suppose to be the one acting insecure not him ,he is a guy .u two may get marriage when both of u are ready to give up bachelorhood.
2007-07-18 08:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by celestia ck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way for you to know is to really talk to him about this, I can't answer this question for you, listen to your heart and your mind and do the right thing.
For me, I met my husband in October, we were engaged in November and married the following February, and we have been happily married for fifteen years.
Talk to your boyfriend about this and see if he was and is for real, after that, you should have your answer, and if nothing feels right, then do not do it.
We can only offer you our advice, the rest is up to you.
2007-07-18 08:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact of the matter is you should both wait untill you are both ready for the comitment, there is no point getting married or even thinking about it unless you are both prepared to take the step. look for signs in him that would sugest he wants to marry
good luck and all the best
2007-07-18 08:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by ox3443 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get real.. and get to really know this person or you will be making a huge mistake, You already broke up once??Marriage.. living with someone is a huge commitment.
2007-07-18 08:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by hollie s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋