How to deal with gossipers and hypocrites that you have to deal with on a regular basis?

Question

I am ignoring them but it is just Tooo annoying?

Answer 1

do just that....ignore them and just keep thinking to yourself that you are so happy that you aren't sucked into their drama.

then, find someone that you can confide in and unload every now and then. i unload on my husband all the time!
sometimes people can just stress us out and tax us and we can't avoid them, so we just take time to vent our frustrations for a few minutes and then we smile and take a deep breath and say, "whew, i'm so glad i got that out!....moving on...." and then we change topic!

take care:)

Answer 2

Hi,
Wow, everyone had a good answer,, and my answer is i need to take a deep breath, and not rush into conversation, or responses too quickly.. I do know that if i am a victim of gossip, i really feel hurt , yet, when i have engaged in gossip, i have became so involved, and at the moment, i feel like i really have a point to make etc,, when actually, the truth is, gossip is for the weak, the hipocrites,, and it is as tempting, as a frosty mug of beer on a hot day,, or "iCECREAM" however, i also know that when i had the "ugly spirit" in my company, and i justified my point of view or theirs, all along, i was disappointed in myself.

Lets face it, not many people would say "KEEP YOUR OPINIONS TO YOURSELF," or give a great big sermon about "judge not", THROW THE FIRST STONE, ETC,
When i hear anyone critiziing, or saying unkind questionable statements about someone i am close to,,i usually say,, oh my..they have nothing but good things to say about you".. THIS SEEMS TO DEFUSE, AND SOMETIMES REVERSE.. THE VERY STATEMENT THEY JUST SAID..

I am not proud of being a gossiping or being petty.. i know that ii am guilty of such chatter, and really,, all i know is i am aware,, reallly aware of conversations with persons about other persons, and i do catch myself,, and i really avoid that social witch hunt,,

Answer 3

Depends. Ignoring would be one way to keep it cordial. But...if it's too much and you're around, just call them out on it. Most people don't like to hear the truth and atleast you'll offend them enough to not want to be talking their crap around you. Then you won't have to be annoyed and they can go whisper somewhere else.
Like if they...Oh...so and so is such a skank i can't stand her and this and that...but you know when that person is around, they are okay, you can say something in front of everyone, well, if she's such a skank, why do you talk to her all nice when she's around? Or call them out infront of the other person. So and so...(Jack) had somethings to say earlier...didn't you (Jack)? I know it's mean, but hey! once they get called out they'll be more reluctant to talk around you. Which is really what you want anyways, cause you won't be able to fully change them. And does it really matter if they start talkign about you?
OR you can be nice and drama free and as soon as they start on their sh!t talking, you just walk off. Leave. I work with many women and not all gossip, but just to stay away from the streamline I keep to myself when I see them all huddled up. They dont' say anything about me and we can work happily ever after.

Answer 4

That depends. If they are gossiping about me, nothing because then at least they think enough of me that I'm the topic of conversation and I can handle it. If they are talking about somebody else, I simply just ask if they know all this to be fact and did they either see it or hear it from the source. If they respond by saying "no I got it from .....". Then I tell them I'm not interested and to please keep their comments to themselves unless they have actual facts otherwise it's just gossip and I don't want them to be known as a gossiper.

Answer 5

Just tell them to please gossip out of your site. You've tried to ignore them but it's more than you can handle. And that you'll appreciate it.

Keep it simple and polite. They should understand.

About the hypocrites, you're just gonna have to learn to live with it. There's nothing you can do. They are everywhere and there's nothing you can do to change that or them for that matter.

Answer 6

I've been known to ask gossipers, "How do you know all this stuff?" I've been known to tell hypocrites, "Well, that's a bit hypocritical, don't you think." Then. when they ask what I mean, I'll remind them of what they said or did. I had one person tell me, "You know what your problem is? You remember all this stuff & then you throw it back in people's faces." I told them, "when you criticize others for things you're guilty of yourself, ya darn right I'm going to throw it back in your face."

Answer 7

Gently grab them by the wrist, look them square in the eye and whisper,

"Please don't gossip anymore. I like you too much as a friend, but I won't be able to trust you if you talk about everyone...you might talk about me when I'm not around. Let's stay friends, instead."

Answer 8

you could do something REALLLLY outrageous so that the have something to talk about and leave everybody else alone for a week or so.......
Or really

just avoid them unless you have something to say to them about your job... otherwise just be polite and don't say anything unnecessary to them..
If they say something to you about someone else... tell them that you don't think its appropriate workplace discussion and cut them off... without a willing audience... they should start leaving you alone.. (except for calling you stuck-up..)

Answer 9

Just keep ignoring them and remember this:
The most rewarding things in life are always going to be hard to achieve. Persistence is the key.

Answer 10

When you deal with them, keep it just business. Otherwise, make sure you're too busy to associate with them.