Is it a game for him?

Question

I've recently started talking to a guy from MySpace.I knew of him before then because we went to the same school ,but we never talked then. We talk everyday now (by phone or send each other cute little comments on MySpace) but we live about 30 minutes apart and we work during the week so we don't get to see each other until the weekend. He tells me how much he likes me and a few months from now he sees us being serious. He asks me to call him more often and how much he thinks about me during the day, but I can't help but feel naive about this. He has other females leaving him "naughty comments" and he has a lot of females that he adds to his friends list and I can't help but think that he is all mushy with them too. I don't know if I should let things get too serious and this weekend he wants us to take his child and mine out, but maybe that's not a good idea. I'm a little skeptical about taking my son around him, I feel it's too soon and this may all be a game to him.

Answer 1

Son? Still in school? Even if its colleage, trust me when I say that romance is cute, nice, sweet, but is only part of love, it isn't love. I say this because of the way you say he acts with you, cute, nice, sweet, all hocky dory if your in highschool and without a kiddo, but you shouldn't treat yourself to the same mistake twice. I'm not saying with the same type of guy or anything its much more complicated, and yet simpler. Its about the depth of the relationship. I'll tell you that, you coming on her, and asking this question is a big warning sign in its self(you did the right thing thou, but shows that the fear, insecurity, the lack of understanding him, is scarin you enough for action) this is love. Love is just accepting feelings, and your trying to accept him. But you taking this on here shows that the level of communication is such that your unable to truly relate your worries, concerns, feelings, fears, and possibly even fantasies, hopes, dreams with him comfrontably, your wearing a face in other words, tisk, tisk.(We all do! Even me here, just requinizing it, is a good idea.) Ether way with this light happy relationship your instincts are right not to take it to deep waters to soon. And trust your gut enough to know that if it tells you, you need to check something out, check it out, talk to him, tell him about these things, ask him about it, and if your still concerned about him, drop him. Internet is not the best mediam because it so hard to be truly deep with out the sound of your voice, plus so much easier to lie. Even on the phone isn't a good medium. But just rememeber this if anything, friends can become great lovers, but lover can't become great friends. And unfornutly seems you guys are already starting out as lovers, and by the fact your here, lossing out on the friendship....