ok, here's the deal. I've been talking to this beautiful man for over 3 years now. At one point in time(a couple of months) we were intimate, but we did not fully seal the deal. This man is waay out of my league, im am overweight and he is stunning...not a flaw on him. Now he has a girlfriend but is still contacting me. I couldnt fully commit to him when I had the opportunity because I knew that I wasnt good enough, what did he see in this chubby girl anyway?? Now though that he's taken i've gone after him full fledge because I know that I cant truly have him. It makes no sense to me, it's frustrating and confusing but I dont stop it. It's like it's safe or something..I know it's wrong..please advise.
2007-07-18 01:16:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First I must say that you shouldn't be so harsh on yourself - clearly you made a good impression on him, and looks aren't everything.
It's natural for us to get jealous and angry when we see someone we care about be taken from us. It's kind of that "you don't truly care about it until it's gone" kind of mentality. Just be careful that you don't ruin you relationship with him - if anything, perhaps try to maintain it (meanwhile I would explore other options in case) and if was to break up, then that gives you a good chance of seizing that opportunity.
Perhaps i haven't said what you wanted to hear but that's just one idea. Perhaps you should continue trying real hard to get this guy - if that seems like the right idea, then go for it!
2007-07-18 01:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U had the opportunity but u threw it away because of a complex. Did u not know that love is blind ? I have a feeling the chubby girl is not stupid enough to throw away her opportunity. She may nuture and make her lovers love grow steadily. It is going to be very frustrating and confusing, but u can still try, but do it with a cool, calm and relaxed mind.
2007-07-18 01:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a 'boyfriend' and see how he likes that. Make SURE you go on plenty of dates, don't pick up the phone everytime he calls, and brag about how great a guy he is when it comes to your relationship's busy and exciting relationship. With he's big third leg. LOL!!
2007-07-18 01:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Carinangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's taken now... You just have to play your position as a friend. If he breaks up with his girlfriend, then make your move... But until then, you just need to wait because it's your own fault for letting him go.
2007-07-18 01:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want him if you know its wrong ?What is wrong about something you want? Contrary to what U believe You can have anyone you want...Please don't ever think you can't ...believe in yourself!!A man who is a good man will not look too hard at your weight ... be confident ...Go get him if you want him,.....
2007-07-18 01:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was giving you a chance but now he is taken as you said back off if you break them up he will resent you for it
2007-07-18 01:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have thought you were tight, if ya know what I mean.
2007-07-18 01:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by badunkadunkhunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a homewrecker!
2007-07-18 01:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it, you're only making it difficult for him and yourself.
2007-07-18 01:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Show him how great you are in bed and her is yours.
2007-07-18 01:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋