kissing and engagement TO ALL RELIGIOUS PERSONS (e.g Consevative Christians, Jews and Muslims, Hindu, Budhist)

Question

TO ALL RELIGIOUS PERSONS (e.g Consevative Christians, Jews and Muslims, Hindu, Budhist)

im guy and engaged.

in planning to have a romantic kiss of the lips of my fiancee but im worried if i will regret it afterwards.

1. what are the dis-advantage(s) of kissing my fiancee BEFORE our marriage life?


2. what are the advantage(s) of kissing my fiancee DURING ONLY our marriage life?

3. Please give me the best reason(s) to avoid kissing my fiancee BEFORE our marriage life?


Note: the advantage(s) or dis- advantage(s) could be in terms of emotionally, physically and spiritually and moral character values.

thank for your answers in advance :)

Answer 1

i think it is crap that you put this for only religious people...prejudice starts at home...don't forget that...when you exclude one group of people it is so much easier to continue to do that...i think you should work on your own issues before you think about involving another person by marrying them

Answer 2

I apologize for the uncouth rudeness of some.

I see no disadvantages of kissing before marriage, in fact I see advantages of it. It would probably make your heart more full of love for her, since kissing is so beautiful and intimate. It need not be hot and heavy, 'cause that can easily lead to sex. To be on the safe side, avoid seclusion.

If you want to abstain still, then do so. If this is that big of an issue within your belief system, perhaps abstaining is better. You wouldn't want to feel guilty, so get married and enjoy after the wedding sans guilt.

Best to you!

P.S. I can sort of relate, 'cause when I marry, I don't want the kiss in the ceremony. Kissing in front of my dad and other family members and friends? How embarrassing! That's such a private thing, I want that between myself and my husband only. It's too beautiful and personal to display.

Answer 3

I was listening to WRMB 89.3 it's a Christian station that broadcast here in South Florida. They did a segment on dating and what to avoid, physically. You're welcome to email them and ask them directly. I'll provide a link to their website below. They said when you so much as hold hands you're giving away a part of yourself. At first glance I thought that was kind of silly but as I thought about all the times I held hands with a guy, I did give them a piece of my heart. I know it sounds silly but I never thought it would have such an impact. So much as holding hands can be a very intimate thing. It's your call ultimately but like I tell my son, save himself for his wife. Give to her what no woman on earth has ever had. Now I can't say I never kissed anyone but it is a stronghold and I sincerely recommend you pray about it. Take care, congratulations and God bless.

P.S. I've also included a link to Focus on the family with James Dobson. You're welcome to email them with your question as well.

Answer 4

according to Islam:
1] you are not supposed to even touch any girl except your wife and of course your mother and sister and your aunts and your mother in law....but not the cousins....
the prophet said that it's better for a man to a needle being stuck into his head rather than touching another woman....
2]so there's no advantages of kissing your fiancee as it's not your wife yet....nothing but satisfying your pleasure..but with committing a sin....

3]the advantage of saving yourself for marriage because it's soo sacred connection..so it has to be special and it will be more special if it will be your first time to be able to touch and kiss each other,it will be a memorable moment.....

Answer 5

Depends

If your not religious, then there are no disadvantages at all and the very question is absurd, the more kissing the better. However if you are religious, then it depends on the silly religious code as to whether you will feel guilt or not.

I recommend you dump religion and never ever associate sex or romance with religious demogogery again, that is, if you want to be mentally healthy.

Answer 6

A kiss is a kiss.It doesn't really matter when you do it.Are you must be either a Hindu or a Muslim?(I doubt if a Christian or a Jew would be so conservative)

Answer 7

Islam allows to see each other once
Engagement is not the assurance, that both of you are going to be spouses definitely. No one knows what is going to happen next.
Would you like to marry some one whom someone else had kissed during engagement and were not married later on?

Answer 8

Donna and Ant T Christ hit it dead on. In addition, retards like you do not need to be thinking of marriage. Marriage only leads to kids, and we all know that we do not need more religious zombies like you re producing using oxygen that could go to someone that actually wants to have a life.

Answer 9

I don't think that there are any instrinsic disadvantages, but if you/your culture frown on such a thing then maybe you shouldn't. You'd probably just feel guilty, not enjoy it, and then think less of your fiancee.

Answer 10

When you marry a person you are saying to them that they are the only one who has the right to have physical contact with you. If you are in the habit of giving yourself to someone physically before marriage, then it makes the covenant of marriage almost meaningless in that respect. Allah (God) knows best.

Answer 11

Bro, if both of you are honest with your intentions, love and cherish each other more than anything else, its for the both of you to feel comfortable doing it.. Ain't got nothing to do with religion here.. God know our intentions better than anyone else, so it's up to you guys do decide.. Don't confuse a beautiful thing between two beings in love..

Congrats anyways...