Hello. I'm 24 and my partner is 32. We live in seperate houses at the moment. I do not see him on Monday and Wednesday nights, and this is purely because he needs to do his own thing on these nights. I catch up with him every other night and he sleeps over. Is this strange? What I mean is, is it unusual that he does not want to spend time with me every night?
2007-07-17 23:51:24 · 18 answers · asked by Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please let me know if you want me to post extra details. He is not ready to live with me at the moment. Thanks
2007-07-17 23:53:05 · update #1
We've been together seven months.
And it was MY idea to not see each other Monday and Wednesday.
This is not a trust issue.
2007-07-17 23:57:55 · update #2
I just told him that we would spend monday and wednesdays apart, because I know he wants space, and I just want a routine to my life. But I want to spend all my time with him, and wish he felt the same way.
2007-07-18 00:02:29 · update #3
yes I agree that he uses these days to sleep/catch up on work etc, but how is he ever going to learn to live with me, if he needs to be alone to do these things?
2007-07-18 00:12:27 · update #4
girl, it's normal to want to spend all of your time with your BF. but you have to fight that impulse. soon, one of you will get tired quickly and you dont want that happening... every other day is good. this way, you can grow and mature without depending or stunting each other. you'll have more to talk about if you spend times apart, share more experiences, know more things to try together.
it's unhealthy to be together all the time unless you're married. even then, it's good to spend time alone. you have to grow as an individual :)
also, it builds up the excitement. this will work for you :) it's also not good if he knows you're ALWAYS free for him, he'll think you have no life. that's kind of a turn off.
I'm sure there are things you want to do alone, here is your opportunity. :)
I'm sure he misses you as well and there are times when he wishes you're together more often. But its normal for him to want space. You should too. Your relationship is normal.. :) Space. Believe me, this is the secret of many relationships (even mine!) :)
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2016-10-21 21:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me that does not seem unusual. That is somewhat like my dad and his girlfriend used to do. He probably has Monday and Wednesday to just hang out with his buddies, catch-up on sleep, work, or whatever. Don't probe and ask him to many questions though, you don't want to seem like you don't trust him! Just drop a little hint that you would like him to stop by on one of those days if you want to.
2007-07-18 00:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving each other space is a good idea. It makes the time that you have together more special. The relationship has not move to the serious stage yet, so this is great.
2007-07-18 00:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think time and space on your own is important but I wonder what it is he does on Monday and Wednesdays? Is he flexible about these nights ... or is this rule set in concrete? Do you spend nights at his house?
2007-07-18 00:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's almost what we did in the beginning of our relationship. We saw eachother from fridays till tuesday morning and did that for almost a year and then start living together.
It's good to take time for yourself when it's the right time for the both of you then you will we be sharing one house. Don't push it.
2007-07-18 00:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think somethin is wrong because he doesnt see you every night. Guys need to do their own thing sometimes...whether its hanging out with his friends, wants to be alone, etc. Your relationship sound just fine. I mean ideally I would love it if my man clinged on to me 24/7, but thats not gonna happen. I think your relationship is just fine,,,so no worrying!
2007-07-17 23:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this before and the days he isn't with you he is with someone else and i meet a woman the same way and that what she was doing and i wouldn't be in a relationship that calls for certain days to be seen or too call. And this is a usually called a booty call.
2007-07-18 11:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i dont think this is unusual. Not a bit.
I think this is a very organized relationship. If you keep this up, as long as you dont hate it, then you life is gonna be like heaven.
God i wish i can a relationship like that.
2007-07-18 00:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy is fair enough if he is giving you 5 days of his week and asking for only two days to sort his things.
2007-07-17 23:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋