How can i stop being rude to girls?

Question

Hello, i been rude to alot of girls in college...For Example when girls want to talk to me i just dont respond back and when they say hello i just walk off becuase of my shyness. they think that im not interested but i am. they tried they best to gt closer but i keep moving and i want to stop being rude.
I do really fancy them but i dont how to stand up front of them.

13 days ago 1 of them hold my hand and i put my hand bk and that was rude.

???????????????????????????????????????????????

Answer 1

Now peggy, be nice would ya, the guy's just shy, he's not immature. He's looking for help at least shows he can think before he act, right? Alright, here's the thing, just look at yourself first, i'm not sure why your self esteem is low but it might have to do with your family havn't given you enought love and affection, that has alot to do with a man self esteem and ego. Another thing is, feel good about yourself, i mean if girls are approaching you and try to hold your hand, good lord, that means you have gotten something that they desire and like. Which mean you should feel good about yourself, build yourself esteem, walk straight, chin up, feels like a million bucks, talk loud and clear, like a man that you should be, make yourself more desirable than before. Be polite when you speak to a lady, don't look at their mouth, don't look at their breast, don't look at their figures, look straight into their eyes, that way, it gives them a feeling of truth and trust, which cause them to pretty much not loose interest in what you're saying. Also, take up something to learn, mayb a guitar lesson, a piano lesson, perhaps some thing that can make you more of a feminine side. Tell you the truth, majority of girls, even though they don't know it, but the actual they want from a man is they want their man to be another girl with a penis. When you learn these things, you're exploring the feminine side of yourself, no, you're not gonna be called gay, if they do call you that, feel free to rip their face apart. Well, that's pretty much I can re-called, but if you have any question regarding situations and how to deal with them, here's my yahoo!messenger screen name, it's nguyenvinhvx, make a real account and add me up, talk to me, I've been well in and out of this quite alot, and i've feel my share of pleasur eand pain, and I've actually help a good number of people getting through their relationships, resolving issues, all that. So let me know what I can do for you. It's not my job, it's my life, love is my life, love is what i would love to see for everyone. So let me know, good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, I don't think that you are being 'rude' so don't so hard on yourself - you are just shy and this is something that you can work on! Try to think of all the reasons why you might currently not be wanting to interact with these girls. Is it because you are nervous about rejection or are unsure of what to say? The truth is that even for the person (boy or girl) who makes the first move, there are still nerves and a bit of fear with 'how is that person going to respond?'. Maybe the first interaction you could make could be on a phone - this might give you a bit of confidence as you won't be face-to-face. Getting to know someone means that you have to open yourself up and be prepared to share yourself so think of things that you find of interest (e.g. a band, a hobby, a book, a movie) that you could talk about and also try and find out about what the other person likes & interests are. Start with baby steps & don't try & force yourself to immediately overcome your shy nature. Finally - remember that without risk there is no gain to be had. That should be motivation enough for you to start taking steps to overcome this!

Answer 3

1. the first thing you should do is to be confident about yourself and get over your shyness.

2. next is you don't have to be rude to girls especially if they not doing anything that will offend you. but if if you are still shy, at least be gentleman enough to avoid them.

3. lastly, you are pressured because you think that all these girls are expecting something from you. don't think it that way, you might be surprised that most of these girls maybe just need a friend to lean on to and they think that you are qualified to be their friends so don't close your doors to girls.

goodluck

Answer 4

just stop being shy ... sure it's hard but the first time only .. ok try to pick a girl and go for her and start a conversation practice on that and you will get over it good luck

Answer 5

i know it is really hard when you are so shy. but the best thing to do is get up the nerve and ask one out. it may take awhile to get used to doing that but your life will be better becuase of it. if you can't bring yourself to ask someome out get a friend to set up. good luck

Answer 6

WOW!!! ur shyness is gettin the best outta you. that's not good! if you keep acting this way, slwly the girls are gonna stop comin to you and you'll be left all alone. not to mention ppl thinking ur gay! TALK to the girls!

Answer 7

be confident! thats all it takes for you not to be shy=rude.. set your mind.. just be yourself... if someone tries to talk to you.. chat with them.. think of them as one of your buddies.. someone you can talk to easily..

what you did was rude.. why not try to hold her hand now with you initiating it.. it might boost your confidence and lessen the attitude of being rude...

Answer 8

Think of it this way, would you act the same with your mother. If not, then be nicer to them. good luck

Answer 9

All you have to do is to smile. And that is all that required. You don;t have to do or say anything else. Just smile, that's all it takes.

Answer 10

If you don't grow up, you will be living a very lonely life!!!