Asking boyfriend about STD's/HIV???????????

Question

Ok im gonna try killing two birds with one stone!
First of me and boyfriend have been together 6 months (both 18) and i'm thinking of having sex with him. He's never pressured or even asked me for sex but we both love each and it's what i want to do (i'm a virgin but he's been with slept with a couple of girls!).

1) How should I go about asking him to have these tests done for me (i’ll have them done too), how would you word it without him taking offence or anything? I’ve just gone on the pill and don’t really like the idea of using condoms (although still probably will use them)!

2) What’s it like to get these tests done because I’m scared of needles!! Can you get the HIV test done by a mouth swab or anything?
-Do i still neeed to get STD test even thought i'm virgin?

Thanks for your input, guess i'm just bit nervous bout asking!

Answer 1

I would make a "date" of it. Tell him that you are going to go together, and get tested together. That way you aren't "accusing" him of anything and he won't take it that way. Tell him that you are both starting with a clean slate, and that is the way every relationship should start--no secrets, no lies, and no unfulfilled promises. If he loves you this should be no problem and he will happily accommodate you. And if he DOES have a problem with it I would think twice about having sex with him, as that should be saved for the person that is worthy of you, your body and your love!

I have been tested for all STD's, each time I switched a partner....to be safe! Each time they were all blood draws. Here are some tips when they are taking the blood.

1. Talk to the person doing the blood draw, about anything EXCEPT the procedure.
2. Don't look at the needle
3. Don't look at the tube when the blood is being drawn
4. If it helps take your bf in when they do it.

I promise it won't be so bad if you do these things. The only "pain" is the initial little LITTLE poke when the needle goes in.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 2

"Honey, um...I would love to have sex with you...but um...I really want us both to get an HIV test...you know....just to make sure everything is alright".
That's how I would say it.

I think they do use a mouth swab in like this "mini" test, but to make an absolute confirmation, they might need some blood from you.

It's best to check up on your body even though your a virgin. Remember, you can still get an STD through oral sex.

Answer 3

Not too sure about the tests involved but I think you will need to have a blood test done for hepatitis and hiv testing, urine sample (or swab) for chlamydia and not sure what specimen is needed for syphilis (I think blood serum) but your doctor will tell you what is needed. Seeing as you are a virgin you probably won't need tests done but it doesn't hurt to get checked out while you're there (you said you'd have them done too). If he really loves you and respects you I don't think he'd have a problem having them done to ease your mind. Best of luck!! And good on you for being responsible and sensible about your body!!

Answer 4

This is YOUR body. Don't be intimidated. Just tell him, I need us to get tested so we both can have peace of mind. Insist he wear a condom whenever you do have sex each and every time.

If you are grown enough to have sex, you can handle a needle stick. You probably don't need the STD check if you are a virgin (no oral, no nothing), but do it because you are asking him to do it. Shows good faith.

~Best

Answer 5

you could get the hiv test done by mouth swab, if its available in your clinic. since you are a virgin you probably dont need a test but you can go ahead to make sure. you never know you could have caught it from dirty dental tools or soething. this way if you catch it from ur bf you would know its from him . seocndly dont be shy tell him " IM not a slut im a virgin i dont want stds and we need to get tested before i do anythign with you " dont ASK , TELL !! u dig?

Answer 6

Just to get it done. Tell him that before you agree to have relations with him, you want to be sure that someone has not infected him with any STD's. You would not probably need a test, but it would not hurt in case you were ever exposed to any infected blood on an open wound, or if you have ever used intravenous drugs.

Answer 7

ive never had the test done. just say hey i think you rae the one i would like to lose my virginity to, but i am feeling a little nervous because you have been iwth other girls. i was hoping you would understand if i asked youto take a test for stds it would meant eh world to me. just ask him.

Answer 8

smart girl!!!! i give you props for that!!!! just tell him and if he really cares about you then he should have no problem doing it! if he won't take the tests for you then he's not worth your virginity!!!!!!!!! tell him you'll take the tests as well and explain to him that you'd rather be safe than sorry! most people can relate to that!!! he should respect you for feeling this way!!!

Answer 9

You should wait for a guy who is a virgin too, I have a feeling if you do this with him, you will regret it.

Answer 10

you dont need a std test if your a virgin unless one of your parents have a std.
and just have your bf/ where a rubber and you both should be ok