Is She Cheating or am I Paranoid?

Question

Every since I started dating my Girl Friend I have this instinct that she is seeing someone esle, But I feel that my instincts could be off, She always tells me that she talks alot about me to her friends and feels that we have an amazing relationship, However, When I visit her she seems to change the bed sheets all the time (at least about 4 times a week) and today for instance I phoned her and she was at home, we where having a good conversation until the gate bell went off, she said that its just one of the guys that live there and must have for gotten his keys, But straight after this, she became very abrupt with me as if she really wanted to stop the convo and she hastily put the phone down... Im not sure what to think, we have been dating for 2 and a half months and im not ready to carry on if she is. And if she is how do I approch her to find out the truth without upsetting her ? any Ideas are welcome

Cheers

Answer 1

I don't think you have any evidence to suspect her of cheating, she may well change the sheets because she's a clean person! Re the telephone maybe she was abrupt with you but that may be because she had a visitor to deal with - I think you just need to ask her to be honest (not outright) just tell her how much you care for her and confim it's an 'exclusive' realtionship. I'd ignore the 'dump her' comments as you have no reason to at the moment and you could be wrong. Instincts aren't always right - you may be a little insecureand that's why you don't trust her. Talk to her before you decide anything.

Answer 2

Sad to relate, in 99% of cases I looked at, when a partner had some instinct cheating was going on, they were right !
If you really feel you have long term possibilities with this girl, then for your own peace of mind, I think a little checking is in order.
Arrive early than intended at times, - or say you you are busy, but park around the corner and keep an eye out, if she has a mobile phone you can access, check calls made/received, or even look at flexispy
Yep, I know a little snaeky, but as I say, if you really believe you may have a future with her, best to find out now just how loyal she is-

Answer 3

Changing the bed sheets is normal.. I do that.
If you guys have sex then she probably isnt confortable in sheets that have had sweat in them.
As for the phone call, maybe she thought the conversation was just about over anyway, and because the guy came home she might have wanted to talk to him about something, or didnt want him listening to the conversation.

I just think you're overreacting and need more proof of her cheating than just "she changes her bed sheets" and "one time she ended the conversation"

Honestly, you're being paranoid. If she talks about you to her friends and thinks you have an amzing relationship then she clearly likes you. She wouldnt be bothered being sweet to you at all like this if she was cheating and no longer interested.

Stop worrying hun xx

Answer 4

maybe she is just a little shy at talking on the phone when others are about, and shyness can sometimes make you sound abrupt. with regard to changing the bed covers, i wouldn't read anymore into this other than she is a clean person.

why not suggest a weekend/week away and she how she responds to this, if she has something to hide, she might not be to keen on the idea ?

Answer 5

Are you talking about sydney e? have a look at her latest question.

personally I would ask her if somethings wrong - after the phone call today you want to check things are ok. say you know somethings not right and rather than not trusting her, or being suspicious you want to sort it out sensibly.

if she goes off on one - she's cheating on you and is p'd off she's been caught
If she listens and you talk and things get resolved or questions are answered - then good luck to you in your more open relationship

Answer 6

With a girl like this, you will always feel like she is cheating.

Find a girl who doesn't make you feel this way and you will be a lot happier.

It doesn't matter if she is cheating or not. It's weither or not you have to wonder about it that matters unless of course, you just don't care.

Maybe you could just have an arrangement where you could both see other people and still see each other. Win-win.

Good Luck

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Answer 7

just be straight about it, ask her, that these are the things you've been noticing (list them out just like you list here), you're just worried and wonder if there is anything wrong, is she ok? is she in any kind of trouble of somesort, or is there something you can do to help? stuff like that, this would put you in a better position as a "caring boyfriend" instead of "a hawk watching it's food", and don't ever mention about her cheating on you, cuz that pretty much just tell her you don't trust her, so keep off that.

Answer 8

It sounds as if she is cheating but at least she has the decency to change the sheets between men.
Why worry about it? Provided she is not financially demanding and does not inconvenience you by altering arrangements, enjoy the time-share and walk away with a clear conscience when you get fed up of her.

Answer 9

If you're having this much doubt after 2.5 months it's time to quit while you're ahead and accept this is going nowhere.

Even if she isn't cheating changing your sheets 4 times a week is not normal behaviour and probably suggests psychological problems, it's also not good for the enviroment and you wouldn't want to date someone who was killing the planet!

Answer 10

Who cares if she is cheating. Enjoy being with her. You don't own anybody. Be cool and if she is, it might be you she chooses, this is if you love her and feel totally emotionally connected. I have been in the same position and think I am going to get rid of this man but in reality I can't, so be realistic about how you feel and what you can actually do about it.