A good time to say "I Love You"?

Question

I have fallen in my with my boyfriend,( i'm 20 he is 23 ) and i've wanted to tell him but haven't because i am afraid to scare him off or that he doest feel the same... anyways the other night he sent me a text when he got home from my house to let me know he was home safe... and he says i'm home safe, thank you so much for being with me tonight! i am a truely lucky guy, i'm blessed to have you, YOU are amazing.

would this have been a good time to bring up how i feel? i mean i definately dont want 2 do it over a text messagei want 2 do it in person or are there questions i can ask him 2 kind of get around it 2 see if he feels that strongly about me also? he's a shy guy, very very respectful just an all around amazing guy, and ive fallen hard we have been "seeing" each other since march.....officially been together since beginning of may. i know not very long at all, this is why i'm scared I know that it is love and not lust. He is coming by tonight and i want 2 discuss it, help!! :)

Answer 1

It is still a bit too soon in my opinion. I would be scared away if a man told me that after only a few months of dating.

Answer 2

Im a firm believer in saying what u feel.. coz u may regret it! If u say it.. & it scares him off then he obviously doesnt feel the same way & u then have to question whether he likes u enough to continue ur relationship!
Altho.. to avoid panic.. maybe try testing the water with " I think im falling for you!" see what he says.. ur not admitting too much.. but u are letting him know u have strong feelings for him!
Even if u decide ur going to say it anyway.... dont pressurise him to say it back! When i finally told my partner... i had to wait for weeks before he actually said the words back.. but in that time I got countless texts saying how much he wanted to be with me & cared for me.
Either.. go for it...at all costs or test the water.. either way is good!

Answer 3

well it all depends just ask him how he feels about u, u dont have to necessarily ask him staright up if he loves u tho and dont ever do it in a txt ask him in person like u said there are ways of getting around asking that question ya know! but that was real sweet that he told u he is blessed to have u apparently he must like u but i would never say that u cant tell someone u love them to fast i mean i fell in love w/ my b/f w/ in a couple of months to so im not going to be a hypocrite ya know! and weve been together for almost 3yrs now its pretty crazy!!! but yea sry got off subject but just talk to him dont come out and just say ask him questions and how he feels 1st then if its the right timing then tell him :0) -k- let me know the good news :)

Answer 4

I was in the same situation as you. I wanted to tell my bf I loved him, I even had to catch myself a few times when it began to come out on accident. But in the end, I was afraid to scare him off too, so I waited for him to first tell me. Actually not too long after I wanted to tell him, he told me.

If I were you, I would wait. Because guys don't like to feel trapped or anything. I'm not saying you are doing that, buy you know guys are weird about the word "love" lol. I'd wait.

Answer 5

look. the best thing u can do right now, is think.
Is he really the guy u want to spend the rest of your life with? I mean, could he be the one?
Can u see urself walking down the aisle with him? If he said that the other night then im sure that he's waiting for it.
Wait a second. You said he's ur boyfriend. How can he be ur boyfriend without knowing that u love him??

Answer 6

i believe you feel strongly about this person, but don't say i love you so soon thought you want to so bad, just tell him passionate things such as, you put a smile on my face, thinking about you just put a smile on my face, i've fallen for you, but keep away from i love you, if you hve the urge to say it, say it afte you say these things i listed above. Think of it like this when a person hear "i love you" it's like they reach the top of all pleasure sensation, and then if you're keep saying it, you're gonna end up overdosing them, and they're get off it even sooner than you think. Giving them those wet, juicy but mellow line will build them up to the top sensation, and once in a while, give them the i love you, oh lord, they're gonna love you like there's no tomorrow. Lol, trust me, I've learned this the hardway....multiple times sadly. Good things come to those who waits, just dont wait to damn long. ^_^.

Answer 7

2 people who think the other is amazing....sounds like love to me.Anyway you re both young so dont expect to find TRUE love first time round and what against LUST...only when you have experienced want-yous you will recognize I LOVE YOU,just try it.What about this official-stuff...nono you are not officially boy/girlfriend yet BUT you could be TONIGHT.He doesnt seem so shy to me......his textmesage said it all...,just tell him to whisper it in your ear AGAIN and then whisper it back

Answer 8

Give it six months at least before you say anything like that. Most relationships don't make it past then. If yours does and you still feel the same way, tell him.

Good Luck

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Answer 9

be patient sweety
don't rush it out
just let him know that you do care about him alot by listening to his problems & being there for him & the faith will lead the way to the right moment

Answer 10

aww. i wouldnt know...my scence i relation ships got ruined....i feel like crap.....i had my first kiss on the first date,,and i didnt want to but i didnt know if it was to odd not to! lol

do what your heart tells you.
ive learned that the heard way....

((from being stuck in a abusive relationship))